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You Weren’t Hard to Love — You Were Just Asking the Wrong People to Try

The love you needed wasn't too much. It just required emotional depth they didn’t have.

By SHADOW-WRITESPublished 6 months ago 3 min read
You Weren’t Hard to Love — You Were Just Asking the Wrong People to Try
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They made you feel like loving you was a chore.

Like your needs were a burden.

Your emotions were too loud.

Your love was “too intense.”

But here’s the truth:

You weren’t hard to love.

You just kept handing your heart to people who didn’t know how to hold it.

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### (1. You Loved Deeply — And Expected Depth In Return)

You didn’t want perfection.

You didn’t need constant attention.

You just wanted presence.

Consistency.

Safe space to be your full self — even on your messy days.

That’s not too much.

That’s *healthy.*

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### (2. They Confused Emotional Maturity With Drama)

You asked for honesty.

They called it overthinking.

You expressed hurt.

They called it being dramatic.

You needed clarity.

They called it being “needy.”

But none of that was too much.

They were just emotionally unavailable.

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### (3. You Were Teaching Love To People Who Didn’t Want To Learn)

You gave examples.

Explained how you felt.

Held back your own pain just to protect theirs.

You were teaching what should’ve come naturally.

And teaching love is exhausting when the other person isn’t listening.

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### (4. They Liked Your Light — But Didn’t Know How To Handle Your Shadows)

They loved your laughter.

Your support.

Your energy.

But the moment you got quiet, or tired, or anxious — they backed away.

Not because you were difficult.

But because they only knew how to love the *happy version* of you.

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### (5. You Were Watering Relationships That Never Grew)

You showed up.

You forgave.

You gave more chances than you gave yourself grace.

And still — they didn’t grow.

That’s not your failure.

That’s their refusal.

You can’t grow something when you’re the only one holding the watering can.

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### (6. You Made Love Safe For Everyone But Yourself)

You created emotional safety for others.

Listened without judgment.

Held space without conditions.

But where was *your* space?

Who held you when you fell apart?

Being the safe space for everyone else left *you* unheld.

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### (7. They Didn’t Want Real — They Wanted Easy)

You brought truth to the table.

Depth. Accountability. Healing.

They weren’t ready for that.

They wanted simple.

Effortless.

Love without work.

But real love *requires* work.

That’s why they left.

Not because you were hard to love — but because you asked for something *real.*

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### (8. You Started Loving Yourself — And They Called It Distance)

The moment you stopped chasing?

They said you changed.

The moment you set boundaries?

They called you cold.

But you weren’t being distant.

You were finally loving yourself the way they never did.

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### (9. Your Love Wasn’t Meant For People Who Needed You To Shrink)

The right people won’t flinch at your depth.

They won’t ask you to be smaller, quieter, easier.

They’ll match your energy.

They’ll meet you where you are — not where it's convenient for them.

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### (10. One Day, Someone Will Thank You For Loving This Way)

They’ll see the way you care.

How you notice the little things.

How you listen not just with your ears, but your *heart.*

And they’ll say,

“Where have you been?”

And you’ll know —

**You weren’t too much.
You were just never truly met before.**

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### 🌿 Final Thought

You weren’t asking for too much.

You were asking the wrong people.

People who didn’t know how to stay.

How to listen.

How to love someone who feels deeply.

(. . .) But here’s what you need to remember:

**The love you give is rare.
The way you show up is sacred.
And the day someone meets you fully —
You’ll never have to explain your heart again.**

Because they won’t run.

They’ll rise.

Right beside you.

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