Think Twice Before Going Back to Those Who Disrespect You

Yes, you read the title exactly right. You are responsible for your mental health and body. Sometimes we think about what others think and oppress ourselves. This is not the right way. I am here to tell you that if you don't care for yourself, no one will take care of you.

Dear Listeners!!!

It's time to think about your self-care. If you are the kind of person who, despite trying hard, cannot convince the people close to you that you are bothered by their behavior, STOP!!!

Protect your Energy

You need to understand that not all relationships are worth rekindling. Some people fade away because they didn't make room for you in the first place, not because of time or distance. Yet in times of loneliness or longing, we are compelled to return - to rekindle those relationships that once mattered, even if they were one-sided. But the reality is, you'll feel worse when you see people who don't care about your absence.

People naturally turn to the familiar for comfort. Even when they aren't, the past can seem like a haven when life is uncertain. We romanticize past relationships and erase pain by remembering the laughter. We tell ourselves that perhaps circumstances have changed or that our assessment was too critical. But we know in our hearts that if someone truly cared, they would want to fill the void left by your absence instead of just noticing it. They would also regret their behavior. But that's never possible. This is why giving these people a second chance is a self-defeating and self-deprecating way to go.

Feelings are not a burden

Your feelings aren't overly intense, awkward, or dramatic. They're real. Plus, people who respect you will never see your emotional needs as a problem. But people who don't care about your weaknesses, your absences, or your silences have one thing in common: they were never emotionally available in the first place.

People who truly care are the ones who notice the little changes. When you're quiet or annoyed by your behavior, they will ask. When you pull away, they lend a helping hand. They're there even in quiet times; they don't wait for you to have a mental breakdown. So, realize that if you have to yell at them or beg to see them, they're not your person.

Emotional neglect is not always loud

Sometimes the most intense pain is caused by subtle indifference. It’s the unanswered texts, the frequently rescheduled appointments, and the indifferent response to your pain. We ignore these warning signs because we want to connect. However, self-sacrifice should never be the price of affection.

It’s not brave to turn to those who haven’t been touched by your pain; rather, it’s self-destructive. You deserve love that feels more like protection than performance. Not just when it’s easy, but especially when it’s hard, you deserve people who return the favor.

Growth means outgrowing

You begin to see patterns as you recover. You start to realize how much you compromised for loyalty, friendship, or love. Realizing that the individuals you once held closest were simply ever making room for themselves might occasionally be the most difficult aspect of recovering.

However, growth is more than just going on; it's also about avoiding reverting to the patterns that broke you in the past. It's about respecting your limits, following your gut, and going for peace even when your heart aches for resolution.

Let silence serve as a conclusion

Not every situation requires a grand farewell or final conversation. Unanswered questions can sometimes be the answer. There are times when silence speaks louder than words. Believe those who show disinterest in you. Let that be enough.

Reconciliation and forgiveness are not the same thing. You may forgive someone and keep them out of your life forever. Even if you wish them well, you may still be moving on. When you accept things as they are, not as they were before. That is when you bring yourself closer.

You are not too much

You were too much for what wasn’t enough. And you are not to blame for that. It is not your responsibility to belittle yourself to accommodate the inadequacies of others.

You will never need to convince the right people. They will come to you without asking. They will make room for your heart, your ideas, and your concerns. They will express concern constantly, not just when it is convenient.

Therefore, avoid going back to those who worry. Avoid going back to places that make you feel empty and bothered. Your power is sacred, so use it with the utmost care. You have worked so hard to become a whole person that someone who has never seen you can’t break you again.

Your peace is very precious. Take that as your argument.