Why Narcissists Can’t Build or Shift Their Paradigms

Narcissists do not experience paradigm shifts.

‘Getting over things’ is another way of saying ‘experience a paradigm shift’.

So there is nothing to get over, there is no paradigm to shift.

Why?

Narcissists don’t really have paradigms.

What’s a paradigm?

A paradigm is a pattern that attempts to predict reality. We pattern match things to achieve results. Our weather forecasts rely on having correct climate models. Those models are paradigms.

For example, when the narcissist lovebombed you, and fooled you to believe they were the most decent and loving thing that ever existed, they were messing with your paradigm, with your pattern recognition of reality. They fit the pattern match of the perfect match.

Then they abused you and revealed their true meanness.

And then you had to ‘get over it’ because you had to ‘shift your paradigm’ from that of the loving decent person to that of the truly mean person. Your reality was going crazy. You needed to shift your paradigm to get over it before you went crazy.

When you have no paradigm, there is nothing to shift.

Why do narcissists have no paradigm?

Because they don’t think in context. They have no big picture. They are enemies of the meta. It’s their MeNow doing it. They don’t pattern match. They don’t build models of reality, not really, they only project project project and presume using falsehood and fabrication. Chasing dopamine thrills senselessly. Faking it to make it. They will never truly make it, which condemns them to a lifetime of fakeness.

Why don’t narcissists get paradigms? Why don’t they pattern match?

It’s because their minds are a mess of pure falsehoods and self-deception. And pure immediate term thinking, MeNow. And it’s fragmented, incoherent, disconnected, short-circuited, and a very unfriendly and hazardous place for truth and understanding.

Paradigms are built on temporary truths and understandings (which later get replaced by greater truths and understandings). Narcissists don’t have any truth or understanding to begin with, and they never will.

They don’t care about how reality works.

They fabricate reality. They don’t seek to harmonize with it to understand or predict it. They demand reality on their own terms.

Narcissists are all about the instant discardance of cognitive dissonance through instant falsehood.

You cannot build paradigms like this.

So, having no paradigms, they have nothing to shift, nothing to get over.

That makes narcissists a lot more robust emotionally than us, due entirely to their shallowness.

They have no mental, emotional, or spiritual intricacy within them.

They are very simple creatures that eat, drink, and have sex.

Their thinking and emotional patterns mostly involve mimicry, instead of reflection, realization and insight (because these things are paradigm operations). They seek dissolution, not resolution to problems.

Because they have so much fewer components, so much less things can malfunction or breakdown. They don’t feel many of the things we feel, and they don’t get hung up like we do (because getting hung up means holding onto the promise of love despite betrayal, narcissists don’t believe in love, they get over things easily). They are more robust systems.

Life is simple for the narcissist. They never wonder about the bigger things in life. They have no spiritual components and hence do not operate spiritually. That is why their unrepentance and perverse perceptions are so intractable. Truth is inaccessible to them because truth is ultimately spiritual.

Whatever they can’t immediately figure out, they dismiss.

Dismissing, discardance, disregardance, that’s the narcissist’s answer to anything they can’t immediately understand.

Someone once told me that people complicate things too much, narcissism is just plain simple selfishness.

That’s an example of quickly dismissing something they can’t understand.

The examples can keep going, someone else once shared that there is no such thing as narcissistic abuse, abuse is just abuse, all abuse is the same.

Narcissists may seem to have paradigms, but they aren’t really paradigms.

For example, some people have the paradigm that

‘all members of the opposite sex are <insert insult here>’

That’s not a paradigm, not really, that’s a disregardance.

Paradigms emerge from sincere attempts to evaluate or data mine reality. They do not come from simplistic answers that bypass deep reflection.

What paradigms narcissists seem to have are all disregardance models, they are not paradigm models because of their inherent theme of bypassing earnest reflection in favor of projections and falsehood.

10 and with all unrighteous deception among those who perish, because they did not receive the love of the truth, that they might be saved.

Bible Gateway passage: 2 Thessalonians 2:9–11 — New King James Version