Is It in The Mother’s Nature to Be the Emotional Character in the Family?

When it comes to the perfect mother, the most important thing to consider is emotional support. Even if the basic needs regarding practical care and the material living conditions are perfectly fulfilled, the child needs an effective and safe environment, in which he can develop freely and can express his emotions.

The mother is the emotional figure, the one who offers warmth and love, especially in the conditions in which some fathers are either too authoritarian or not involved in raising children.

It is in the mother's nature - at least that's supposed to be the case - to be the emotional character in the family, the one who puts others above personal needs.

Thus, the perfect mother must love her children more than anything else, put them first and constantly show them how important they are. A child who does not enjoy affection will have trouble expressing his emotions and feeling sincere and affectionate for others.

If the father is usually the one who imposes rules and sets limits and sanctions, a perfect mother must be the one who sits and explains to the child the need for these rules, why they exist and why parents sometimes have to behave more harshly with him. - for his good!

A mother-child communication is essential in its harmonious development, and adequate communication cannot be made without respect. Thus, the mother should not treat her child condescendingly, in the style of "we know why it is better", but to give her respect, to start from the premise that the little one can understand the rules, once explained.

There has been talking in other articles on the site about how some parents manage to make their child feel like a pet, unimportant, unquestioned about decisions, and not involved in them.

No matter how small he is, he must be made to feel that it matters in making decisions, especially since they affect the whole family life! Thus, a perfect mother will never forget the two essential coordinates (apart from love): communication and respect!

We can also talk about another quality that a perfect mother must possess: intuition, the quality of knowing instinctively what the child needs, what he feels and what can be done to help him. In many mother-child relationships, when a problem arises, the mother seems to have a sixth sense that signals that something is wrong!

This intuition also comes from the famous female intuition, but especially from the empathy between the mother and her child, from the intimacy of this so natural relationship.

Speaking of communication and intuition, especially when the child grows up and goes through certain changes that can cause fears (starting school, moving to another stage of education, changing school, moving to another city, falling in love), the mother must be able to anticipate these small dilemmas in your child's life and prepare him or her to face them. How?

And the advice is good, but what children understand best and work is their example: all a mother has to do to make her child feel better is to tell him that she, too, has been in his situation!

To be a perfect mother, it is essential to be prepared for such a responsibility and role. The mother must not consider that having and caring for a child is a sacrifice but must consider it a personal fulfillment of her mission.

The child should be seen as a gift, not as an "accident" - even if his birth was not planned (fate may know better)! Thus, it would be best for a young woman to fulfill her personal and professional expectations before becoming a mother.

Related to this, a mother needs to be able to achieve a balance between her professional life and her family life! Although in the first years of the baby's life this is difficult - if not impossible  -  after he grows up, the mother must not forget his professional aspirations.

She can reintegrate without too much trouble into the field of professional life to fulfill her aspirations. Few women are satisfied with the achievements in family life, they need to be recognized professionally or they simply need an activity outside the family. Failures and dissatisfaction caused by a failure to fulfill professional aspirations seriously affect the person and make it difficult for him to play the role of perfect mother!

Another idea: a perfect mother must be able - this after getting used to her role as a parent - to create a balance (albeit precarious) between her duties as a parent and her free time! This can be done with the help of a husband, parents, or by hiring a nanny.

A period in which the mother has time only for herself is essential, it prevents the appearance of fatigue accumulated in time that can turn into total exhaustion. A restful mother who has had time for herself and her favorite activities is more involved, more relaxed, more open in her relationship with the child! No matter how important the baby is, it doesn't have to take over the mother's whole being!

A perfect mother must never forget her role as a wife: no matter how much she loves her child and wants to give him everything and everything, she must remember the other important person in the family: her husband!

This is for the health of the marital relationship, but also the child's development: he needs to see a harmonious couple model, he needs to see his mother and father happy together, to feel in a safe and emotional environment. A distant or tense relationship between parents also affects him, even if not directly.

Finally, the essential qualities to be a perfect mother can be summed up: to show love and affection, to offer support even if it is not explicitly requested by the child, to anticipate the difficulties that may be encountered in certain periods ( for example, when school starts) and prepare the child to face these difficulties, to dedicate himself to the child - but not to the point of forgetting about herself and her husband!

One conclusion can be drawn: a perfect mother is a happy mother!