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10 Things I Wish I Knew When I First Became A Mom

As a first-time mom, you might be feeling overwhelmed and unprepared for the emotional, physical, and economic changes that come with taking care of a new baby. I remember these feelings well. I also remember how much better it would have been to know the following 10 things before my daughter was born...

By Phong OG Published 4 years ago 4 min read

If you're a new mom, you're not alone in feeling like there's no way to know what's coming. Especially with everything that changes in the first year, it can be hard to keep track of everything.

That's why we've put together this post all about 10 things moms wish they knew when they became moms, complete with practical advice on how to handle each for yourself for your baby. This post is perfect if you just had your first child and are looking for answers on where to go next.

Or if you've been a mom for awhile but are still struggling with what it really takes to be the best parent possible. Even if you're a mom to several children, it can be hard to remember what it's like to be in your first few months as a parent.

No matter where you are on the parenting spectrum, you'll find useful information and tips here. To get great advice that helps new moms, and experienced moms alike, see below.

1. Bonding With Your New Baby Can Take Time

New moms feel a lot of pressure to bond with their newborns right away. And while it can take time to form that strong bond with your baby, there are ways to make it happen faster.

One thing is to provide more skin-to-skin contact. This helps parents form that attachment with the baby and help them intuitively know how their own bodies work.

2. Set Firm Boundaries

When you're experiencing a mild baby blues, your first instinct is to get over the feeling quickly.

But it's best not to worry about your feelings too much. Instead, try to practice self-care for yourself so that you're able to give good care for your child at the same time.

That way, you can also provide high quality care during those times when it's best for your baby.

3. You Can't Do It All

When you're new to the parenting thing, you might think that you can do all the things your baby needs.

But many new moms will find themselves wanting to do more than they can actually do.

That's why it's important to keep a realistic look at the duties that go into being a parent.

And if you're starting out without other children, remember that having more hands-on help may be necessary at times.

4. Don't Worry About Everything

They say you shouldn't go crazy when you first become a parent. And it's true.

There's no need to worry about every little thing that could go wrong with your baby.

Instead, just go about your day normally and take care of the things that must be done, like feeding, bathing and changing diapers.

Don't worry until there is something you can do to fix the problem.

5. Consistency Is Key

A new baby is a living source of inconsistency in any parent's life. This is true even for experienced parents who have several kids, but you'll find that it's even more true for those who are new to this.

That's why it's important to try your best to lead a consistent routine with your baby.

This will help you learn more quickly what works best with them and make caring for them easier.

6. Don't Compare Yourself With Other Moms

This is easy to do when you're starting out as a new mom. You may look around at other moms and feel like you're doing a bad job because their babies are better behaved, or they seem to be happier parents.

But the fact of the matter is that no child is alike in their care needs or personality.

So try not to compare or worry about anything else. Just stay focused on what you can do for your own baby and that's all.

7. Ask For Help

This is one of the hardest things for new moms to do, especially if they've never had kids before. But it's a fact that many new moms don't ask for help when it's needed.

And this can be a big mistake because there are times when you'll need that help.

So asking for the help that's available is important so you'll have more time and energy to focus on your baby.

8. Spend Time With Other Adults

Starting a new baby is challenging, especially if you're a new parent. That's why it's essential to spend time with other adults to talk about the stresses you're both experiencing.

This can be something that your partner does often, but you should also make an effort to do it yourself as well.

It will help give you both more perspective on what is going on in your lives and help you look for ways to improve yourselves as parents.

9. Cut Yourself Some Slack

While it can be hard not to worry when you're a new mom, it's also important not to put too much pressure on yourself.

You'll have times when you feel like that pressure is holding you back from being the best parent possible.

It's important to understand that while you may be a new parent now, experience will come with time and effort.

So try not to stress out over what you're doing wrong. Instead, focus on what you can do for your baby for better care.

10. Make It A Priority

Finally, this one is so simple and something that many new moms forget. Don't just assume that your baby's care will be a priority in your life.

Instead, make it a priority yourself and choose to do everything you can for them.

This is the kind of attitude that will help your baby grow before you know it.

So if you're looking for ways to get better at being a parent, just take it from us: put in the effort, time and care that's necessary.

In Conclusion

As a new parent, you'll be eager to make the best of every day that you have with your baby. But even with all your intentions to be helpful and nurturing, it can be hard to figure out how.

That's why it's so important to find ways to make parenting easier for yourself and your baby. You'll find that the process is easier with these tips and tricks in mind.

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Phong OG

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