The Jealous Type

A jealous eye is not the best trait for any one to have, it will make you see unclearly and act in haste. Unfortunately it is a common trait amongst the people of this generation and will continue to be so within the next and so on. I have been guilty of feelings of jealousy myself and I understand it is an emotion that is very hard to contain but I found that once you start to focus on you and not on the acts of what other people are doing and saying, it seems as though the need for jealousy disappears.

You try telling this to others and they will palm you off as a daydreamer who would in no way be able to mind your own business but it really is as simple as that. In Most cases I find the fact of the matter is this, What you don't know cant hurt you. Not literally speaking but I mean in a sense of this... If your partner is sitting on the sofa smiling at their phone .. don't worry about it they could just be reading a funny post.. If you are out with your partner and "competition" presents itself.. let them go off together because if you have to compete for your partners attention or loyalty then, they are Not your right other half.

Have you actually ever sat down and thought in depth about any of the times when someone has targeted their jealousy towards you? I certainly have and some of the things that are said is actual pathetic nonsense. One particular lad I was seeing was such the jealous type it was too much. I call him a lad cos how can you call the following a man...

I would not let him stay at my house all the time .. it was a couple of nights a week agreement but I had everyday contact. If I answered the phone and I was eating.. he would make me feel bad for eating and literally TELL me he was jealous and that now he wanted what I was eating. Same if I was dinking. Same if I was chilling. If I didn't answer the phone straight away... Guess what... I was cheating. If I went anywhere without him, he used to say to me that I don't want him to go so that I can 'eye up' other men an talk to people behind his back.. Well in the end. That lasted 3 months. I couldn't cope with it. Relationship done. Being the self reflecting type I sat down an thought about it all in depth and the more I thought about it , the more ridiculous it all was. I'm the type of person that likes to treat people as I would like to be treated and so to act in such a way is just shocking, toxic behaviour that I cannot be dealing with but at the same time, I cant help but recognise the fact that I have myself been at times a jealous person to the point it got me being all pathetic and that but at the same time, it was hilariously embarrassing.

I had a friend round for food and she said she was going to cook "us the best chicken curry that we will ever eat". Definitely a matter of opinion rather than a fact.... While she was at my house I noticed that she and my partner was getting a bit flirty with each other and it was really starting to wind me up. I always try not to rise to emotions of jealousy because it eats me up from the inside afterwards and the feeling is overwhelmingly unbearable . She cooked the food which literally consisted of chicken breast, a tin of tomatoes and rice..... no lie.... and she stayed for a couple of hours. When she was getting ready to leave my partner got up and said he would assist her out as he was popping out also and I thought it was such a dodgy move to pull, that I could not resist my jealousy anymore.

When they left the room I ran up to the window to see if I could see them walking down the street together but because it was dark, I could not see them that well, I could just make out my friend. Believe me when I tell you; I pressed my face up that window to see as much as I possibly could, for as long as I possibly could. I was absolutely devastated at the thought of what they were going to do together whilst I was not in their presence. After a few minutes of feeling sorry for myself, my partner walked back into the house and he was not happy. He explained that he only went out to put the bin out and that whilst he was out, the neighbour from across the street called him over and so he watched me pressing my face up the window looking like a weirdo, rubber-necking through glass. He said he couldn't believe I don't trust him, and my only thought at that precise moment in time was.... I wanted to rewind time knowing he was only across the street watching me to avoid the shame.

I mean how shocking is that. Funny times looking back, although, that was my first tough lesson I had to learn regarding jealousy. Everything is not always as it seems. I suppose you live and learn.

An annoying thing about jealousy is when someone accuses you of being jealous of another person, especially when you know that is not the case. I found that you normally find this comes out of the mouth of a cheating partner who is trying to defend his/her actions by palming the situation onto your non existent jealousy. It frustrates me to the bones but yet you cannot control the way another person views jealousy. And so the only thing we can do is live with the fact that in someway, each and every one of us will be guilty of this emotion. The more you keep your focus on yourself, the less jealousy you will encounter throughout your life.