Nicole Daga

Simple Truths

In the last few months many people I know have lost people they love. I feel heartbroken for them. I wish I could offer words that contained the power to heal but I have nothing. In fact, I think if they were to stand before me the truth is I would be nervous of what to say and how to act. I would be cautious of saying anything trite or redundant. The good ol “I’m so sorry for your loss” or the comforting “they will always be with you”. Although full of good intention they become just something people say. When I lost my mom I felt like if I heard one more person say to me “I’m so sorry” I was going to lunge at them. Each time it felt like taking a bullet. I can’t offer any words of advice or spiritual guidance. Having lost my soulmate, someone who is truly the best part of me, I’m sure should have somehow qualified me for such a task but it doesn’t. Each person’s experience belongs to only them and just because we lose someone doesn’t qualify us to say “I know how you feel”. It doesn’t qualify us to know someone else’s pain or experience. What I can offer is some simple truths in my experience.