Mako Blackwell

Is It Love?

One day, you meet someone. At first, it seems too good to be true. You seem to get along so well. Too well actually. FINALLY, it feels like you have met a compatible person who seems to understand you! They appear to be a good listener, almost too good of a listener. Then, comes the Love bombing behavior. Love Bombing? You know, the type of behavior that is often displayed at the beginning of a relationship, where the partner displays lots of attention, showering you with endless compliments and or over the top affection. It becomes clingy. Then, the behavior becomes possessive. Your significant other once made you feel like you were their world. They made you feel like they could not live without you. All of a sudden that “love bombing”behavior blows up in your face like a bomb. Your significant other transforms into someone who you don’t recognize. Now, they use the past against you. It explains why they had listened to you so intently in the beginning. They don’t listen to you any longer and have become insanely stubborn. If you make a mistake, you are criticized to no end; and, those sweet words that were once spoken to you by your partner, have been exchanged for verbal abuse. You always find yourself confused and apologetic for behavior that is not your fault. All your significant other does is guilt trips you, manipulates you, and deflects their negative behavior on you. Your partner is never accountable. Everything is your fault. You break up and they do everything possible to win you back. When you reconcile, the relationship only gets worse. Empty promises, broken promises. They want more details about you; yet, when you ask them questions, they are evasive. Instead, your significant other is accustomed to habitual lying, mysterious and shady behavior. You don’t feel like a respected individual. You feel broken and don’t even recognize yourself. You cannot remember the last time that you were happy. When you leave them for good, they unleash pure hell on your life! Sounds Familiar? I am sure that many of you can relate. Certainly, I can relate. This is NOT love! This is Narcissistic Abuse. You have encountered someone with narcissistic personality disorder.