Sabiu Tobi
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A Life Lesson Story On Growth And Success
Once there lived a boy in a town one day he came to visit his grandfather during his summer holidays he used to play with his grandpa all the time one day he said to his grandpa when I grow up I want to become a successful man can you tell me some ways to be successful Grandpa noted in yes and took by with him to a nearby nursery from Nursery his Grandpa bought two small plants and came back home then he planted one plant in a boat and kept it inside the house and planted other plant outside the house what do you think which of these two plants will grow better in future grandfather was the boy kept thinking for some time and then said plant inside the house will grow better because it is safe from every danger while plant outside is at risk of many things like strong sunlight storm rain and animals grandfather smiled and said let us see what happens in future after that the boy left from there after four years boy came to visit his grandfather again when boy saw his grandfather he asked him Grandpa last time I asked you a question how to be successful in life but you did not tell me anything but this time you have to tell me grandfather smiled and said sure but first let us take a look at plants that we bought few years back saying this grandfather took boy to place where he had planted small plant in a boat they saw that the small plant had turned into a big plant then he took boy to look at the plant which they had planted outside they saw that a big tree had grown out of a small plant its branches spread far and wide providing shade to passer-by now grandfather looked at boy and asked tell me which plant grew more which is more successful why replied the one we planted outside but Grandpa how is this possible that plant must have faced so many dangers still it grew so big grandfather smiled and said yes plant outside had to face many things but dealing with problems had its benefits too plant outside add freedom to spread its roots as much as it wanted problems like storm and heavy rain made its roots even stronger today it is so strong that a small storm cannot cause any harm to it while the plant we planted inside remain small and it is weak too because it did not withstand the heavy storms rain and strong sunlight then grandfather looked at his grandson and said my son always remember that unless you struggle in life unless you go through difficulties you too will not be able to achieve success in your life if you will make comfortable choices then you will not be able to grow as you can and if you are ready to struggle and go through difficulties then no goal is impossible for you to achieve therefore never think of problems as hurdles but think of them as stepping stones towards success boy took a long breath and started looking at tree the words of his grandfather were echoing in his mind obstacles which we consider as enemies in our life the same obstacles makes us stronger and more successful in our life if we see in our lives then we will find that often in our lives we have to face challenges and difficulties due to which many times we get disappointed and lose the courage to move forward but the story of two plants teaches us not to be intimidated by challenges but to embrace them as an opportunity to learn and grow like a plant that was planted outside had to face natural calamities but with this it also had the freedom to spread its roots and grow stronger and thus it transformed into a strong and giant tree but the plant that was planted inside was saved from natural calamities but it remained small and weak from this we get to learn that the more difficulties and challenges we face in our life the more the path of success will open for us it teaches us that we should not be afraid to take risk and step outside our comfort zones when we Face challenges we have the opportunity to learn and grow stronger we can also develop the resilience and determination that are essential to success of course overcoming all challenges is not easy there will be times when we feel defeated or discouraged but it is important to remember that these are only temporary setbacks if we learn from them and keep moving forward we will eventually overcome any challenges that comes our way so the next time you face a challenge or face difficult time in your life don’t give up take advantage of the opportunity to learn and grow and always remember that the challenges you face today can make you stronger and more successful tomorrow.
By Sabiu Tobiabout a year ago in Motivation
8 Situations In Life Where The Best Thing To Do Is To Be Silent, According To Psychology
1. During Heated Arguments Nobody is a stranger to a heated argument. We’ve all been there, in the middle of a fiery discussion where emotions are high and tempers are flaring. Psychology tells us that during these times, the best course of action is often to remain silent. Why, you ask? When emotions are running high, rationality takes a back seat. People tend not to hear what you’re saying during an argument. Instead, they’re more focused on their own emotions and how they’re going to respond. In such circumstances, your words are likely to fall on deaf ears or worse – they could further inflame the situation. When you find yourself in the throes of a heated debate, try taking a step back and holding your tongue. It might feel unnatural, especially when you feel strongly about the topic at hand. But remember, silence can speak volumes when words fail. 2. When You’re Not Fully Informed I remember a time when I was at a conference among industry professionals. The discussion shifted towards a recent technological advancement that I was not very familiar with. Eager to contribute, I was about to voice my half-baked opinion when I stopped myself. I realized I didn’t have all the facts, and my attempt to join in might end up showing my lack of knowledge instead. Psychology tells us that in situations like these, it’s wiser to remain silent. Rushing to speak when we’re not entirely informed can lead to misinformation and misunderstanding. It can also damage our credibility. When you’re tempted to jump into a conversation without having the full picture, try taking a moment to listen instead. You’ll learn more and preserve your integrity at the same time. 3. During Moments Of Deep Grief Grief is an overwhelming emotion, one that can leave us floundering for the right words to say. In these instances, silence often serves as the most profound expression of empathy and understanding. Sometimes, when individuals are grappling with profound loss, they are more likely to remember the comforting presence of others rather than specific words or actions. This is because during periods of intense emotional distress, our brains are more attuned to feelings of safety and comfort rather than verbal communication. By choosing to remain silent, you are providing a supportive presence that can be far more meaningful than any words. 