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How life changed after moving abroad.
I moved to abroad after my marriage and everything changed completely when I stepped into a completely new life. India was familiar and a comfort zone to me as everyone was there, be it my family, my in-laws or my friends. Moreover, a familiar language was spoken there. But a drastic shift occurred after moving here. Step by step I began to realize that life is no more full of roses, it's now a bunch of responsibilities. We have to start from scratch in a completely new environment. The very first difficulty one faces is managing household chores all alone without any house help. Here ,affording a house help costs an arm and leg that's why most people prefer to do their work on their own. Then comes the challenge of earning, as getting a job in Australia is not a piece of cake. You have to be open to various roles whether a physically tiring job ,cleaning, kitchen hand or anything else which seems to be low profile but have to pick up that for earning your livelihood. Along with these, loneliness hits hard as there is no family, no friends. Your festivals does not look that bright as they are in India because celebrations are incomplete without your loved ones. And you don't get a holiday on Indian festivals so they seem like a normal working day. Moreover, different time zones don't allow you to pickup the phone and call anytime when you want. You keep most of the things and struggles to yourself to not to stress your family. Additionally, you start realizing the importance of money suddenly as weekly salary comes with weekly expenses of rent, groceries etc. and also you have to save for paying bills or for public transport expenses. Next comes the thing which is uncommon in India as here pedestrians are given more importance on crossings, cars stop before crossings to give way to pedestrians. The words like thankyou are commonly said to public transport drivers. Unlike India, standing in a queue is normal here. Long walks become your daily routine when you stay far away from the station and you don't drive as there are no vehicles such as autos or e-rickshaws, you have to take a bus or train or walk by feet only for covering distance of one place to other. Weather conditions cannot be judged here as conditions change frequently. Winters are long for more than 6 months, some days are very hot or some days you see sudden shift in temperatures or sometimes almost a full rainy week. The most important thing is that couple teamwork is tested in abroad as managing household responsibilities to shared finances will become essential to have a smooth lifestyle. And couples understand each others importance in their life while living all by themselves without any kind of support which makes the communication strong between the two strengthening their bonds, allowing misunderstandings to be avoided as no third person is there to solve your conflicts. You know you have only each other by your side which leaves no option other than maintaining compatibility. Australia's lifestyles teaches you maturity in almost every area of your life, you start becoming more confident, strong, patient and independent . You start feeling proud on small achievements such as travelling alone for the first time, buying groceries all alone or other small tasks gives you the feeling of accomplishment. This country is very peaceful; everyone is busy in their own life, no one judges or interferes in your life but honestly this peace sometimes eats you as you have no friendly neighborhood relations, nobody to talk to or share your mind with which is not a case in India especially in small town where neighbors share a close knitted bond. There is no loud sounds of barking dogs, car horns, two wheelers. Everything is so silent. Loud horns create noise pollution according to people so they are mostly avoided. One challenge that is mostly faced is getting food to taste same as India is not a chance here whether you get everything almost in stores but the street food of India has a no close match in taste. Renting a house on a budget is also a different kind of struggle in Australia as prices are high and agencies or landlords prefer those with higher income scale. Once you rent one you have to go through house inspections and you have to maintain the property to avoid heavy penalties by landlords. The most appreciating thing about Australia is that people who love to read gets free access of books from public libraries located in almost every suburb. You get multiple books to read for a period of time. You just need a valid id proof to make your library card for free. Another plus point here is nature is therapeutic here. Beaches, parks, lakes, mountains are so clean that your mind gets a reset even with a 10-15 minute walk as air quality is superb with negligible pollution levels. Water and sky is clear and blue and you enjoy the breathtaking view of the nature which also acts as a stress reliever in busy lifestyle. It also gives you positive vibes as everything is so beautiful. But unfortunately UV rays are so harsh that sunscreens become vital part of your routine and stepping out without sunscreen in sun is not recomended. So, yes life gets a whole new picture with emotional stress, crying alone with lots of nostalgia but showing up strong everyday for just yourself. You learn to step out of your comfort zone which is a first step towards your growth. You become more close to your loved ones and the things which seemed unimportant in India gain its value after moving here. Despite of challenges faced you start discovering the beautiful things and start showing gratitude for them. Slowly and gradually with the passage of time this unknown country becomes your home place with its clean environment, respect for diverse cultures with peaceful lifestyle and when you look back you feel great knowing that you have built everything from your own struggle. Of course, India is not replaceable despite of its shortcomings that will always be in hearts but foreign countries become your second home. I think that what if i haven't moved here maybe I would not learn to discover my inner strengths, maybe I would always be dependent or not learn to manage everything by my own. As I said earlier India is irreplaceable and I remember it everyday but Australia has given me a new identity which is more strong, patient and responsible too. This new beginning was full of new hopes and its still going on and making me better with each passing day in every area of life. I have become a newer version of myself as this journey along with my address changed me as a whole for the better. Sometimes harshness and bitterness are necessary to rise beyond our limits. From the lady who was nervous on the first entry at the airport to the lady I have become is more confident and clear in her thoughts with baby steps she is taking in her life.
By Parrody Queen2 months ago in Confessions
Get association with roots not fancy words.
