family

Family life from the feminist perspective; can women have it all? Can anyone?

Unfiltered
I’ve been living a filtered life, a life that most of us wish we had from the looks of it. My life is not perfect, but I almost put on an act to make it seem like everything is “okay.” From having the most laid back job, which is has decent pay, to traveling recently for my music. People that don’t really know who I am, but know me on social media keep telling me, “ you must be living the life, you’re traveling all over the place now.” And trust me, I am not trying to make it seem like I am ungrateful for it. I am completely grateful for it, but I have worked my ass bussing tables and taking orders from people who yell in my face, but I still have to put a smile on my face and do what I am told, but i’ve grown such a thick skin for people who treat others below them to not bother me because at the end of the day they are really not happy in their lives themselves.
By Brianna O7 years ago in Viva
The Importance of Women Who Aren't Our Mothers
I love my mom. I would be a liar if I didn't say that she is one of the most influential people in my life. However, recently I realized maybe she needed to share the Sacred Maternal Mountain.
By Deborah Schumack7 years ago in Viva
Do the Bump!
Unsurprisingly, the world has not moved on in the seven and a half years since I procreated, and the toxicity of the UK press continues unchallenged by concepts like "Heavens to Betsy, that is a really pointless thing to get judgemental about" and "this has got bugger all to do with the public interest, let's go investigate tax loop holes for Billionaire’s instead."
By The Duffers Diary7 years ago in Viva
Expectations of the Female
Buckle your seatbelts, folks! I have some bones to pick. Today, I am going to speak about modern women and the new standards that have somehow been set. I am 21 years old. I was born in 1997. I'm not old. But I'm also not super young. A lot of women in my generation have gone on and on about fighting for women to be able to be independent, work, go to college, and depend only on themselves.
By Alexis Ybañez7 years ago in Viva
100 Things Every Girl Should Know
The other day, I went for a walk with my daughter and we wound up in my friend's garage, just talking with a couple people. This friend had never met her before and immediately pointed out that she looks nothing like me. I wasn't offended—she doesn't. Aside from her bright red hair, we look nothing alike. He then commented that she might not look like me but maybe she would act like me. My immediate reaction was to say, "I hope not!" But he looked at me and shook his head and said it wouldn't be a bad thing if she did. Thanks for that. I started to think about it and I realized, he's right. It wouldn't be a bad thing if she turned out like me. But there's a couple things I want her to know before she does. And a few things that every girl should keep in mind as she grows up:
By Michelle Schultz7 years ago in Viva
To My Love, On Other Women
Darling, We are so busy. We both work six days a week to pay for this bungalow, and our cozy little life in it. There are things I often wish to tell you about, but I forget, for there is only time for “I love you” and “would you like me to make you coffee too?” As well as, “I am proud of you." All good things to be saying to one another, of course. Though, the extras sometimes get forgotten. So, I have written them here for you to read, perhaps on a smoke break, or on your day off, when and I am at work.
By Hadley Frances7 years ago in Viva
Next Wave Feminism?
Women have been fighting for their rights for the last 200 years. In many ways, we have progressed by leaps and bounds. We can vote, own property, have a job, make our own money, go to school, and are no longer sent to a looney bin for saying no to our dads or husbands. However, when it comes to domestic abuse, there is still a long way to go before the law and society catches up to where we should be.
By Mich7 years ago in Viva
Warrior Princess
We are all so quick to say what we would do if someone hurts our child. We all voice our plots and our plans if the unthinkable were ever to happen. We all get so enraged at the mere thought of someone hurting our babies. We even go as far as to say we would kill for our children. But what about when it does actually happen? What do we do then? What do we do when our child tell us that they have been abused in the worst way?
By Sophie Kerr7 years ago in Viva
Book Reflection: 'Miscarriage: What Every Woman Needs to Know'
It's been eight days. A hard eight days where I have had a lot of time to think and process and understand—I haven't 'moved on'; I don't think there is ever way to move on from something like this. My problem is that I am a massive control freak and going through a miscarriage hasn't worked well with that. Personally, I am not religious and therefore I can't find comfort in a faith or an omniscient being. Thus, I bought this book to understand the scientific reasons behind why miscarriage happens. I read it quickly and I will probably have to read it again to reabsorb. But it has helped me hugely, even if to reinforce the understanding that there was nothing I could have done to change it, nor anything I did to trigger losing our baby.
By Aimee W7 years ago in Viva
I Am a Christian and I Had an Abortion (Part 1)
7...14...21...28, 29, 30, 31... 32. Thirty-two days since my last cycle. I was late. In fifteen years I had never been late. Which only meant...
By Xena Warrior7 years ago in Viva
I Am a Christian and I Had an Abortion (Part 2)
I still had to wait another seven days before I could even be seen. In the meantime, I tormented myself by going online and seeing what developments would occur in my pregnancy and the cons of having an abortion. I found Christian propaganda—something about how abortions cause breast cancer.
By Xena Warrior7 years ago in Viva
So When Are You Having Kids?
Let me start off by saying that I AM NOT A MOTHER. I am not trying to discredit women who want to be stay-at-home moms. I tip my hat to the women who wake up before the sun rises because their infant needs to be fed. To the mothers who tuck their toddlers in at night and read them bedtime stories. To the women who inadvertently speak to adults like one of their children, because they rarely interact with grown ups anymore since they are 24/7 Bubble Guppy watching, Bob the Builder toy playing, Disney sing-along karaokers. This message is NOT for you, though you need to know how important and worthwhile you are.
By Xena Warrior7 years ago in Viva