Dating Apps are a Lie

Hmm, I have taken to using the Facebook dating app as a way to promote my business and create connections. Some people are like, " That is not how you use it. It is for dating." But if you think about it, or from my experience, I have encountered it being used as just a chat app for lonely people just wanting to talk and have no direction or people using it specifically just for a quick sneaky link or finding a third partner for kinky people or what not. I have had people approach me just for those things and that, I would argue, does not constitute as dating. I'd like to think I am providing people a personal check-in and reevaluation for their life since they're probably stuck in a rut or addiction of some kind.

So, I have decided to approach people with these questions:

What are your goals?

What steps are you taking towards those goals?

Also, I guess if I wanted to approach it from a romantic light, this is still a good way to vet potential partners.

If they are just like " I just want a relationship. " or aren't really able to specify their goals, it usually means they haven't really thought about it very well or don't have goals to begin with. Maybe that is fine for some people, but that is a horrible indicator for long term arrangements.

I also get to learn the mindset of potential partners. I have encountered a lot of men who are more embarrassed or stubborn about their personal pursuits. Paranoia around possibly stealing ideas for a book or believing that they must do all of the work themselves sort of shows insecurities around their pursuits or success.

Of course, I can't help a physicist research for his newest theory, but I can certainly offer some help or insight for someone perusing an LLC or some sort of creative venture. So I do concede when someone seems to be already set up or are actually working out well. I am not offering help to people who don't need it, you know? Also, if I can't perceive any idea in which I can help them, there is no point.

I have also started making Vlogs to Youtube to help out myself in the meantime. I don't see anything long term or pursuing this in a business sense, just a way of sorting through my own thoughts until I find someone willing to work with me.

I do think, me wanting to be a Creative Assistant is probably a good direction for myself. Once i move to my new apartment I will pursue that but for now, I feel like I am using my time " Productively "

I do know that, according to the internet that requires at least a bachelor's degree, so, my constant visits to the nearby community college probably warrants going further with that for sure.

I know that, what I am doing is very much in line with what some of my mentors have suggested " form connections, create a rapport, exchange knowledge. "

I am learning a lot either way so, I don't consider this a waste of time even if I am not necessarily getting customers at this time. It is sort of funny to come across people who incongruences have them end up collapsing from the conversation. I mean, hey, I've been there so I don't blame them.

But I do feel like everything is going relatively well right now and this seems like a more plausible goal than what I've previously made.