6 Steps to Overcome Relationship Jealousy.

Jealousy is natural and often, it is good. It helps us to avoid situations that could be dangerous, like cheating or betrayal. However, sometimes people can feel extreme jealousy that can result in unhealthy thoughts and actions. Whether we’re jealous of a partner's ex or we can't stand the idea of our partner spending time with another person, these feelings come from insecurity and lack of trust.

It's important not to let jealousy control you and your life. If it becomes too difficult to handle on your own, speak to someone who can help you figure out how to overcome this feeling for good. Here are some ways to overcome relationship jealousy.

Put the jealousy in perspective

Before you try to overcome your feelings, it's important to understand why you are feeling this way.

Are you jealous because the person is an old flame? Are they spending time with your partner on a regular basis? If so, there are things that you can do about it.

The first step would be to try and put the jealousy in perspective. Put yourself in their shoes or imagine what kind of life they might have had. This will help you avoid making assumptions about their intentions and give you more empathy for them.

Learn to cope with jealousy

If you are feeling overly jealous, there are ways to cope with it.

You can create boundaries in your relationship. If you have a partner who is not being trustworthy or may be cheating on you, this is very important. You should set up rules for the both of you to follow if either of you wants to date someone else.

For example, some couples will agree that they won't hang out with anyone they used to date unless the other person approves it first. This is a healthy way to avoid any issues in your relationship.

You can also create trust with your partner by talking openly about how they feel when they are around their ex-partner or when they are hanging out with friends. Discuss things like what happened between them, if anything happened at all, and why they are still friends with them now.

If you can't reconcile your feelings, being jealous is not healthy for either party. You should talk with your partner about how best to handle this situation together before things spiral out of control.

It's important that both people feel comfortable talking about these topics before jealousy starts to come into play. These conversations allow partners to understand each other better and put any concerns at ease before an issue arises later on down the road. Fighting jealousy head-on takes time but is worth it in the end!

Deal with triggers

People feel jealousy in different ways. Some people feel it when they see their partner hanging out with someone who's more attractive, for example. Others might feel jealous when their partner spends time with their friends or family.

It can be hard to avoid triggers that make you jealous, but these are the moments when it is most important to do your best to stay calm. If you're triggered by seeing your partner with someone else, try not to lash out and tell them how much you hate them being around other people. In fact, it's a good idea to ask your partner what they think about spending time with this person and why they enjoy hanging out with them.

Supervise your partner's activity

If you're feeling jealous of your partner's ex, make sure you supervise them when they talk to them. If you can't get a full grasp of their conversation, try to find out who the person is and what they do.

This will make it easier for you to feel like your partner would never cheat on you because the person they're speaking to is not interested in dating them. This will also help alleviate any feelings of guilt that may arise from distrusting your partner.

Be mindful of your mental state

Sometimes, it's not the other person who is making us jealous. It's our own thoughts and behaviors that are causing us to feel this way.

In this situation, we have two choices: We can either change our thoughts or improve our behavior. If you want to be more mindful of your thoughts, consider practicing mindfulness meditation. If you want to improve your behavior, consider making a plan with your partner about how you'll spend time together without other people.

Don't over-share on social media

If you find yourself constantly checking your partner's social media, you might want to put down the phone. Social media is a great way for people to share happy moments—but it can be dangerous if someone is constantly posting about other people in their life.

Social media gives everyone an opportunity to live vicariously through others. If that's not something you're comfortable with, then avoid over-sharing on social media. This way, you can't feel jealous of what your partner is sharing on their profile.

For example, if they are constantly posting about how much fun they are having at a party without you, turn off notifications from them so you don't see the posts. Accept that sometimes, it’s just not worth it.

Sometimes, it may not be worth the pressure you're putting on yourself and your relationship just to get rid of that feeling. If you feel like you can't control it or get over it on your own, try to accept the feeling and work through it.

If you find yourself obsessing about what's going on with your partner, this may be a sign that you need professional help. While professionals can't give in-depth advice over email, a support group in a similar situation could be a great place to start. You can also consider reading the book "Relationship Maintenance".