Why does he keep coming back?

Done that; been there before. As a guy, I carried out the action over and over and over again. And continued to do it over and over. Both she and I were incorrect in our assumptions about the situation. I was mistaken because I thought that every time we broke up, she would fix the problems that I noticed in our relationship that caused me to leave repeatedly. Or, she would do things that I wanted her to do as a couple or as the woman who would take care of her man as I was taking care of her while we were both taking care of each other. Perhaps after I left, she would realize what I was searching for in a relationship, which was something more than a mere physical attraction; after all, anyone can find that. I was looking for someone who was both emotional and a team player. The issue was that I never talked with her about what was wrong, and she never responded to any of my attempts to connect with her.

We never stopped basking in the euphoric feelings that came with being reunited. But unfortunate events rarely befall the young. Things would happen again and again. I would get angry and then choose the path of least resistance. Leaving her with the question of why I left and why I came back. After my most recent split, I sought professional counseling and talked to the pastor of the church I had recently started attending. This was necessary because my ex-boyfriend attended the church where I had previously worshiped. I came to the realization that I was not effectively conveying my emotions. I was acting this way because I wanted her to see what was wrong with the situation and give her a chance to realize and correct it. On the other hand, she was thinking to herself, "he's still a child, up to his old tricks." He will get through it once more, and when he has found himself again, he will come back. We were both completely off base.

We gave it another shot when I realized why I had been mistaken and tried to work things out again, knowing that I needed to work on improving how well I communicated rather than how well I acted. However, she never went to counseling, and she never noticed the shift in my behavior. She continued to judge me as immature since I insisted on having my own way with everything. Absolutely not the case at all. I explained to her what disturbed me and asked her what she found problematic about the way I was changing. But she never grasped the significance of this concept. Counseling sessions that lasted for months on my end proved to be pointless for this relationship's ability to progress any further. I then ended our relationship for good after explaining to her why we couldn't be together if she couldn't see me from a different angle.

In conclusion, I observe a problem between the two of you that isn't getting resolved. And yet, every time you get back together, you have the impression that time has passed and things have evolved on their own without any intervention from you. But it won't until you both sit down and have a conversation about the situation. To get to the bottom of why you love each other and then end the relationship, I think it would benefit both of you to talk to a professional counselor. Find out if this time around you are meant to be together or if you were only supposed to learn from each other and become better individuals for your next relationship, as I was instructed to do. It is challenging when you love someone.