Relationships

The start of anything is hard. However, a relationship is quite high on the list. In the beginning, when everything is so new and fragile you have to make sure that you stay yourself and portray yourself, however, in a version that leaves the other person interested and wanting more. You have to play a game of chicken without the intention of playing it. You can't show too much interest and can't show too little. Have to find the right balance for the relationship to flourish. Have to be able to have intellectual conversations and share your most bizarre theories. Be able to get to know the other person by having deep and meaningful conversations face to face. Getting to know their likes and dislikes and likewise. Not seeming too clingy or too detached. Knowing when you can say what and so on.

In addition, waiting for their response to a message you sent hours ago. Completely consumed by the sheer unease of the start of something very unsure and unusual, no idea what the future brings. Unknowing where you stand on such unstable ground. Altogether not always a feeling that is wanted to be felt. But I have recently been thinking and have reached the conclusion that the only way it will all be worth it is by love. Four little letters with such a heavy meaning. Love makes impossible tasks seem elementary and the hardships faced in it nonexistent. Many people say that without love there is no reason for life, as it is the bond that holds everything together.

Also, finding a soulmate and someone to love is crucial, however, achieving self-love is essential too. Being at peace with who you are and your life is equally important. You should not fix yourself for anyone or any relationship but for yourself, as the only way you can truly love someone or let someone love you is by loving yourself first. I'm not saying that you should just accept that you are flawed and live with it but, work on it and achieve your ideal image. Be the best that you can be for yourself. So that when the time comes for you to be in a relationship you will be ready to take the next step and completely jump in.

In all fairness, you also can't be like I'm incomplete but I have all these expectations and standards. This checklist of which all must be present in you. You must be smart, attractive, versatile in the arts, accomplished in academic fields, funny, nice, kind, all the while possessing a warm and bubbly personality. Basically, be this perfect and flawless individual which is not realistically achievable and then only will I consider you. Personally, my expectations are relatively high, however, I'm also quite understanding and empathetic towards the ways of the world. By that, I mean the fact that nothing will ever and truly be perfect in this world and that is just a fact that you have to learn to live with. Find some peace amidst all the uncertainty and develop a way to use it ultimately for your betterment and live a carefree yet smart life. You can't change the world yet you can choose to approach life with a good attitude or bad, be a pessimist or optimist, which in turn shapes your entire life. The way you handle yourself is entirely in your own hands.

In summation, the same way you should approach relationships, whether they be romantic or otherwise, is in your hands. Many times they will seem utterly unbearable and too high a price, however, I firmly believe that once a relationship is made it should be looked after and kept strong, not like a glass plate that with a little bit of wind will just shatter into a thousand little pieces. Also in various aspects, some relationships just aren't meant to be, the ones in which you can't stay true to yourself or you aren't happy, those aren't good for you. In order to live the best life, you have to find the perfect balance of being realistic and also staying true to yourself, if you've found it you've unlocked one of the keys to happiness.