Why Women Make The Mistakes Again And Again?

Mistakes are a part of life, and for many women, certain patterns appear to repeat, particularly in relationships. Trust me, I understand — I’ve made the same mistakes repeatedly. But is this entirely our fault? Hardly. I’m a woman, and I’ve seen firsthand how easy it is to get caught up in cycles of choosing the wrong person, investing in the wrong situation, or believing the wrong intentions. After my most recent mistake — a painful experience that forced me to step back and rethink everything — I embarked on a journey of self-discovery to figure out why this kept happening. I wanted to get back to a healthier, more confident version of myself, ready to face the future with clarity and resilience. And I’ve realised that I’m not alone — this is a story shared by many women all over the world.

So let’s get back to the basics. A study published in Scientific Reports discovered that women are no more emotional than men. The study’s authors stated that women have been excluded from research because they believe their ovarian hormones cause emotional fluctuations. However, women may express more positive emotions, as well as sadness and anxiety. This also brings up the point that men go through a lot during their childhood and may face many challenges in life, but they do not express their emotions as much. When they do, it is most likely in front of their peers, women they like, or any other female they are drawn to.

Women, on the other hand, when they are less practical and have unfulfilled aspirations due to childhood traumas or challenges, tend to open up in front of their mother, best friend, or partner. When two people with similar broken hearts, childhood traumas, or past challenges come together, they form a bond. The story begins with the woman caring for the other person in the same way she would for her child. And the man promises her that he will take care of everything she has been through in her life and make sure she is happy and feels the same way again. The woman now believes she can fix everything for him. She is confident that her love and support will help him overcome any obstacle. The story takes a turn when the man is impulsive, aggressive, violent, judgemental, abusive, naive, or most likely incapable of standing up for her. In addition, the woman may develop unrealistic expectations, desires, and commitments, or she may become insecure and possessive at all times. In this case, the woman believes she has given the man everything she has, but he does not reciprocate. This alters everything for the worse. She may now face mental torture, blackmail, violent breakups, and other forms of abuse.

The woman is heartbroken again, and she is having even worse experiences than before. She takes time to heal. Another chapter begins, and it becomes a loop due to brain patterns, ego effects, repetition compulsion, unrealistic expectations, or underestimating value. She again falls for a similar person and tries to make his life better. It is important to recognise that you cannot fix anything or anyone until you have fixed yourself.

Now. Let us talk about the real challenge. What should she do to get out of this situation? I’ll tell you what happened and how I recovered.

First and foremost, accept your mistakes! Acceptance is important.

Next, stop thinking you’re a victim; you’re not. Even if you are, it does not matter; that phase has passed, and you must now move on.

Third, seek help and support from your family; they are the only ones who can help you heal and prevent you from repeating those mistakes.

Finally, pray. The almighty creator deserves your attention. Please pray to him. Admit your mistakes and sins in front of him. Read your holy scripture and connect with positive, beautiful people.

Fifth, try a tech detox. This technology will keep you reminded of the reasons why you are in this situation. So, for a short time, avoid it. Instead, you could exercise, play indoor games, or read a book.

Sixth, make a goal for your life. There should be at least some reason why you are here. God didn’t tell you to repeat mistakes or trust unworthy people. Find your purpose. If you can’t find one, create one!

Finally, it is important to recognise that not all men are the same and not all women face the same challenges. Every journey is unique, shaped by personal experiences, circumstances, and decisions we make. This reflection is not intended to generalise, but rather to encourage women who are caught up in this cycle to break free, rediscover their worth, and form fulfilling, healthy relationships.

And, while we’ve looked at one perspective, it’s also important to consider that men can face similar challenges. Many men have told stories of misplaced trust and repeated heartache, possibly influenced by societal expectations to be strong and silent. Some people continue to be drawn to those who do not genuinely appreciate or value them. Men, like women, seek supportive, genuine connections and may feel compelled to “fix” or “save” someone, only to be hurt in the end.

Finally, breaking free from these cycles is a universal human experience that necessitates patience, self-discovery, genuine support from family and friends, and inner strength. We all deserve to be in relationships that uplift and help us grow, and increasing our self-awareness is essential for creating a healthier, happier future.

I’d like to hear more perspectives and stories in the comments! I want to learn more about your experiences.