This Has Got to Stop!

I might get some backlash and probably get cancelled for speaking my mind about this topic, but I don't care. If I get cancelled on here for being honest, then so be it. I refuse to stay silent or sugarcoat everything. What I'm about to talk about needs to be called out and said. I'm going to be discussing people who abuse assistance programs and not do anything to better their lives, as if us, the taxpayers, owe them something. In case you haven't heard, there's going to be changes to SNAP. At least a dozen states will restrict junk foods, such as candy, chips, and soda, starting in the beginning of 2026. I predict that more states will follow suit. Also, SNAP recipients will be required to either volunteer for at least 15 hours a week or get a job in order to keep their benefits. I'll be heavily going in on black single mothers who have several kids by different fathers, then I'll have a few things to say to the black fathers who refuse to be in their children's lives. I'm going to give you a heads up and I apologize in advance: I'll be using some profanity, because people taking advantage of us and the government pisses me off. I also apologize in advance on behalf of black people, because not all of us act like this. It's just the majority. I'm embarrassed to see something like this happening.

Before I go any further, I want to make a few things clear. To the real single mothers and fathers who are providing for their children without any government assistance: you are appreciated to the highest degree. I understand that circumstances happen, like getting out of difficult and traumatic situations. You want the best for your children and contributing to society, so for that, I respect you greatly. Parenting is difficult and life isn't easy. It's not supposed to, but you can overcome many barriers and challenges that come your way. I empathize with what you're going through. So, the following rant is not targeted towards you.

Message to the single mothers who refuse to get off of government assistance: The first question I would ask you is why do you keep having children you can afford? Second, where is the father or fathers? Finally, why are you so comfortable with depending on the government? Government assistance programs like SNAP are meant to be a stepping stone, not generational. People online who are telling you to get a job, stop having kids, and get off government assistance, you get defensive and go off on them. The government, nor the taxpayers, aren't supposed to take care of you for the rest of your natural life. You're treating government assistance like a lavish lifestyle and an emotional crutch, instead of treating it as temporary help. When people tell you to stop abusing the system, you start cussing them out and gloating online. You are a fucking embarrassment as a parent and a human being. Being a single mom on government assistant with multiple kids is not a badge of honor. It's straight up laziness and selfishness, not empowerment. It's also poor planning. You got to have a backup plan; in case something comes up. Yes, I'm calling you selfish because you're clearly not ashamed or embarrassed. You are continuing to perpetuate a stereotype where having multiple kids on government assistance without a father is cool and empowering just to get more benefits, which is not. You'd want a better life for yourself and your children. Instead of you trying to level up, you want to be lazy, popping out babies, and mooch off the government while us hard-working folks are trying to make ends meet. Instead of closing your legs and using birth control, all you want to do is pop out more babies, who didn't ask to be here. The children are the only people I feel bad for. I don't feel sorry for you at all, nor I have one ounce of remorse. This economy is already fucked up, so why do it? Do you not have any self-respect for yourself? And don't give me that "I can't work" or "I don't want to work" bullshit. Stop with the endless excuses. We've heard them all. Finally, stop it with the guilt tripping. As much as President Trump has gotten on my nerves for years, he and his administration are cutting off people like you who abuse government assistance programs and putting a two-year limit on Section 8 housing are two of the things I agree with him on. I'm glad they're finally doing something about this, because the government assistance abuse has to stop. It won't be funny when all of your benefits get cut off, which will force you to get a job. You're getting thousands of dollars in food stamps, feeding your kids junk instead of fruits and vegetables. Healthy foods that'll be beneficial for them. The N in SNAP stands for nutrition. Candy and soda aren't considered nutritious. There's already an obesity epidemic, so why would you want your children to have heart disease and all these other health issues? That to me is child abuse. Welcome to the real world, because we, the taxpayers, have been tired of being responsible for your poor choices and unwillingness to change. I hope that the government cut all of your asses off government assistance. You're able-bodied and clearly nothing is wrong with you, so why do still need assistance? I'm not being cruel. I'm just being real and this is coming from a black Democrat. If you can run you fucking mouth on TikTok all day, then you can get up off your lazy ass and work. Stop making excuses and stop blaming others for your fuck-ups. Part of being an adult is being able to help yourself. I'm not against anyone receiving government assistance. If you've fallen on hard times and need some temporary help, that's fine. I'm not shaming you for it. However, there should be a time limit on these government assistance programs. Back to these women abusing the system: it's time for all of you to grow the fuck up and contribute to society. Get a job, two job, three jobs. Do whatever it takes to provide for yourself and your children. Stop making government assistance part of your identity and act like a responsible adult. You can't rely on the government forever and stand on your own two feet. By the way, us taxpayers don't dislike poor people, and we don't want anyone to go hungry. We're just fed up with people like you milking the system. You are saying that the government has no right to tell you what people should buy with their food stamps and it's no one's business. Yes, they can. When you receive any kind of government assistance, you go by their rules. Also, it is our business on how our tax dollars are spent. Y'all have the audacity to fix your mouths and say that you're entitled to long time government assistance, all because you don't want to improve your lives. What a damn shame. When you're boasting about how much government assistance you're receiving on social media, then you're making it our business. Once you put something on the internet, it's there forever. There's no such thing as delete, and we can screenshot images and videos. Finally, you are responsible for your own life choices, not us. The blame game and finger pointing has been going on for too long. Whenever you do lose your benefits, y'all would blame us, the taxpayers, because you were bold enough to brag about them online. Y'all would blame and deflect, acting like you're exempt from the consequences. You're not and you're not fooling anyone. The internet is forever. Never forget that. Be woman enough to take personal responsibility, not only for your own life, but for the choices you make.

