When Someone with Depression Says These 4 Things, Don’t Ignore Them

In Australia, where open landscapes and blue skies often symbolize freedom and vitality, mental health struggles can still feel isolating. Depression is more than just sadness—it can make everyday life feel exhausting and meaningless. If someone around you frequently says the following four phrases, don’t assume they’re joking or being dramatic. These words often reflect a deeper struggle that deserves serious attention.

1. “I’m so tired, I don’t want to do anything.”

Depression drains a person’s energy, leaving them exhausted even when they haven’t done anything physically demanding.

In Australia, where an active lifestyle is the norm—whether it’s surfing at Bondi, hiking in the Blue Mountains, or simply taking a walk in the park—this kind of fatigue can be easily misunderstood. It’s tempting to assume someone is just overworked or stressed from life’s demands.

But for someone with depression, this exhaustion is persistent and overwhelming. They might sleep for hours and still feel utterly drained, as if their body has been hollowed out. This fatigue isn’t just physical; it’s a deep emotional weight that makes even getting out of bed feel impossible.

2. “It’s all my fault. I’m the problem.”

People with depression often blame themselves for everything that goes wrong, even when circumstances are beyond their control.

Australians tend to have a laid-back, “no worries” attitude, but for someone battling depression, self-criticism can be relentless. Whether it’s a minor disagreement with a friend or a simple mistake at work, they might replay the situation over and over, convinced that they are the cause of every problem.

This deep self-doubt can lead to a cycle of guilt and despair, making it even harder for them to reach out for help.

3. “Wouldn’t everyone be better off if I disappeared?”

This statement might sound alarming, but it reveals a painful truth: many people with depression feel like a burden to those around them.

Even in a country that values mateship and community, depression can make a person feel isolated. They may believe their family and friends would be happier without them, even when that’s far from reality.

If someone says this, don’t dismiss or invalidate their feelings. Saying things like “Don’t be silly” or “Of course, we care about you” may not be enough. Instead, let them know they are valued, that their presence matters, and that their struggles don’t define them. Encourage them to seek professional support, whether through a GP, a mental health service like Beyond Blue, or even a simple conversation with a trusted friend.

4. “Life is meaningless. I’d be better off dead.”

If someone repeatedly says this, it’s a serious warning sign.

Depression can strip away the joy in life, making the world seem dull and lifeless. Even in a place as vibrant as Australia—where weekend BBQs, road trips, and ocean swims are part of everyday life—someone struggling with depression may feel numb to it all.

The famous Australian author Tim Winton once wrote, “The world is still beautiful, even if you don’t see it right now.” But for those battling depression, that beauty feels completely out of reach.

If suicidal thoughts become frequent, seeking immediate professional help is crucial. Organizations like Lifeline Australia (13 11 14) and Beyond Blue provide support 24/7.

What Can We Do?

The words someone with depression speaks are a reflection of their inner turmoil. Instead of brushing them off or assuming they’ll “snap out of it,” we can:

✔ Listen without interrupting or judging – Let them express their pain fully.

✔ Acknowledge their feelings – Show them they’re heard and that their emotions are valid.

✔ Remind them they matter – Small words of encouragement can make a huge difference.

✔ Encourage professional help – Support them in reaching out to a GP, therapist, or mental health service.

In a country that values mateship, looking out for one another is part of our culture. Sometimes, the best thing we can do is simply be there, listen, and remind them they are not alone.