Challenges

While promoting the love of men and women and allowing non-Christian relationships to enter into marriage legally, the Church also reminds its children not to forget that, in family life, they face many challenges:

a- On the sustainability of marriage: Our Vietnamese father said, "The marriage of a husband and a wife falls to the South Sea," to say the importance of family well-being, especially between husbands. The way you say chickens say ducks, the family can't its own good. Marital affinity is more than just a set of decisions that involve realities of the world: investing, choosing a husband-in-law for your children, educating your children... But there is a much more important reality that is spiritual life. True, family life is not always a path full of roses, but it can be said that a couple always faces the challenges of life, both storms and anxieties. Faced with challenges, a couple feels helpless, tired, and religious belief is a lifeblood. But in circumstances where religious beliefs don't go hand in hand with a couple, it's really a matter of dispute. For example, on Sundays, Catholics want to go to Mass in order to fulfill their life of faith, but non-Catholics plan to take the whole family out, the seeds of disagreement begin to be sown; or disputes in inter-religious worship, how can the duty of a bride and a bridegroom be saved without going against the Catholic faith? Whether or not your children are baptized according to the promise? Many problems arise between two different beliefs in the life of a couple, and it is hard to imagine when you combine to form one body, but in that body you are opposed to each other in terms of religious beliefs. The result of that opposition is the disagreement that makes the life of a husband and wife heavy, which leads to a lot of quarrels and then the common marital life is slowly broken.

b- On the life of the faith of the Catholic: Although in the promise of marriage, the Catholic party promises to be faithful in the life of faith, it does not promise to respect and create all conditions for the Catholics to live fully in their faith. The commitment is, but in fact many couples have canceled the commitment. In today's secular world, faced with the flow of selfish enjoyment, and the promotion of idols such as money, it is true that the faith of the Catholic in the environment of an isolated family, the living example of his faith, the reminder of his parents, has been shaken and has finally lived far away from the Christian faith.

Yes, when a young couple is in love, it's a beautiful dream, but when they enter into marriage, the beautiful dream breaks down like a drop of fog in the morning when the sun rises. Pope Francis said: “It is only when faced with everyday coexistence, a life that requires couples to sacrifice themselves and each other, that some people realize that they have not fully understood the marriage they have just begun. And they find themselves inappropriate, especially when confronted with the magnitude and value of the Christian marriage, with the specific aspects connected with the indissoluble character of the sacrament, the openness to the gift of life and the faithfulness to one another”[4].

Therefore, the pastoral service of non-confessional couples is always the focus of pastors, who seek to help their family life to be happy and good. But what's important is, first of all, to be with the young. Therefore, it is to be hoped that young people will always learn the right thing about the person they love, and be serious when deciding to proceed to marriage with a clear sense of responsibility.