Friendship
The Signs That Show Your Relationship Is Becoming Stronger
Strong connection does not happen overnight; it develops from shared experiences and conversation, and grows with emotional learning. When couples are able to maneuver past the level of superficial responses, it reflects a higher level of maturity and security in their relationship. Knowing these phases can help you to understand where both of you are in your relationship. With the development of the relationship both partner start to feel more appreciated, known, and emotionally validated.
By Hayley Kiyoko2 months ago in Confessions
Word of the Day: 塩っぽい
I really need to go over all my diary entries and make sure none of the themes are repeating. I have had some people ask me about that and the thing is, they are not always about what I am writing about, though for some entries they are connected to the content. It is more of a game I play with myself to sort of encourage the study of Japanese or keeping a sort of " Flashcard set " , if you will.
By Kayla McIntosh2 months ago in Confessions
The Story I Never Thought I’d Tell: I Survived a Love-Bomber
Sitting on my shower floor with scalding hot water washing over my shivering body, I sob, listening to a new album by one of my favorite artists that has inspired this essay, as I’ve had to build my wall so high I didn’t think anyone could actually climb it, until someone did.
By Ash Ylvisaker2 months ago in Confessions
How life changed after moving abroad.
I moved to abroad after my marriage and everything changed completely when I stepped into a completely new life. India was familiar and a comfort zone to me as everyone was there, be it my family, my in-laws or my friends. Moreover, a familiar language was spoken there. But a drastic shift occurred after moving here. Step by step I began to realize that life is no more full of roses, it's now a bunch of responsibilities. We have to start from scratch in a completely new environment. The very first difficulty one faces is managing household chores all alone without any house help. Here ,affording a house help costs an arm and leg that's why most people prefer to do their work on their own. Then comes the challenge of earning, as getting a job in Australia is not a piece of cake. You have to be open to various roles whether a physically tiring job ,cleaning, kitchen hand or anything else which seems to be low profile but have to pick up that for earning your livelihood. Along with these, loneliness hits hard as there is no family, no friends. Your festivals does not look that bright as they are in India because celebrations are incomplete without your loved ones. And you don't get a holiday on Indian festivals so they seem like a normal working day. Moreover, different time zones don't allow you to pickup the phone and call anytime when you want. You keep most of the things and struggles to yourself to not to stress your family. Additionally, you start realizing the importance of money suddenly as weekly salary comes with weekly expenses of rent, groceries etc. and also you have to save for paying bills or for public transport expenses. Next comes the thing which is uncommon in India as here pedestrians are given more importance on crossings, cars stop before crossings to give way to pedestrians. The words like thankyou are commonly said to public transport drivers. Unlike India, standing in a queue is normal here. Long walks become your daily routine when you stay far away from the station and you don't drive as there are no vehicles such as autos or e-rickshaws, you have to take a bus or train or walk by feet only for covering distance of one place to other. Weather conditions cannot be judged here as conditions change frequently. Winters are long for more than 6 months, some days are very hot or some days you see sudden shift in temperatures or sometimes almost a full rainy week. The most important thing is that couple teamwork is tested in abroad as managing household responsibilities to shared finances will become essential to have a smooth lifestyle. And couples understand each others importance in their life while living all by themselves without any kind of support which makes the communication strong between the two strengthening their bonds, allowing misunderstandings to be avoided as no third person is there to solve your conflicts. You know you have only each other by your side which leaves no option other than maintaining compatibility. Australia's lifestyles teaches you maturity in almost every area of your life, you start becoming more confident, strong, patient and independent . You start feeling proud on small achievements such as travelling alone for the first time, buying groceries all alone or other small tasks gives you the feeling of accomplishment. This country is very peaceful; everyone is busy in their own life, no one judges or interferes in your life but honestly this peace sometimes eats you as you have no friendly neighborhood relations, nobody to talk to or share your mind with which is not a case in India especially in small town where neighbors share a close knitted bond. There is no loud sounds of barking dogs, car horns, two wheelers. Everything is so silent. Loud horns create noise pollution according to people so they are mostly avoided. One challenge that is mostly faced is getting food to taste same as India is not a chance here whether you get everything almost in stores but the street food of India has a no close match in taste. Renting a house on a budget is also a different kind of struggle in Australia as prices are high and agencies or landlords prefer those with higher income scale. Once you rent one you have to go through house inspections and you have to maintain the property to avoid heavy penalties by landlords. The most appreciating thing about Australia is that people who love to read gets free access of books from public libraries located in almost every suburb. You get multiple books to read for a