4. When Dealing With Constant Complainers We all know someone who seems to thrive on negativity, constantly complaining about everything under the sun. Engaging with these individuals can seem like a never-ending battle. No matter how much you try to soothe or problem-solve, they always find something else to complain about. Psychology suggests that in such situations, it’s better to remain silent. Engaging with constant complainers often only serves to fuel their negativity, while draining your own energy. By choosing not to respond, you protect your own mental health and subtly convey that their constant negativity is unwelcome. 5. When Someone Else Needs The Spotlight Life is full of moments where someone else deserves to be the center of attention. It could be a friend sharing an exciting piece of news, a colleague delivering a presentation, or a loved one sharing their feelings. In these instances, the most respectful and supportive thing we can do is remain silent. By holding back our own thoughts and opinions, we allow others their moment to shine. It’s a simple act of kindness that says, “I see you, I hear you, and your voice matters.” Silence in these moments is more than just the absence of noise. It’s an act of love, respect, and acknowledgment. 6. When You’re Trying To Listen More I was once told that I’m a good talker, but not a great listener. That feedback hit home, because I realized I was often so eager to share my thoughts that I failed to truly hear what others were saying. Psychology teaches us the value of active listening, which involves truly hearing and understanding another’s perspective. To do this effectively, we must quiet our own voices. In my journey towards becoming a better listener, I’ve learned that silence is a powerful tool. It allows for deeper understanding, promotes empathy, and strengthens relationships. When you’re in a conversation, try taking a pause and truly listening. You might be surprised at what you hear. 7. When Your Words May Hurt Others We’ve all been there – a moment of anger, frustration, or disappointment where hurtful words are on the tip of our tongue. In these instances, psychology encourages us to bite our tongue and embrace silence. Words spoken in haste can cause damage that’s hard to undo. They can hurt feelings, strain relationships, and even leave lasting emotional scars. Before letting those words fly, take a deep breath and consider the impact they might have. If there’s a chance they could cause harm, it’s best to hold them back. Silence in these situations isn’t just about avoiding conflict – it’s about respecting the feelings of others and preserving the integrity of your relationships. 8. When Silence Is The Most Powerful Response There are moments when silence isn’t just a choice, but the most powerful response you can give. Whether you’re faced with a bully, dealing with a manipulative person, or confronting someone who thrives on drama, silence can be your greatest ally. In these situations, any response can be twisted, misinterpreted, or used as fuel for further conflict. Your silence, however, sends a clear message: you won’t be drawn into their games. Silence is not a sign of weakness. At times, it’s the strongest statement you can make. Final Thoughts: The Power Of Silence The art of silence is deeply intertwined with the complexity of human psychology. It’s not just a pause in conversation, but a powerful tool that can enhance our relationships, protect our mental health, and even transform conflict into understanding. A quote by the philosopher Lao Tzu encapsulates this beautifully. He said, “Silence is a source of great strength.” This ancient wisdom resonates with us today, reminding us that choosing to remain silent can often be the most powerful response. As we navigate through life, let’s remember the value of silence. Whether we’re faced with a heated argument, an uninformed discussion, or a moment of grief, opting for silence can often be our greatest ally. It’s not about suppressing our voices, but knowing when our silence can speak volumes. The next time you find yourself in one of these eight circumstances, remember the power that lies in your silence. It might just be the most impactful statement you could make.
By Sabiu Tobiabout a year ago in Humans
Better Than Retinol? Discover The New Hero Ingredients Of Pro Aging
In the beauty space, retinol is lauded as a no-fail ingredient for skin rejuvenation. This vitamin A derivative works in the middle layer of the epidermis to neutralize free radicals. It also boosts production of collagen while improving the tone and texture of skin. Although touted as the gold standard in minimizing the appearance of fine lines, wrinkles, enlarged pores and even acne, safety regulations have recently been put into effect to limit retinol’s concentration in skincare products. In April 2024, the European Union Commission announced that over-the-counter face creams, serums and gels could only contain up to 0.3% of retinol and 0.05% for body lotions and serums. Bakuchiol: Nature’s Answer To Retinol While there is a three-year grace period for brands to recalibrate their formulations, the search for retinol alternatives is rapidly gaining traction. Among beauty and skincare enthusiasts, the focus has shifted towards natural, plant-based ingredients that lend the same benefits as retinol. Bakuchiol, for instance, is regarded as one of the most effective natural retinol alternatives out in the market today. In Ayurveda and Traditional Chinese Medicine, this skin loving extract derived from the Babchi plant is often used to treat skin inflammation, rashes, vitiligo patches, eczema and vitiligo patches. The infusion of Bakuchiol in serums, creams, and other skincare products help to support healthy skin cell turnover while gently exfoliating and stimulating collagen production. This ingredient also lends itself as a potent antioxidant that protects and repairs. Unlike retinol, Bakuchiol is gentler on skin and can be used for both day and night. It is also ideal of sensitive or reactive skin types. Here, a list serums that are infused with Bakuchiol. OGEE Natural Retinol Bakuchiol 2% Elixir OGEE Natural Retinol Bakuchiol 2% Elixir uses a highly concentrated dose of natural retinol to soften the appearance of fine lines, enlarged pores, and wrinkles. This serum also helps minimize pigmentation and dark spots. The OGEE team explains, “Our Natural Retinol Elixir harnesses an above average strength [of 2%] since it is a naturally derived alternative, which allows it to be a higher concentration and more gentle on skin.” True Alchemy Glow Serum is a luminous blend of natural Bakuchiol, vitamin C, and TriDroxy Acid Blend that address hyperpigmentation and signs of sun damage. It also helps to bring back skin’s natural radiance, evening out both tone and texture. Retinal: The Most Powerful Form Of Vitamin A Retinal is the most powerful form of vitamin A that consumers can access without a prescription. According to skin experts, this ingredient is more potent and works faster than retinol. As it is for the latter, use of this potent ingredient with caution to avoid skin sensitivities, drying, redness, and flaking. Start by applying a few drops of every other day. Accompany your regimen with a nourishing and hydrating cream or oil. Finally, avoid direct sun exposure and protect with SPF.
By Sabiu Tobiabout a year ago in Longevity
