Why Narcissists Seem Like Two Different People

Narcissists are contradictory, perplexing people. Even their ability to be polite and kind is one of their inconsistencies. and poisonous and harsh.

It raises the question, “Is the kind and nice one the fake one?” Or the poisonous and nasty one who pretends to be them? Which of these is the true one?

Dealing with someone who is always poisonous and vicious is simpler than dealing with someone who is sometimes pleasant and unpleasant.

You may spend decades or possibly the rest of your life trying to solve this issue.

It gives narcissist sympathizers the opportunity to deceive you by saying that they never intended any damage and that you should forgive them right away or never pass judgment since you would act in the same way. This is a risky line of thinking that will result in you discarding your whole life as their lifetime punching bag.

Via the narcissist cycle, narcissists directly mistreat you.

By tricking you into feeling pity for the narcissist, narcissist sympathizers implicitly mistreat you.

People of both kinds are hazardous.

Let’s go back to the question. Is the brutality accidental or deliberate?

It’s both. We keep attempting to fit narcissists into the neurotypical pigeonhole, which makes them so confusing and hard to comprehend. They are not appropriate.

Our motivations are different from those of narcissists. They have different perspectives and react to situations differently than we do.

They are a tangle of contradicting themselves, acting irrationally, making useless efforts for meaningless victories, short-circuiting and dissociating, sabotaging oneself, and disowning and disavowing.

Subclinical multiple personality disorder is a significant instrument that will enable us to have a breakthrough knowledge of narcissists. Instead of having several personalities to the degree that it can be diagnosed, as in full-blown multiple personality disorder, narcissists have a subclinical form that is more subtle. It’s better described as multiple agent disorder.

agent

Dictionary entry for the agency

/ˈeɪdʒ(ə)nt/

noun

A representative, negotiator, business manager, emissary, envoy, factor, go-between, proxy, surrogate, trustee, liaison, broker, delegate, spokesperson, spokesman, spokeswoman, frontman, mouthpiece; informal representative2. a person or object that actively participates or has a specific influence. “Universities are typically liberal communities that frequently view themselves as agents of social change.” “My agent informed me that someone wanted to make a film out of my novel.”

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Multiple agent disorder affects narcissists. The part of ourselves that assesses, determines, and selects is called an agent. It is agency’s basic term. Narcissists lack a single, cohesive agent because they are internally broken and divided. They lack strong agency as a result. Rather, they have a number of fighting, contradictory, and competing agents fighting for control of the host.

Thus, you are interacting with Agent A one moment and Agent B the next.

It becomes intriguing at this point. Agent A wants to be loved, which is why they are the lovebombing, phony lovey-dovey, and fake joy-to-the-world kind. Agent B, who just enjoys seeing blood and sorrow, is more like a malevolent sadist.

Agent B might stealthily enter and take control while you are smiling and enjoying yourself with Agent A. The narcissist then acts on the overwhelming need to spoil the event by causing needless cruelty, saying inappropriate things, and doing so.

Since you cannot see Agents A or B, nor are you aware that your narcissist is not occupied by a single, concrete, coherent, consistent agent, all of this occurred without your awareness.

This is where the “yes” and “no” responses are useful. In addition to wanting to injure, destroy, and ruin you, the host, who is a narcissist, does not. Although Agent B wants to hurt you, Agent A doesn’t really care. Additionally, they alternately operate the narcissist (think of it as a multi-driver, unpredictable automobile).

Since there are more than two agents in the narcissist, it’s really much worse than that. Furthermore, Agent A isn’t very kind either. In the narcissist, agents of all nastiness levels alternately rule over the actor or faker that we refer to as the narcissist; no agent is really good or righteous. Simply said, some agents are far worse than others.

When no agent is currently in possession of the narcissist, they exhibit their well-known blank look. Some compare it to an actor who has dropped his script and is unsure about what to say or do next. That is very close to the actual image. The narcissist may really be on standby, waiting for an agency to take over and give them instructions since no one agent has complete control over them.

Thus, when we acknowledge that the narcissist

is your sibling, but not your sibling, who wants to travel abroad with you and not spend a single moment with you; wants you to like them by attending your birthday party and grabbing the cake and throwing it at you while laughing; wants that nice car for themselves, buys it, sells it, then regrets selling it; makes a promise to you, then quickly breaks it in private; wants to attend your party, despises attending your party; wants to marry you, despises the thought of being married to you, etc. All of this makes a lot more sense now.

I firmly believe that when narcissists act cruelly, it is always done with purpose and meaning. When they do it, see how eagerly they do the damage. It is obvious that a normally boring and uninterested individual is enjoying and alive. They have no defense because of the avidness.

Narcissists are inherently sympathetic to sadism, brutality, and the infliction of pain on loved ones. When people act in these ways, they are being authentic. Let there be no misunderstanding.

But do narcissists lack self-awareness because of the many rotating agents? That they don’t really know they hurt people?

No. They know. Their self-deception, which they practiced from an early age, is what first caused them to become such a broken, shattered creature. It is no accident that there are so many agencies. In the same way that an actor enjoys playing parts or someone else enjoys adopting various voices, the narcissist constructed each one and enjoys inhabiting each one.

The narcissist would never have broken apart and produced all of these agents if they had not committed to the road of hostility, disdain, and rebellion and walked in falsehoods. They would have been typical.

It’s similar to owning fifteen cats. I wouldn’t trust you if you said that you unintentionally acquired fifteen cats. Every cat is acquired separately at a certain moment in time.

Therefore, the narcissist bears full responsibility for the many agents they possess, which they purposefully produced at some point in the past and allow residents to use on a cyclical basis. Additionally, they bear accountability for the actions of each and every one of their agents.

How much more accountable is a narcissist for the problems their agents cause if parents are held accountable for the crimes and mischief their minor children commit and any parent who denies the mischief is even more at fault (denying the mischief your child causes is a clear indication of poor parenting and bad character).