Why Narcissists Can Never Be Cured And Why Narcissists Can’t Experience True Growth

Because of this, narcissists cannot be cured.

Not only do they not actually feel, but they also do not honestly reason.

They have forgotten what is genuinely important to them.

The process of reevaluating oneself requires the use of reasoning. The process of thinking allows us to retrain our thoughts. When situations in our lives have an effect on us, they first change our recollections, and this change is then stored in our memories. After then, such recollections have an effect on our thinking.

Those memories are processed via thinking that is correct or healthy. Our understanding of the environment and of other people develops as a result of our ability to appropriately interpret them, which is the source of sense. It is referred to as development, wisdom, and maturity.

In order to facilitate thinking, genuine sentiments are required. In reality, a significant portion of our thinking originates from the need of resolving challenging emotions. Recollections, on their own, do not have a significant impact on us since they are not accompanied by sentiments. Those teachings that they taught us in high school are not applicable to our lives. Our emotional memories are the ones that have an effect on us. In addition, these recollections compel us to develop by compelling us to engage in introspection and to reassess our own selves, as well as the world and the people in it.

A second time, it is necessary to have sentiments that are authentic, proper, and healthy overall. They do not contribute to development, to comprehending things, or to better modeling anything. Fake sentiments do not push us to reason, and they do not contribute to any of these things.

The last kind of memories that are actually significant in life are those that include feelings. It was noted previously that not all of our memories are significant. We will not dwell on the mathematics we learned in high school while we are lying on our deathbeds. Because they play such a significant role in the formation of our identities, the experiences that we have in our lives — both the happy and the sad, the victories and the failures — are considered to be our genuine memories.

Narcissists are deficient in all three. They are incapable of serious reasoning. They are unable to feel in actuality. They are unable to recall any emotions that are both significant and accurate.

As well as created or altered memories, they have constructed versions of all three, including invented reasoning, fabricated sentiments, and fabricated memories.

That they are unable to digest their life is due to the fact that they lack these things. In reality, they have either no life data at all or a very little amount of life data to analyze.

The fact that narcissism cannot be cured is in fact closely connected to the fact that their growth is halted, and it ultimately originates from the same source.

Do they have any interest in comprehending anything that has to do with emotions?

Is there any emotion that they recall from the events?

Are they able to have true emotions as a result of the circumstances?

Does the presence of these items prompt people to think true thoughts in an effort to find a solution to the problem, to reason why?

For the same reason that you cannot sit a narcissist down, reason with them and speak some sense into them (they will put on the mask of listening, and the appearance of comprehending, but nothing truly gets through), you also cannot make them feel in reaction to things.

There is no way to argue with a narcissist. And they do not experience any emotions.

In point of fact, they do feel. In addition, the majority of what they believe can be classified precisely within these restricted categories

The epic, the threatening, the terror, the fury, the impatience, and the boredom

When they emanate from a narcissist, these sensations are not real in the sense that they are not genuine since the narcissist’s deployment of them is often inappropriate.

Just one example:

After the birth of their infant, they experience feelings of boredom. When they lose at chess, they experience feelings of danger, which are followed by feelings of narcissistic wrath. When they are warned not to leave filthy dishes lying about, they experience feelings of threat, which are followed by feelings of narcissistic rage.

In the event that an old friend visits them, they experience feelings of indifference. When they find out that a friend was involved in a vehicle accident, they experience feelings of triumph. When they are informed that they are abusive, they experience feelings of danger, which are followed by feelings of narcissistic wrath.

These emotions are not real in any way. These are reactions that are not normal. It does not have any brakes. There is no steering wheel involved. It does not have any gear shifts. When it comes to fabricated or improper emotions, the narcissist is a vehicle that accelerates to either zero or maximum speed. It might be difficult to differentiate between genuine and improper emotions.

Therefore, their awareness is not formed since they do not have access to actual raw material to work with. The reason why narcissist spotters see that narcissists appear to be extremely inhuman in the way that they interact with life and other people is because of this.

Because they are always pretending to be serious in the hopes of succeeding, narcissists never take anything seriously in a heartfelt manner.

Due to the fact that they lack any sense of what is significant and what is not, they are able to overlook anything.

They have no idea of personhood, limits, or respect, and they also lack a moral compass, so they fail to be outraged by things that are really offensive. They get angry over nothing, and they fail to get upset by things that are truly offensive.

Due to the fact that they are unable to feel affection for their loved ones, they take pleasure in the company of strangers while neglecting those they care about.

They have a strong desire for something, but as soon as they obtain it, they lose interest in it (they wanted it for the fantasy, not for the actual item itself).

Initially, they begin projects, but they eventually abandon them (projects are only beneficial so long as they are based on imagination; once they become reality, they are detrimental).

Despite the fact that they exhibit a deep conviction in something, they act in a manner that is completely hypocritical with regard to the principles that it upholds (narcissists cannot be real believers since they are all Judases).

Despite the fact that they have alienated all of their loved ones, they do not feel worry for their future since they do not consider their loved ones to be real.

Because they do not believe in the existence of the future, they never make any investments in the future and instead spend money as if there is no tomorrow.

They are unable to even sympathize with their own future selves; they regard their future selves as if they were a source of exploitation, and they devour their own future until there is none left (in their minds, their future selves do not exist).

They are incapable of emotion since there are no other individuals in the world.

They are unable to feel sorry for themselves since they have never done anything to those who have died.

Remorse is not possible for them.

A lack of true interest, wonder, joie de vivre, introspection, moments of serious thought, and other such qualities is present in them.

There has never been a paradigm change that narcissists have experienced. In no way, shape, or form. Their concepts are not authentic in any way. There is nothing that can be changed.

As a result, this is due to the fact that their only paradigm is arbitrariness. They have never made a serious investment in a position, and all of their views are like masks; they are interchangeable, disposable, and irrelevant without any real significance. A paradigm is not something that is arbitrary. Chaos has ensued.

The fact that they have never acquired awareness, which is the fundamental cause of their halted growth and inhumanity, makes it impossible to heal them.

It is a mystery why they lack empathy.

I don’t understand why they never feel guilty for the people they harm.

I don’t see why people are unable to recognize when they have wronged themselves.

I don’t understand why everything they hear is misinterpreted by them.

Why does everything that they do simply focus on themselves, with no consideration given to the outside world (they ignore all that is going on around them)?

It is possible that if you give these matter a sufficient amount of thought, you will come to the realization that these matters pertain to the criterion for genuine personality. The narcissist is lacking something, and no one knows what it is. It is only one way to try to come to terms with it, and calling it “inhuman” is just one of those ways.

Even if you call it by any other name, ‘not really there’, ‘no one home’, ‘lack object constancy’, ‘fragmented’, ‘heartless’, ‘callous’, ‘indifferent’, ‘flat effect’, ‘shallow effect’, ‘selfish’, ‘apathetic’, ‘masks’, ‘inauthenticity’, ‘false self’, etc. you would still be addressing the same mysterious factor. The situation has not changed at all.