To the absent black single fathers: Don't think I forgot about y'all. I got a few things to say to you, too. Just like the irresponsible single mothers, you aren't innocent, either. Why do y'all keep hooking up with random women and having children instead of committing to them? You also are perpetuating and cosigning with this nonsense. Is marrying a woman before carrying asking for too much? Let's normalize that instead of you having sex with everything that moves, getting them pregnant. Be a man and get involved in your children's lives. They need that positive, male influence in the household. You're running around doing God knows what, instead of you taking care of your children. I'm a black man and this shit is embarrassing. You are just as embarrassing as these lazy ass single mothers who won't do shit for themselves. Me, as a black man, criticizing other black men, doesn't mean I'm jealous or bitter. It's me calling this bullshit out and holding you accountable. You seeing your children every once in a while and calling yourself a "good father" is fucking comical and ridiculous. My advice to you: be a man and stop this foolishness. Be a real father and leave all of this goofy, teenager shit in the past.

I'm sick and tired of people glorifying Baby Mama/Baby Daddy culture. I remember when you were embarrassed to be on government assistance. Now, it's seen as empowering without any shame. What kind of example are you setting for your children? It'll only lead to homes being broken. We need to bring shame back. All baby mamas and baby daddies need to have several damn seats for this fuckery. Taxpayers working hard is being frowned upon, while fuckery such as people mooching off the government is seen as acceptable. Society is so backwards and fucked up. It's sad that we reward fuckery these days. People who have been taking advantage of government assistance programs for years, even generations, give people who actually need help a bad name. Not only it hurts the taxpayers, but it hurts those who really need the assistance. Honestly, I believe that government assistance, such as SNAP, should go to the disabled, elderly, and our veterans first. As I've said earlier, if you have fallen on hard times with no fault of your own and need some help, you deserve it as well. However, for those who have been abusing the help, this will be your "Fuck around, find out " moment, or FAFO for short. I hope everything I've been saying to you will encourage you to do better.

In closing, I've been on food stamps a couple of times before. It had been years since I've been on government assistance. I didn't want to feel too needy, but since I was going through difficult times, I had no choice. I needed a bit of temporary help until I found employment. Be grateful of any help you receive and don't abuse it. Take heed of the things I've said so far. Let's normalize personal responsibility and accountability. Sorry, not sorry, but somebody needed to tell the truth. Cancel me, go off on me. I don't care. I refuse to entertain this bullshit any longer. I appreciate my readers and subscribers on Vocal. I hope everyone understands that I wasn't saying these things to embarrass anyone, which is not my intention, but to be honest and encourage people to do better. We can all learn something from this. Sure, we're not perfect people, but getting on the right track is the key to a fulfilling life. Be the change and make better choices. Yes, empathy exists but only reserved to a select few.