period of time. You just need a valid id proof to make your library card for free. Another plus point here is nature is therapeutic here. Beaches, parks, lakes, mountains are so clean that your mind gets a reset even with a 10-15 minute walk as air quality is superb with negligible pollution levels. Water and sky is clear and blue and you enjoy the breathtaking view of the nature which also acts as a stress reliever in busy lifestyle. It also gives you positive vibes as everything is so beautiful. But unfortunately UV rays are so harsh that sunscreens become vital part of your routine and stepping out without sunscreen in sun is not recomended. So, yes life gets a whole new picture with emotional stress, crying alone with lots of nostalgia but showing up strong everyday for just yourself. You learn to step out of your comfort zone which is a first step towards your growth. You become more close to your loved ones and the things which seemed unimportant in India gain its value after moving here. Despite of challenges faced you start discovering the beautiful things and start showing gratitude for them. Slowly and gradually with the passage of time this unknown country becomes your home place with its clean environment, respect for diverse cultures with peaceful lifestyle and when you look back you feel great knowing that you have built everything from your own struggle. Of course, India is not replaceable despite of its shortcomings that will always be in hearts but foreign countries become your second home. I think that what if i haven't moved here maybe I would not learn to discover my inner strengths, maybe I would always be dependent or not learn to manage everything by my own. As I said earlier India is irreplaceable and I remember it everyday but Australia has given me a new identity which is more strong, patient and responsible too. This new beginning was full of new hopes and its still going on and making me better with each passing day in every area of life. I have become a newer version of myself as this journey along with my address changed me as a whole for the better. Sometimes harshness and bitterness are necessary to rise beyond our limits. From the lady who was nervous on the first entry at the airport to the lady I have become is more confident and clear in her thoughts with baby steps she is taking in her life.
By Parrody Queen2 months ago in Confessions
What Wicked Reminded Me About Life, Friendship, and the Dreams We’re Still Fighting For
Monday night Blu and I finally got to go to an early viewing of Wicked: For Good — something I actually signed up for months ago on Amazon Prime. They had an early-release option where Prime members could register for a chance to get tickets, but it wasn’t guaranteed because they were limited and expected to sell out fast. I signed up anyway, crossed my fingers, and about a month ago got the notification that they were available. I grabbed two immediately. Ever since we went, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. Until last year, I honestly wasn’t a fan of Wicked. I didn’t know much about it, and someone once told me it was basically a Wizard of Oz “remake,” so I judged it way too quickly. (And honestly, if someone had just told me Kristin Chenoweth was Glinda in the Broadway show, I probably would have gone to see it immediately.) Wizard of Oz was huge in my life — part of my childhood and part of my family. That famous Glinda line, “Are you a good witch or a bad witch?” felt freeing even as a kid. I loved witches and never understood why people acted like they were automatically bad. I always wondered how they got that way. I was a little rough around the edges growing up, but I never lashed out without a reason. That’s just not who I am. I’m a live-and-let-live person. So if a witch was acting out, I wanted to know what pushed her there. But no one wanted to explore Oz that deeply with me. Either they didn’t get it, or they thought I was trying to talk my way out of trouble — which wasn’t true. I never cared if I got in trouble for defending myself. My parents always knew if I was involved in something, someone else started it. Those nights usually ended with ice cream or a new Barbie. But if I started something? That was different. They warned me they’d melt all my Barbies. I believed them. One time my mom said if she had to ask me to do something again, she’d cut my Barbie’s hair off. I tested her. She grabbed my dad’s electric razor and shaved Barbie bald. I never tested her again. Barbie hair was everything to me.
By Wren Kirk2 months ago in Confessions
Serendipity
SERENDIPITY (Based on true events) I wanted excitement. I craved traveling. I wanted something to happen—anything—that would not make me feel like I was a drone from the movie Star Wars. I wanted change because I had chosen to be a housewife on my own will, and now that I had had a few years of experience on my shoulders, I wanted out. Except—there was no way out. None that I could think of that would not involve swearing, chaos, lawyers and documents.
By Christina Blake Angelou2 months ago in Confessions
I promise I’ll resign
While working on a project with a colleague, we stumbled on a road block, we had to figure out how to deal with a problem, and it seemed we had divergent opinions on the matter. He was the head of the project and ultimately the final person to decide, but this wasn’t in a corporate setting where the word of the boss is final. It was more in a social setting where he needed to get everyone on board with his plan.
By real Jema2 months ago in Confessions
The Day I Realized My Family Didn’t See Me
I have always loved my family. They are the people I grew up with, shared meals with, celebrated holidays with, and turned to in times of need—or so I thought. But the truth is, I often felt invisible among them, like my presence didn’t matter, like my thoughts, feelings, and dreams were background noise in a house full of voices.
By Shakil Sorkar2 months ago in Confessions
