real Jema

Joined December 2021

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If you could say one thing and be heard by the entire world, what would that be?

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Having no choice left
I’ll like to preface this by saying that I’ll talk about groups of persons who may turn out not to be you, and that's why I often use the words “some persons” or “most people”. I hope you don’t get offended by what I write, especially when you can’t relate. I can’t direct my article to only the people I am talking about, this article just goes out to the whole world in general. It's also very difficult and even impossible to write or even talk in a way that everyone would relate to, simply because we all live different lives, and we are in different environments and conditions. Nevertheless, there are always lessons we can take from every story to help ameliorate our own.
By real Jema2 years ago in Confessions
You are the problem
If you have a problem. And it’s like a really bad reoccurring horrific problem, and you tell me that there’s just absolutely no way to fix it. I would be skeptical, but I might be convinced to believe you. If however, you are standing in a room full of dozens maybe even hundreds of other people who have all addressed or maybe even solved this very same problem to varying degrees of success using a variety of different methods some not so great but even the most lackluster amongst them being worlds better than what you’ve got going on, and it becomes just abundantly clear that you are the only one with this problem, I’m going to be a lot less likely to believe you. When you say that there is no solution and especially if you dismiss every single proposed solution to the problem without trying it first, if you tell me that right after the problem occurred is a bad time to talk about the problem or if you can’t have an intelligent conversation about the problem without just making noises or unfounded assumptions, I’m going to be a lot less convinced that you have a problem and a lot more convinced that you are the problem.
By real Jema2 years ago in Writers
5 years project
When I began working on projects, I always felt like the timeline for a project was determined by the different activities that have to take place during the project, I thought planning for the project will take x amount of time, developing the project will take x amount of time, and launching will take x amount of time, then I’ll just make the sum of all those durations and that will be the estimate of how long that project was going to take me. It's with this philosophy I worked on projects and I came to realize that this wasn’t very efficient, with this open strategy I let myself be lazy, I couldn’t keep to deadlines and I basically didn’t have any SMART objectives, I often ended up working on projects for a very long time to the point I got bored with the project and moved on to another.
By real Jema2 years ago in Writers
Battling Emotions
When I was a lot younger, I usually looked up to the grown-ups and I wondered what kinds of problems they could possibly have. Especially the very confident people who seemed to have everything figured out, when you look at all the successful actors and actresses, musicians and business moguls or even just the local leaders in your community. Since they display so much confidence and wisdom in everything they do, I just wondered what could possibly be beyond them to deal with. At that young age I was dealing with problems of my own which felt so overwhelming, my parents who were constantly giving me a hard time with chores, my school work which was a lot of headache, my difficulties with socializing and many more things which bothered me. At that point I really wondered what could really bother these people whom I looked up to, they didn’t seem to have any problem speaking in front of large crowds, they were very intelligent, and they definitely didn’t lack the resources to do anything they wanted to. The objective for me was to become like them so that I won’t have any problems again, and maybe I too may ooze with so much confidence in what I do.
By real Jema2 years ago in Humans
And the student surpassed the master
This is an amazing phrase which depicts a great scenario whereby a person learns from another and eventually becomes as good if not better than their teacher (master) which is actually an act to be proud of. Every teacher's hope is for their student (creation) to become a reflection of themselves and so when this student (or creation) becomes even better than they are, then it's just a subject of happiness and pride.
By real Jema2 years ago in Lifehack
Hard work compels respect. Content Warning.
This should go without saying but it does fly over our heads sometimes. If I were to ask you about the people you respect the most, you would probably think of your parents or the wealthiest persons you know, not necessrily because of the wealth they have but rather because deep down you acknowledge all the hard work they put in to get to where they are. While on the other hand the people you respect the least would be persons who either inherited their wealth or who aren't wealthy at all. So is respect just a product of hardwork or is there more to it?
By real Jema2 years ago in Writers
How to raise funds for your project
When you have a project, that wonderful idea in your mind you would like to see come to life, then there are a couple of things you need to do in order to raise the funds necessary to make this happen. Every project requires some form of investment be it; time, finances, intellect or even just patience. It’s easy to get disillusioned by how good our project is that we forget to follow the steps necessary to ensure that our project thrives and survives. Keep in mind that there are great ideas which have failed in the past over just simple mistakes, and not all the ideas out there which are working are the best. There are still people who use pen and paper for all of their transactions, despite the fact that we’ve had computers for decades.
By real Jema2 years ago in Writers
Work smart not hard. Content Warning.
Every person should understand what this statement means in order to avoid themselves a lot of wasted time and stress. You need to work smart and not hard
By real Jema2 years ago in Writers
Scared of Change
I do have a hard time writing some of these articles because I try to share my thoughts and experiences about specific events from which I gained a life lesson but these lessons might as well be understood or applied differently depending on the circumstances and so my conclusions won't apply to everyone in the same way.
By real Jema2 years ago in Lifehack
110+ Freelance Job Ideas for Beginners
Writing 1. Article Writer Write articles for online magazines, news publishers, business journals, etc. 2. Blog Writer
By real Jema4 years ago in Lifehack
I don’t like change
I’ve never been the biggest fan of change, as a kid I didn’t want to grow up, it was so much fun to play around with my friends and I had become accustomed to that and would have traded everything else just for things to stay the same. Eventually I had to grow up and adapt to new circumstances, they weren’t any better but I just went with it all, it wasn’t like I had a choice, again and again my life has had to change so much. The biggest changes which have really dealt with me emotionally were to watch people leave, either to die or simply just to move to another town, they don’t just leave but they also take with them emotions, attachments and memories. It feels destabilizing to be robbed of all these in an instant and leaves you wandering for a while trying to figure out what could possibly replace what you’ve lost.
By real Jema4 years ago in Motivation
It's easy to see problems
I’m sure you’ll like your coffee a little hotter or your car a little safer, maybe you wish the government did more for you or even still, you could want your life to be better in one way or the other. It's very easy to see problems, just looking around you right now I’m sure there are many things you can easily identify as problems, but why is that so? Why are we always so quick to see the problems and less ready to see all the things which are going on well? As a matter of fact, this is an involuntary action of ours and it's the brain which does it automatically, so even if you wanted to, you can’t stop yourself from seeing the problems all around you.
By real Jema4 years ago in Motivation