Embrace your growing pains

When I was a child, I hoped to grow up, because I always thought it was good to be an adult, and adults who thought that children could not do it could do it. When I really grow up, I realize that childhood is beautiful. Because I don't know what real sorrow is. Growth is an inevitable process, and it is also a process full of hope and surprise, and of course it is inevitably full of pain.​​

Growth without pain cannot be regarded as growth in the true sense, because the meaning of growth itself includes pain. It is pain that makes a person mature. For example, a person who has never felt the warmth or coldness of human feelings will never be able to understand the delicate and complex interests between people. Another example is a child from a wealthy businessman or a wealthy family. Unless he has experienced the decline of Cao Xueqin's family, he will only feel that the friends around him are very good to him.​​

Growth not only refers to the increase in age, but also includes spiritual maturity. Attitudes towards suffering change as the experience of suffering increases, and as a result, differences gradually begin to emerge from person to person. Negative people are destroyed by suffering, positive people fight against suffering, and finally achieve success that is difficult to achieve in good times.

Life is a questionnaire with no answers, and pursuing it hard will not make things more complete. Maybe a little regret and a little sadness will make this answer more meaningful and longer. Pack up your mood, keep walking, miss the flowers, you will reap the rain, and finally you will reap your own beauty.​​

Simplifying the process of life is like pruning plants in winter, cutting off the prosperous branches and leaves, so that the plants can grow better. Every gardener knows that without such pruning, the plants in the garden will not be able to flourish for the coming year. In the same way, it is difficult for a man to be happy in his life if he is in a hurry and cluttered with unhelpful work.​​

When a person feels overwhelmed, he should learn to "subtract" and subtract some things that he does not need. Sometimes, if it is simpler, life will feel more at ease.

Simplifying the process of life is like pruning plants in winter, cutting off the prosperous branches and leaves, so that the plants can grow better. Every gardener knows that without such pruning, the plants in the garden will not be able to flourish for the coming year. In the same way, it is difficult for a man to be happy in his life if he is in a hurry and cluttered with unhelpful work.

The most effective way to simplify your life is to re-examine everything you do and have, understand what you want, and let go of what you don’t need.

There was such a metaphor: "What we have accumulated is like the process of amoeba splitting, constantly producing, multiplying, and never interrupted." And those constantly expanding items, work, responsibilities, Interpersonal relationships and housework take up all your space and time. Many people are so busy dealing with these things that they are already out of breath. They don’t even have time to eat, drink, or sleep every day. The result of desperate use of "addition" is to drive a person to the point of life disorder and mental disorder. At this time, it is time to use "subtraction"!

When a person feels overwhelmed, he should learn to "subtract" and subtract some things that he does not need. Sometimes, if it is simpler, life will feel more at ease.

It's like taking a trip. When one takes too much luggage on the road, before reaching the destination, one has already exhausted oneself. The only way to do it is to take the stress out of yourself, like removing excess luggage. The famous psychologist Jung once described that when a person enters middle age, it is equivalent to walking into the "afternoon of life", at which time he can look back on the past and look forward to the future. In the afternoon, you should go back and check whether the things you brought with you when you left in the morning are still suitable, and whether some things should be discarded. The reason is very simple, because "we cannot live the afternoon life according to the plan in the morning. The good things in the morning may appear insignificant in the evening; the truth in the morning may become a lie in the evening."

Maybe you have successfully walked through the morning in the past, but when you walk into the afternoon in the same way, only to find that life has become overwhelmed and obstructed, then it is time to throw something away!

Using "addition" to accumulate continuously is no longer the rule of the game. The meaning of "subtraction" is to reassess, rediscover, rearrange, and redetermine your priorities in life. You will find that in the next journey, because of the use of "subtraction", the burden is reduced, and you no longer need to carry heavy luggage, you can finally laugh freely!