beauty
“She wins who calls herself beautiful and challenges the world to change to truly see her.” - Naomi Wolf
Behind the Pretty Face
Do we really take a pretty face for face value or do we truly feel the soul behind it ? I have always carried myself as if, just because I am pretty does not mean I deserved more nor do I play ignorant to the blatant perks its gets in the real world. There are things we honestly have no control over like peoples perceptive of beauty or have the ability to turn our natural beauty on and off on command ( Lets get real here people , WE AREN'T ROBOTS). But we have still manage to create these warped emotions around the pain , the weight, the COST, and thats just to name a few. Lets be honest being "Pretty" is a full time LIFE commitment some of us don't sign up for and some don't really understand it once their in it. The strive to "Pretty" never stops for some people , some take to their grave that they will never be "pretty" enough. ummm, honestly What is Pretty ? Does it come with armor ? Can I Lock it away and collect later on its interest ? But lets not just focus on the word pretty itself , like why do I care if you think I am "attractive" in your Perceptive? Can you swallow the pain it hidden behind that face on a daily? Can you listen to society or social media perception of pretty and still feel whole ? Does Pretty Mean Strong ? I have so many questions. Constantly pushing our personal agendas to define our definition of "Pretty" for ourselves and everyone around us. All that hard work to still not completely be content and happy, WHEW CHILEEE im tireddddd for me and you. Self Love is the BEST defense against self hate ( this truly could be a solve all remedy for you it helps , SO TRY IT ) but what about the person who is naturally pretty, moved on from the phase of caring about anyones perception of them, just simply living their lives unproblematic but find them selves facing a whole different set of warped turmoil behind being "pretty" ? Did you know there are people with a fear attached to being perceived as too "pretty" ? What about having anxiety when your in public because you feel everyone is looking at you whether you on worst or best day? What about the people who turns their attractiveness for a profit either by need or choice? To have to wonder how to make your self not attractive to certain people or crowds or anyone but your DOMINANT partner . hmm suddenly being pretty doesn't sound so fun. What about the people who live with more than one perspective, or some other combination of the madness? Being attractive comes with some heavy weight but that doesn't deter people for striving for it and we never really understand another preceptive of it until we are in it with them. So to be able to answer that question I would be here all day because I am a pretty face and its my personal invisibility cloak. Imagine being pretty enough to catch the hallow attention of people without them ever really knowing you for anything but a pretty face. Yes I am attractive but I am so much more. I hide so much behind this face that often I forget when to drop the act. My Beauty has caused me love , pain , and everything in between, all for the sake to have some one tell me they find my well prepared and thoughtfully planned facade attractive. Suddenly your compliment doesn't merely add up to the perplex I already feel around my attractiveness. I know I would trade being attractive for a trillion different things does that make me sound crazy ? I wear this face EVERYDAY and everyday I can find new things to love , hate , and even ignore all together. But who will completely understand the soul under the pretty face?
By Monique Jackson5 years ago in Viva
Can you get a man's haircut as a woman?
I have short hair. It isn’t exactly a bob, but it doesn’t reach my shoulders. Meanwhile, one of my male colleagues has hair almost to his waist. He works very hard to maintain it. Now, I’m not writing this to say that there is anything wrong with him having long hair as a guy or my having short hair as a girl. What I feel is wrong is that despite him having more hair, I will still pay more than him at basically every hair salon.
By Sasha Nichols5 years ago in Viva
Revolution Resolution
Naomi Wolf, in her best-selling dissection of the beauty industry 'The Beauty Myth' addresses every contradiction that women are forced to endure when chasing aesthetic appeal. A woman must not be too fat nor too thin, too tall nor too short. She must not pursue sex but must open her legs willingly when a man commands her to do so.
By Emily Williams-Owen5 years ago in Viva
Self-Growth in the Year 2020
In the beginning, no one expected their entire year to be a living hell. For many reasons, everyone has suffered tremendously in their own ways. In simple terms, covid-19 has disrupted everything; leaving the world permanently scarred.
By Dez's Public Journal 5 years ago in Viva
The Making of Me
Sometimes I can be conflicted with the word beauty. I lived in a world where beauty was one dimensional and I amongst other women had no choice to accept it. Although there were men who secretly appreciated us, we still did not fit the mold of celebration and it hurt many people who shared my physical likeness.
By Genaya Johnson 5 years ago in Viva
SEXY
At the age of fifty-five I started looking for my sexy again. I have lost it several times in my life. It left in my thirties and it took until my forties to find it again. Again, it left when I turned fifty-three. This time it was harder to find. I had to redefine myself. There's nothing harder than redefining yourself. This time my nest was going to be empty. My little chick was going away to school. I had always been a mom, a single mom. A single mom whose boyfriend of many years had just broken up with her. I was not feeling sexy. I wasn't feeling anything but empty.
By Melanie Crane5 years ago in Viva
What is "Sexy"?
I recently went through a little stint where nothing I did made me feel "sexy" in the most feminine sense of the word. After being on a major weight loss journey, I gave in to all the negative thoughts I had about my body and spiraled. Night after night, I'd ask my fiancé if I was "sexy enough" for him. How could I be "sexy enough" for him? And every time I'd ask, he'd give me the same little roundabout answer: "You're pretty, and that's enough for me."
By Cat Richey5 years ago in Viva
Purpled Eyed Girl
H is shadow illuminated on the wall behind him. The light of the candles dancing along the stone walls. He slowly stepped along the dirt path that laid in front of him. As he reached the end of the path he came upon a small wooden door that had a small black knob on it. When he tried turning the knob the door wouldn’t budge. He tried jiggling the knob to see if it would come loose but there was still nothing. The ever so curious man quietly pressed his right ear against the wooden door to see if he could hear anything.
By Bianca Lafrennie5 years ago in Viva
