Shazia Naqib

Narcissistic Personality Disorder 2023 Narcissistic Personality Traits affecting human behaviour – A pathological and psychological phenomenon: Changes in the Brain leading to the perpetration of Intimate Partner Violence Dr Shazia Naqib

This book is being written specially to support women who face different challenges in life, especially the ones who have gone through a divorce or are going through it. Women who experience domestic violence and toxic abusive narcissistic relationships. It starts with the Golden period of my life, my childhood. I grew up in the small, beautiful town of Wah Cantt., in Pakistan. It was my dreamland where I spent a carefree life away from the real worries of this world. Everything seemed to be amazing, playful, and lovely. I used to play outside, climb on trees, pick, and eat guavas like a parrot, used to watch parrots eating guavas in my home garden. The days were lovely. My school was lovely, l loved walking to my school every day. I was a very bright student getting awards for being an all-around best student every year. I loved listening to music, singing on stage, painting, drawing, and sports like netball, physical education, badminton, table tennis and board games. All were my favourite sports. I used to fly kites and play cricket and hockey with other children in my neighbourhood. I was full of energy and passion for life. I learnt cycling by myself, on my dad’s bicycle, which was my happiest moment. I was my mum’s favourite l guess, I used to play badminton with her in our backyard. I made a lovely scrapbook. My mum wrote in it that it was her dream to go to the US. Gradually, I started to become more youthful and energetic. I was one of my teacher’s and headteacher’s favourite students, being admired by the whole school. I had a best friend and many other friends. Life was free of all worries. I had 4 siblings and a mum and dad, a happy family. Some boys in my school had a crush on me. I was given the lady of the night award at my school party. I had a crush on a boy too. This was one of the best times of my life until I started college. I wanted to go to Lahore for my college studies, but my dad refused. I didn’t like the idea. The first wrong decision! I was sent to Rawalpindi Medical College to study medicine. The college was far from my home, an hour’s bus journey every day which I hated. Moreover, I didn’t like the college, it was overcrowded with much less space around. This affected my studies and my interest in medical studies deteriorated, but I still finished my studies. Forgot to mention, that I got engaged when I was 21, during my medical studies (the second wrong decision!) with my first cousin who used to live in Paris, France. He came for 4 days to my home and proposed to me. He was a stranger to me. I was supposed to go to Paris after I complete my studies and house job. A long wait before I got married to him and went to Paris finally, just to come back after a month, as it didn’t work at all. It was a horrible experience in my life. Then started the twists and turns in my life. I came back to Wah Cantt. and my mother could not accept this reality. She started to blame me for everything. I left my home because l could not tolerate my mother’s behaviour and the society where I lived was very backwards thinking. Our culture did not like the word divorce! I was divorced after a very long time after my return. He delayed the divorce. I got a job on a contract basis in Murree, where I lived an independent life. But l saw the bad side of our society where men think they can do whatever they want. They think that it’s their world. Society is male-dominant, where men treat women and children as objects or as their property so that they can use them for their benefit. Marriage is an institution for them and just a piece of paper. I condemn this type of abnormal thinking and challenge this cultural norm. This type of thinking will ruin our future generations.