Danielle Borlick

What Would You Do?

I am writing this in hopes it helps anyone who is in a long-term relationship and hopefully get some insight! 5 months ago, my boyfriend of then 5 years, complained of chest pain while shopping at Menards for piping to fix our garbage disposal that I plugged up with potato skins as I was making him homemade potato salad. He came home, described his symptoms which all sounded like a panic attack. He is so neurotic about things and does suffer from anxiety and depression although he takes no meds for either. So, I gave him 2 of my anxiety meds (1 in the afternoon and 1 before bed) and he instantly started to feel better. We both carried on with the rest of our day cooking and fixing the garbage disposal. As we were getting ready for bed, he was complaining of chest pain again so that is when I gave him the 2nd one. He again started feeling better shortly after. He fell asleep and literally slept like a baby. I stayed up until 2:30am to watch over him and make sure he was good. I finally fell asleep and he was up before me. I felt him get out of bed and at 5:30Am I was wide awake. I rushed into the kitchen to check on him and he said he felt great. We then went back to bed to watch TV and cuddle before the kids woke up. We must have fell back asleep because the kids came in and woke us both up. He was still feeling fine. The hours went by and by 10:30am everything went downhill. He spiked a fever, had chest pain, could not walk, had a hard time breathing, could not get himself dressed or even take a shower on his own. I had to shower him and get him dressed as he did not want to go to the hospital dirty. He decided he was just going to call 911 because of Covid and he did not want me and the kids at the hospital if we did not need to be. He came into the bathroom to brush his teeth and stated he felt like he was going to pass out. Being that he is so neurotic, I kind of blew it off. 2 seconds later he dropped. As soon as he dropped, he started having a grand mal seizure which lasted 5-7 minutes and then he died. Took his last breath right in front of me. I was on the phone with EMS from the moment he dropped. EMS arrived about 5 minutes after he died, which felt like the longest 5 minutes of my life and started CPR on him immediately. They worked on him for an hour at our house, so he was without oxygen to his brain for over an hour. At some point during the transport, he was revived. Because he had no oxygen to his brain for over an hour, he suffered a traumatic brain injury. His frontal and both temporal lobes of his brain were affected. There were moments I thought he was going to die AGAIN. The minute his family whom he was NEVER close to were informed, they pushed me completely out of the picture. Again, his family was NEVER close to him and he was not close to them. In fact, his own mother screwed him out of nearly $200,000.00 on a house of hers that she was giving to him to fix up which he spent $80,000.00 of his own money doing and then once it was finished, the deal was once he sells it – he gives her $100,000.00 and he gets to keep the rest to cover what he put into it and to cover the labor. Right before the house was finished, she got a restraining order against him and sold the house to someone else for $100,000.00. Totally screwing my boyfriend, so he wrote her off completely. His family basically kicked me out of our house by changing the lock code when I wasn’t there, they went in and stole his safe, all the keys to the vehicles, boat, and motorcycle, took his truck, took his big money jar that was filled to the top. They wouldn’t allow me to be involved in his care or be at the meetings with his medical team so I couldn’t hear first hand what his outcome would be or ask the proper questions that no body wanted to ask cause honestly they are just a bunch of stupid people whom are not medically inclined as I am from being in the medical field for 15 years. All they cared about what his money and possessions. The few times I spoke with his dad to get an update which I literally had to force out of him and quite honestly I felt like I lost brains cells trying to figure how someone can be so damn stupid and careless and not ask the type of questions I was asking because the answers I got were I don’t know and what do you want us to do, what do you expect us to do? HOW ABOUT YOU USE YOUR HEAD AND ASK THE QUESTIONS WHICH ARE COMMON SENSE QUESTIONS!