True Dignity is in Submission.

We live in a world where arrogance is taken as confidence, ego is considered as self-respect, and being loud and disrespectful is seen as power. I often hear things like, "she said this in front of the teacher, parent, etc, she is not afraid of anyone, she is so cool." Is this the criterion of being cool? In this feature, some social problems are mentioned that I have noticed.

My ego is not weak enough to be hurt by talking first, taking a step forward, passing a compliment, being kind to someone, saying salam first, waiting for someone, or apologizing. In fact, it is strong enough to be moral, kind, a peacemaker, and humble. Maturity isn't about being egoistic and arrogant; it is about being humble for the sake of ALLAH. Whenever you get hurt or tired by being humble and kind, then remember your reward will be granted by ALLAH. You don't have to worry about people as they don't matter, yes, you are being good to people but it doesn't mean they will reward you for that, do it purely for the sake of ALLAH and trust me you will be at peace, just be what ALLAH want you to be and if you can't be that then try to be that. He will reward you for your intentions, actions, and endeavors. Some people mistakenly consider ego and arrogance as self-respect. For them, I would like to mention this HADITH:

Prophet Muhammad PBUH(Peace be upon him) said: "Whoever humbles himself for the sake of ALLAH, ALLAH will elevate his status."

All the respect is in the hands of ALLAH; whoever He wants, He grants respect, and whoever He wants, He humiliates. We don't even have to worry about our self-respect; if we truly trust Him, we have to walk on His path and do whatever He orders us to.

I heard that people think if we want people to value us then we should value ourselves first and their kind of valuing themselves is just thinking about themselves, no matter wherever they go they don't come out of their comfort zones, no matter you are the guest or they are the guests, they would disturb everyone in the room just because they are not ready to be out of their comfort zone. In my religion we are taught to respect other's space, to take care of the comfort of others, and not to disturb other's peace, Islam teaches us to compromise for others, and even if you don't value people in yourself and don't consider them worth of your effort then do it for the sake of ALLAH, He is worth of your efforts and He indeed reward you for that. Islam teaches us to be ethical and moral. Islam teaches us the manners and adequates of gatherings and personal interactions, we must consider them and act upon them.

Most of the people do wrong, support wrong, favor wrong, and think that it is right. They think that doing haram, like talking to opposite gender unnecessarily (being friends with them), cursing, not doing hijab, using inappropriate language, disrespecting elders, and teasing/bullying others is cool, literate, open-mindness, modern etc and when any elder or someone try to correct them they look down to that person and make them feel like they are illetrate and unmodern. In reality, they are immature and illiterate to think like that. You CANNOT justify what ALLAH forbade, no matter what you say to defend it; if ALLAH said it is wrong, then it is. Your justifications cannot make it right. Muslims should correct themselves. Islam is the most modern religion and code of life to have ever existed; it gave rights, independence, and protection. It is the first ever religion to consider mental health, to give freedom of choice, to define human rights, animal rights, and give rights, respect, honor, and freedom to women before any other law, government, or religion. Islam doesn't restrict us; it protects us.

Reset your standards and be careful of your admirations.