A person so to you, seemingly indifferent, but actually love you miserably

Warren Buffett once said, "I was still reading Dale Carnegie teacher's classic books slowly at the age of 8. The sooner young people today read Dale Carnegie's classic works, the sooner you can get inspired in your life!" British media magnate Murdoch also said, "Dale Carnegie's type of norms are as astounding as a trick, and he has modified the fortunes and daily lives of 300 million people!"

Dale Carnegie is known as the "father of adult education" in the United States, and his book "Human Weakness" brings together the essence of his thoughts and the most touching contents of his mind, which is the author's most successful inspirational classic.

What makes this book timeless is Mr. Carnegie's profound understanding of human nature and its effective prescription for eradicating human weaknesses. As Carnegie said: "Only 15% of a man's success is attributable to his expertise. Another 85 percent comes down to his ability to express ideas, lead others, and evoke enthusiasm in others." As long as you keep reading it again and again, it will help you acquire the necessary 85% of the ability to succeed.

The Human Weakness" A person who treats you like this may seem indifferent, but in fact, he loves you very much

In the "Mischief Kiss", Yuan Xiangqin loves Jiang Naoki, which is a fact without doubt, no one can question Xiangqin's love.

Her love is passionate and straightforward, so passionate that she has been chasing him for four years, and there is no one else in her eyes for four years.

The first thing is that everyone knows she loves Jiang Zhongshu, and everyone doesn't see her and can't believe they will be together.

In the end, Yuan Xiangqin waited for her Mr. Jiang Naoshu and became what others call Mrs. Jiang.

Everyone thought it was Xiangqin's stalking that made this marriage happen, but they didn't know that Jiang Naoki's stoic and tough love was the reason their love began.

Naoki remembered her love for chocolate cake, knew she was clumsy and everyone liked to mock her; he also understood that she always had a tenacity, always had an inexhaustible energy, but liked to fantasize and was a fantasist.

Therefore, Naoki will face Xiangqin failed the exam and face the situation of not being able to graduate, righteously reproach her, will be when everyone mocked Xiangqin brain stupid, told everyone that the game development idea from Xiangqin, let those mocking people dumbfounded.

Perhaps, Naoki is very cold, he never actively respond to Xiangqin's confessions and advances, but there is no denying that he will give Xiangqin extra classes for college, he will give Xiangqin a blood test body, help her pass the medical exams.

The actual fact is that, in the eyes of outsiders and even in Xiangqin's own eyes, Naoki's indifferent behavior seems to indicate that he does not love himself, but in fact, as Naoki said, "She does not seem to understand how much I love her," in fact, he loves her very much.

So, a person's love is not necessarily to say that you love you all day long, sometimes it seems indifferent to you, but actually love you badly.

Sometimes it seems to criticize, but actually love you badly

Being criticized, a person will feel unhappy, let alone, criticize you or your favorite person, which will intensify our inner feelings of sadness.

So, we often fall into the emotional trap of thinking that the person criticizing you just doesn't like you, doesn't like what you say, doesn't like what you do, or even what you do in a certain action.

But in fact, when you think about it, behind some criticism is expectation.

The first thing you need to do is to get up and get out of the way.

Hearing Xiangqin's answer, Naoki put down his hanging heart and said with a serious face, "Who let you not pay attention to class, so you failed the exams, so you can't even get a diploma, let alone change departments and become a nurse."

I didn't expect to get a criticism in return for seeking comfort from him, but Xiang Qin froze and then retorted, "So what if I can't compete, I just have to be my Mrs. Jiang."

When he heard this comment, Naoki knew that Xiangqin's escapist thinking would eventually corrupt her, so he angrily retorted, and naturally Xiangqin couldn't say no to him, but felt aggrieved and ran away from home.

We all understand that Naoki's words are right and Xiangqin's thoughts are wrong, but the medicine is bitter and hard to swallow for Xiangqin.

Such a situation on our own, and not many people can get out of this thinking, advice is better than words, in the relationship, to be able to withstand the pressure, for the fact that the people who criticize you, is really want you to good people.

Sometimes it seems distant, but actually love you badly

In the relationship, the most taboo distant and cold, often such a situation arose, on behalf of the feelings of the rupture, the two sides of the same bed.

But, people are complex creatures, emotions are changing, sometimes emotions a head deliberately say the opposite.

Even to the uncontrollable situation, I know your suffering, I understand your compulsion, but the harsh words still came out of the mouth.

Xiangqin met some friends in the nursing department, among them was Keita, Keita is different from other Xiangqin's suitors.

In this group, he is a special existence. He makes Naoki jealous of Xiangqin. Somehow, Naoki gets annoyed when he thinks of Keita and Xiangqin together, but he can't figure out why, which makes him even more annoyed.

So, even with Xiangqin, he was distant, and he himself understood that Xiangqin did not like Keita at all.

It was not until later that he realized that he could not leave Xiangqin and wanted her to belong to him, but Keita's presence made him feel that Xiangqin did not belong to him and distanced himself with a self-protective mindset.

The fact that the always calm and rational Jiang Naoki behaves so perversely shows that Xiangqin can easily stir up his thoughts and emotions, and he loves her so much that no one else in the world can be like her, even himself.

Summing up:

Sometimes, people's actions and words are not what they really think inside, so it is said that earth is a practice.

There are many misunderstandings in the world because of this, obviously wanting you to go farther, expecting you to turn around in time and stop making mistakes, but the words they say are loaded with sticks.

The actual fact is that you want to live a good life with you, the years are quiet, but can not manage their own emotions, often you as an emotional garbage can, let you suffer.

Jiang Naoki and Yuan Xiangqin are happily ever after in a parallel space, and I believe that misunderstandings will eventually be solved, waiting for the flowers to bloom.

So, this book is the one that really teaches you how to improve your emotional intelligence, gain interpersonal experience, and explore human nature!

Human Weakness" is Carnegie's most successful classics in dealing with the world, and this book brings together the essence of his thoughts and the most exciting contents. It is a sincere work, and the theories of the whole book come from the real experiences of thousands of colleges.

As the author says in the preface, he has spent a great deal of time and effort in daily interactions, course professor and student interactions to gain interpersonal experience and explore human nature. I think this is what makes this book stand out from the vast number of books on human interaction that are full of theories.

So I recommend this book "human weakness", many readers who read it and put it into action, through this book, out of trouble, and some have become the world admired outstanding people.

Of course, in addition to "human weakness", let people benefit from a few books for life "sheepskin scroll", "Murphy's law", "ghosts", "wolf road", is also to let people fully understand themselves, and solve in addition to the various problems encountered in life.

For these 5 books, people's comments are as follows:

"These can be very good books, worth reading carefully, each book contains a very deep truth, is a spiritual aid in life, work, entrepreneurship."

Read "The Ghost of the Valley" to know that if you meet a pig, you don't need to talk to him about ideas because he is concerned about feed.

Read "The Way of the Wolf" and know that you don't tell your best friend your secrets, because a good friend has good friends too.

Read "The Sheepskin Scroll" to know that people who love to laugh will not have bad luck, because people who have bad luck cannot laugh at all.

Read "Human Weakness" to know that moods should be left to those who understand you, and feelings should be left to those who love you.

Read Murphy's Law to know that the person who teaches you not to trust anyone will always be the person you trust the most.

These five books combine the best of presentation skills, human weaknesses, and psychology, and are a must-read for bosses, businessmen, working people, and parents. The book covers a lot of classic cases, each with analysis and guidance, teaching everyone the rules of survival and wisdom strategies for people in the world, borrowing from the experience of the ancients, to take many detours.