There is one word trending on social media these days which is Naam jap. I'm not saying there is something wrong in this word. I just want to share a thought that came across my mind. Naam jap is something which is taught from childhood . When a child gets a little older, he is introduced to god, taken to religious places according to their culture. Moreover, he is taught the importance of god in his life. For example, if I talk about hindu dharma chanting of ram ram is very common. Our elders didn't know the english words good morning, good night; they used to say ram ram, radhe radhe, hare krishna. Their main purpose was to take the name of god. This is also naam jap. Naam jaap is in our roots, there is no need to run behind anything special or perform something extraordinary. Its the simple practice that can be used in day to day life but it's being made complicated in today's world. We are forgetting our basic roots the ones to which we are attached, ones which we are taught from childhood by our parents or elders in the family. We are running behind the trends and popularism on social media. In every religion, God is an inevitable part of a person's life and he does not want you to follow any special rules or regulations to remember him or to chant his name. He just sees your feeling. He is fond of love and devotion, not the rules and regulations. There are numerous examples from past where many people experienced the presence of god simply by following the feeling of love. Many religious songs also state that god is associated with your inner feelings. However, not everyone can understand this basic formula. The Divine power only understands the language of love while everyone is busy offering bribe to him in one form or other. Whenever we want a particular thing or event to happen in our life, what we generally say while visiting religious shrines? For example- "Please god give me this job and I will offer you 1kg of sweets or I will offer this or that". God doesn't want your sweets, if you want to offer sweets offer to those who can't afford them. This will bring you closer to god. Help the people around you. Help the needy. Be thankful for what you have got. These basic things will not only give you inner peace and joy but also bring you one step closer to your Divine power. I'm not saying that doing naam jap is wrong or it should not be done but I'm saying instead of dedicating a proper time remember god in every minute, in every breath you take and help the needy one. God will be more pleased when you perform good deeds rather than sitting at one place ,chanting with beads in hands. However, if you really want to do chanting there is no harm but remember if you can't help one the needy then chanting alone may not help to move things in your life. In end, I want to say that I believe that there is nothing that happens in our life without the consent of god, even a small leaf moves when its his wish. We are guided by spiritual powers every single minute in our life. So, don't just run behind what is being showcased. Start associating yourself with your roots. It is the basic essence of life,in my view, should be followed by everyone on this planet to make this world a better place to live in.
By Parrody Queen3 months ago in Lifehack
The peace in letting go..
Few days back, I really wanted to purchase a specific course of law of attraction but unfortunately I'm not earning at this point of time so I had to ask for money from my close ones. They refused to pay me for their obvious reasons as spending money on these things is wastage of money. Well, I was really hurt after their refusal. I was really feeling helpless and was continuously thinking if I was earning then I won't be having a need to ask. It's not that I'm not trying to earn or I'm voluntarily sitting at home. I am looking for job and trying many other things to for being financially independent but maybe the timing is not right and god wants me to learn something from my this phase of life. Anyhow, when my close ones refused I was not able to control my emotions and literally cried. It may sound foolish but yeah I cried like a little baby over the fact not receiving money , but the actual reason was my feelings behind. I was not able to digest that I'm not getting what I want as it really never ever happened in my life. Being financially independent and loving daughter, wife, daughter in law I always have had at my plate whatever I needed. I never had scarcity type of feeling relating to the money. Well, after that incident various thoughts kept over hovering my mind like a ghost and I started feeling restless. I became more desperate, questioned god, cried even sitting in my temple saying Why god? Why me? Why you are not giving me job? I complained a lot and carried my whole day with this feeling till I paused and questioned myself ...I'm practicing law of attraction, I want to be part of its journey at more deeper level but I'm investing my all energy, focus, attention to negative thoughts and complaining. This one pause made a drastic shift in my mindset. I chose peace over mental chaos, surrendered to god and made peace by affirming maybe universe, god is trying to teach me some lessons through this phase of life. I understood by believing whatever all is happening now there is a reason for that. I may not see the reason now but tomorrow when I will look back I will surely find the one and will be thanking god that it unfolded the way as you wanted. It's we humans who started feeling bad immediately whenever something is not going according to our wish. However, the one who is above all has different kind of plans for us which we can't think of with our limited thoughts. For example, I am asking for a job today but what if god wants me to walk on the path of business and preparing road for me to walk upon that way. I don't know , it could be also one possibility. As we never know what good things our future holds for us. So, enjoy your time and be happy, stop complaining. Have faith on Divine power as everything will be provided to you when you're ready and on divine timings. Express gratitude to what you have as the kind of life you are living today is the dream of many. Life is too short to worry for little things. If its not your day today then maybe tomorrow could be yours. Keep walking, you will be guided throughout your journey with his divine light. We are kids of that supreme one, he will not let anything bad happen with his kids. Just we need to have trust on his timings then life would be beautiful to live. I learned this and got mental peace by letting go and surrendering to his willpower. Even a feather on this earth moves when he wants, so how we humans can have full control on everything. Let your life's remote control be in his hands if mental peace is to be sustained. Believe me, there is nothing good as Peace of mind.
By Parrody Queen4 months ago in Motivation
