Rules and love in children's education

This happened the other day:

Our team went to the street to do publicity work, using the way to sweep the code to send toys, toys are also the kind of hand, so attracted a lot of children, but sweep the code this matter, most people are on guard, on the other hand, many old people do not have wechat, can not get. But we also have a plan, you don't have a mobile phone or can't scan but you really want, you can take your children to visit our school, as long as the school can also get the same gift (the school is less than one kilometer away from our promotion point).

Halfway there are part of the old lady and do not want to scan the code and do not want to visit on the continuous with our staff say good words to send us a bar, most of the explanation in our sincere said can understand even if, but there is a child, crying is not to go, the staff repeatedly asked me to say see baby crying so poor or send him a bar, I refused, But I also took the initiative to take our other smaller toy to him and also gave it to other children around who did not have wechat. The other children readily accepted it, and this boy still couldn't resist asking for a toy he liked. The child's grandmother from the initial good words into the last angry said to buy a, of course, we are not sold, finally around people also began to help say that it is a toy, it is not what before, just send him a, our staff afraid of this affect our image repeatedly told me to send a, I did not agree, Later, the child left in his grandmother's drag and pull, and when he went, he said angrily, we do not understand the flexibility, do not know how to flexible.

I was not angry, because I had encountered many similar scenes before this, and the most impressive one was probably last year when my partner and I almost broke up with a parent over the price of the class fee. Everyone said that at that time, it was such a big deal. As for being so rigid, you should be flexible. You won't be able to collect the money. Sometimes I wonder if I'm taking things too seriously.

But most of the time I think I'm right, and the good thing about all these years of sticking to the rules, making and following the rules, is that my class, the kids know and follow the rules, and the parents are willing to monitor the rules. Yes, rules are so important, they have so long future, this society rules more, the family can not always protect them to help them, leave the family no one can be willful, no one can do whatever they want, so sooner or later to leave the family protection, why not teach them these survival skills.

I believe that if I gave him a toy based on his crying, he would not be grateful and say that you gave me a toy and I would go to your class. Instead, he would think that if you saw that I didn't scan wechat, I would cry and also want your toy. Meanwhile, parents of other children would also think that they scanned the QR code for a long time to get the toy is worthless. If only I had known I would let my child cry! This compromise is not only a breach of one's own rules, but also a negative impact on the child, making the child who is willing to follow the rules feel there is no point in following the rules.

I believe that the parent who threatened me to give her a personal account by not signing up will not thank me if she succeeds. She will only think that our rules are cheap and there is nothing to follow, and that his children will also feel under this influence that all rules can be broken and all directions can be changed. Who, then, can protect them in the cruel society of the future?

Maybe then he will blame you, why did not discipline him when he was young, then what is discipline, one of the most important point is: teach by example, what you do, the child will learn. You'll tell him a lot of great things, but you'll always break them, and they'll all turn into jokes.

All rules are difficult and troublesome to implement at the beginning, but when people enjoy the benefits of these rules far outweigh the original trouble, they will feel that rules and regulations are good.

Rules are used to restrain people, but more often it is used to protect people.

For example, the selection of merit students needs the evaluation of several projects, such as university entrance exam needs a good score, such as the promotion space in the work... Home rules, class rules, school rules, factory rules, enterprises have enterprise rules...... It can be said that everything in the world has its own rules, we are born to adapt to a variety of rules, and all the rules are to be adapted to the amount, rather than rules can be changed for individuals.

For love, I am willing to love them without reservation, and for the rules, I will continue to carry out without reservation. The two are parallel without conflict. I hope all our children can become excellent in these rules, and I hope all our parents and friends can understand all the rules of the school and the organization, even if it is troublesome for you sometimes. But more often than not it is a direction for our children to grow up in.