Family unity in shambles

I had hoped that I could get along with my relatives, that we could work together on some amazing projects and build each other up into wealth. I’ve always been in admiration of other tribes who seem to get along with each other quite well and are able to accomplish a lot both collectively and individually. Despite any sort of feelings they might have with each other, they always find a way to pull through because they understand the bigger picture.

I have always wanted that for my family, wishing that we could see the bigger picture despite our differences, that we could all support each other and work hard to empower ourselves together. Having issues in families is nothing new, but I was hoping we could look past our differences to at least understand the bigger picture is much more important than our individual emotions.

Clogged in emotions

Unfortunately, my siblings aren’t able to look past their emotions, they aren’t able to see the bigger picture but just the little section which concerns their desires. That’s what has made it impossible for us to collaborate, despite the upsides it represents. I am disappointed, saddened and intimately hurt by this, but unfortunately it isn’t something I have any control over, it's near impossible to share a vision in a family setting where everybody has their own agenda. Most of our objectives don’t align with each other, some want wealth, others want fame and much more. We don’t even have a general policy to which we adhere and to make matters worse, we are all dealing with different issues of our own and hyper focused on solving those.

A shared mindset

I won’t enter into the blame game of trying to pin this on one person or the other, or say that this person is right while the other person is wrong. This division didn’t start with me, I am pretty sure that even the people who came before me certainly had the same ideas, but things just didn’t work out for them simply for the same reason.

The lack of a unified mentality to guide us all towards a common objective.

Putting such a mindset will require a lot of effort, which I don’t even think a lifetime will be enough to accomplish. The only thing I am left with is to resign myself to work all alone and relive the cycle my parents had to endure. One in which one person was doing extremely well, others were struggling, and there was an imposed distance between us simply because we couldn’t afford to get caught up with what others had going on in their lives.

It's the sad reality, but at least I know my parents tried, and I understand what led us to this situation. I sincerely hope I can do things differently to at least avoid the past repeating itself, but I am not a dupe, i know most likely that history is bound to repeat itself whether i like it or not. The difficulty being that everybody has a vision of their own which they want to stick to and believe is the only way out. Even though it can be difficult to tell which is the correct vision.

Conclusion

Working together isn’t an easy task to do even when you have shared incentives, even when it's the logical outcome, even when we can all agree that's what needs to be done. Someway, somehow, someone finds a way to sabotage all of our efforts for selfish reasons.

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