My Hypnotherapy Clients Talk Too Much (What do I do?)

(Video transcribed) So what do you do with clients who talk too much? Well, if you’re doing the more traditional stuff, you probably told them to close their eyes and relax and you spend two hours just talking at them, which is not be very beneficial. How if you’re doing more of a therapeutic approach, something we teach in our ACH H training, which is I want to find the root cause.

I’m gonna have to do what we call a hypnotic interview. And I ask a question like, you know, what’s the problem? Or How is that a problem? And my client talks and talks and talks and talks and gives you conclusions and rationalization and conscious and unconscious information. Five minutes later they’re still talking about what they think their problem is.

How do you stop this and what do you do with this? Well, aside from learning how to decipher the unconscious moments, which is conscious and unconscious information, nothing that you’ll see by reading the script, nothing that you’ll be sort of taught more traditional ways.

It has to be a very certain way to learn therapy, especially in the way that we teach it. One way to interrupt your clients a very simple way is once you start to find the unconscious information, you can hear those unconscious moments.

You can hear the unconscious mind communicating to you through the conscious information that your client’s giving you on all the conclusions. You just have to politely interrupt your client. So again, here’s an example. I’ll be working with lawyers. Say, okay, great, so what’s the problem today? And they say, well Scott, I really want to quit smoking.

Okay, great. So what’s stopping you from quitting smoking? That’s a normal follow up question. And then they conclude, talk and talk and talk backwards, rationalizations, thoughts, memories, emotions. I think it’s this, I can’t quit because this happened in my childhood and this and visualization. When I start to hear the unconscious information, this is all I did.

I’d go, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Just stop for a second. Hang on. And I’d pause, which is an indirect way to say, basically shut up, pause with me. And I’d look at them sternly in the eyes. Say, okay, you just said this. You said you couldn’t quit smoking because deep down you really loved it.

What’s that about? And you can see I’m slowing down my tone, I’m pausing cause I want them to indirectly do the same. And I’m gonna ask that question. I’m gonna pick apart that information amongst the all 99% of the fluff they’ve told me.

It’s that one piece of information, that 1%, that’ll be the catalyst to take the direction of the session towards more of a big unconscious moment, which is unconscious information. So I politely interrupt, say, whoa, hang on. Whoa, wait, you just said this. What does that mean?

Tell me more about that. And say, well Scott, if this is this, this, this, now start talking again. And as soon as I hear that information again go, oh, he just said this. I might have to do that two or three times before they get the, the idea and what’ll start to happen, which is really cool. Indirectly, you’ll notice that they’ll stop talking so much, they’ll stop going through the fluff. They’ll slow down because you’ve slowed down. Okay, they’ll pause and think about question because you are doing the same. It’s just a big feedback loop. Big feedback mechanism.