Marquetta Bailey

Why it's Harder to Find Love: The Psychological Reasons Behind It

In our quest to find love, we often overlook the psychological reasons why it’s so hard to find. We assume that everyone is out there finding love and that it’s just a matter of opportunity. Maybe they’re too busy or shy, or maybe they need more friends first. So why does it feel like so many people are struggling to find love? Why is the classic tale of a boy meets a girl, falls in love, and lives happily ever after increasingly rare? We all know someone who has struggled to find love — which makes us think that it must be harder than usual. However, this isn’t necessarily true. It could simply be that our social circles aren’t big enough: perhaps there aren’t enough people looking for other partners, or perhaps we have too many acquaintances with incompatible interests and needs.