A photo of a "transparent study" that went viral has blown up many people's childhoods

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Some time ago, someone posted on the social media platform that their house is being renovated.

Among them, a "transparent study" has attracted the attention of many netizens.

In the narrow study, there was a long desk facing a clear glass.

On the other side of the glass was the drawing-room, where people could look up and see what they were doing in the study.

In the comments section, the most liked comment was a joke about how someone would decorate their study in the style of an interrogation room.

Many people say that this is the home of Yingko in the TV drama Little Joy.

In the play, the mother has a strong desire to control her daughter. In order to supervise her learning at any time, she opened a hollowed out window on the wall in front of her desk.

Someone asked the poster: "Why is the study in such a mess? To supervise the children?"

The poster replied: "Yes, with the intention."

"One of the purposes of my window is to supervise children doing their homework," he said.

A stone stirred up a thousand layers of waves, parents this terrible desire to control, let the comments completely exploded:

"Really don't do it. A lot of people in their 30s and 40s are still seeing therapists because of this kind of childhood shadow."

"6. Treat your loved ones like your enemies."

"What did the child do wrong to this kind of family ah, not too expensive to see mental illness is it?"

In many typical East Asian families, the so-called "children's privacy", "children's personal space" does not exist.

"How suffocating is an unlocked door?" was one of the most popular searches in the past.

One girl posted about her high school room, and her parents took the lock off.

The girl could not bear it, so she moved to another room.

She is a senior this year. However, the lock on the door of her room was ruthlessly removed by her parents.

The girl said that her wish is very simple, is to have a room of their own, locked.

What's even scarier is that this isn't an isolated case at all. Thousands of kids have posted their door locks broken in the comments section.

What are parents so afraid of that they want to supervise their children 24 hours a day without even the most basic respect?

Children who grow up under surveillance, even into adulthood, cannot forget the feeling of being watched and invaded.

The insecurity of being on the edge of your seat in case someone bursts in at any moment can be damaging to your child's subconscious for the rest of his life.

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How far will this generation of parents go to drive their children crazy with their anxiety?

One parent proudly posted this video:

On Christmas Eve, before going to bed, the daughter hung two socks on the door with full expectation, wanting her parents to give her Christmas presents.

My parents filled the sock with several tutoring textbooks in various subjects, with the caption:

"I can't wait to see her face in the morning."

One parent captured his son's breakdown on video:

The son accused his parents: "Every time I take a 99, the first thing you ask me is:

How did you deduct one point? How did you deduct one point? Are you careless?

Never cared how well I did."

A parent-child reality show observation variety, a mother's approach is even more let the viewer feel out of breath.

Daughter obviously every test is the first three grades, awards and certificates to the number are countless, but in the eyes of my mother as long as it is not the first, these are worthless.

While her daughter was practicing in the dance studio, her mother was outside complaining to other parents that she wasn't practicing seriously.

When her daughter was corrected by the teacher, the mother rushed into the dance studio with a black face and publicly called her daughter out and reprimanded her.

After school, the child just sat down to eat a few mouthfuls of oranges and small cakes, when her mother came back and began to urge her to hurry into the house to do her homework.

And that wasn't all. She had to watch her daughter do her homework, saying,

"Why does mother work so hard all day? Just to pay for you, to make a difference.

Mother reluctant to eat, reluctant to wear, all hope is placed on you, hope you can be somebody."

See daughter always unmoved, she began to ask daughter side leg side study.

It was late at night, and she kept talking to her daughter. She was forced to break out:

"Are you so tired at work that you can talk to me? You come back every day to talk to me, I go to school is very tired."

As Madon says, "The scariest thing about parents is that they transfer their own growing anxieties to their children."

Afraid of children can't get a good school, afraid of children can't find a good job, afraid of children can't find a good object......

This anxiety drives them to interfere too much and pry into the child's privacy, forcing the child to be anxious with them, until the extreme.

But will the children who grow up in this kind of education really be happy?

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Do you know what is the most popular activity among primary school students now?

Disk string.

Yeah, like an old man with a string of beads in his hand.

Class plate, school plate, reading plate, homework plate, and so on dinner to plate a plate.

The media interviewed primary school students and asked them why they love skewers. The answers were varied.

Some say they can exercise their hands, some say they like to hear the sound.

And a lot of primary school students, to decompress.

They used a young voice, old tone said: "now we are under great pressure, are in the volume."

Yeah, is it even normal?

The word decompression is everywhere, but no one has ever reflected on why even primary school students can have so much pressure.

A teacher who has been teaching for decades sighed: I feel that this batch of babies after 00 has been abandoned.

For chicken baby, they have no childhood, no sports, a myopia, obesity cervical spondylosis lumbar disease.

After the age of 15, general weariness and depression, a lifetime of strength has been lost in childhood.

Heart bereavement, extreme envy of pig's life, the future will choose to lie flat in large quantities.

I was reminded of an 18,000-page post I saw a few days ago from a blogger living in Japan.

First graders at Hoku Kamakura Kindergarten learn to lie on the grass and roll around in the mud with their teachers.

Because there were many temples in Kamakura, the teacher took them to explore the temple every day. When they were tired, they would eat lunch in front of the Buddhist hall.

In spring, fly kites in the ancient temple, ride to pick strawberries;

Summer night, in the kindergarten courtyard to watch fireworks;

Take a walk to see the maple leaves in autumn, and then gather the dead leaves together to light the baked sweet potato;

On rainy days, I would play chess with monks in the classroom. The school would also occasionally organize to listen to the symphony.

In the school prospectus, the educational goal is not to learn how many addition and subtraction, how many words to master.

Instead:

"To develop communication based on love and trust, to have the ability to feel beautiful things, to express how moved you are.

It can convey joy to others and cultivate a clear and calm mind."

The blogger said that he felt very uncomfortable after watching the movie. He felt so blocked that he wanted to cry.

"Why are we so tired all our lives? I just want to grow up like this again. I just want to be loved like this again."

Yes, is it really too much to ask that we not want a childhood that is monitored and kept running, but a childhood that is unconditionally loved and exposed to the beauty of the world?

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German philosopher Jaspers said:

Education is one tree shaking another tree, one cloud pushing another cloud, one soul awakening another soul.

The essence of education is to teach a child how to live, not to drown a child's childhood with anxiety.

Can support a person's inner order is stable, not the score on the paper, but in the complex world, the ability to obtain happiness.

Hopefully, more parents can help their children grow up in an environment full of security, less excessive control and anxiety, and more company and respect.

Mutual encouragement.

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