The Real Cause of Narcissism: Anti-Truth

Narcissism is not caused by insufficient love received.

Narcissism is not caused by lack of unconditional love from parents.

Narcissism is not caused by parental neglect.

Narcissism is not caused by low self-esteem.

Narcissism is not caused by defence mechanisms.

Narcissism is not caused by excessive coddling and pampering.

Only one thing causes narcissism, which is anti-truth.

This is a very bold statement, so let’s attempt to prove it.

I will use the popular mental experiment technique to prove it.

Can a narcissist be 100% truthful for one day and still remain a narcissist?

Narcissists come from all walks of life, rich, poor, neglectful parents, pampering parents, physically abused, mentally and emotionally abused, never abused, highly privileged and entitled, underprivileged and resentful against society, etc.

What’s the common thread among all those things?

There is no common thread among them.

That suggests that narcissism is unrelated to environmental causes.

So what is common across all narcissists through time, cultures, gender, and background?

Narcissists inhabit false realities.

Your personal reality is a subject beyond current scientific ability to probe, and so, scientifically speaking, it’s currently impossible to investigate.

But spiritually, there are rich veins for investigation.

If you can fix their falsehood, you can fix narcissism.

But how can you talk sense to a person who falsifies everything they see, hear, and experience?

How can truth get through to a person who only ever does one of the two things below?

perpetuate falsehood

discard truth

Enough love will accomplish nothing for narcissists.

Also, there is no such thing as enough love when it comes to narcissists. They are leaky buckets.

There is only one way to fix narcissism.

Enough truth.

Enough truth will either cure narcissism or destroy your relationship with them. Usually it’s the latter.

8/2/2019

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Narcissists inherently function from their overwhelmingly strong personal narrative.

The most common personal narrative is that of A Story of A Perfect Creature (credit : Milva).

The themes that stem from this narrative are

I am a cute, adorable creature

I am inherently loveable if you only could be taught to treat me right, just the way I want you to, because I’m special and there is a way to bring out my specialness, if only you knew how, but I’ll keep that a secret!

Whatever wrongdoings you perceive can be explained away by my cuteness and adorableness

I am not as bad as you think, watch how cute I am!

Anyone who attempts to hold me accountable gets my counter-accusation (e.g. if you write to criticize narcissism, you’re a narcissist yourself) because no one is perfect (except me) and no one should point fingers

Don’t judge me too harshly, because I’m so cute and adorable and blamelessly faultless

Ridiculous evil fostering philosophies to explain away bad and wrong behavior rather than to elucidate, clarify, and hold accountable (e.g. evil people and wrongdoers just need parenting, 60 year politicians just need parenting, a banker who predatorially sold subprime loans just needs parenting, a narcissist parent just needs parenting) (e.g. victims of narcissistic abuse just failed to parent the narcissist correctly, children of narcissist parents failed to parent their parent correctly, spouses should be parenting each other because marriage is about parenting) (e.g. a successfully parented narcissist is a well behaved narcissist, no more degradation and abuse and crazymaking cycles)

License for evil (e.g. I read the Bible every day, narcissists who read the Bible can’t be that bad) (e.g. I donate money, narcissists who donate money can’t be that bad, etc.). (e.g. I helped an old lady cross the road) Everything ‘good’ they did becomes currency to excuse them of some later wrongdoing, the more ‘good’ they are, the more license they obtain for future evil (and so they wear their license for evil like a badge and prominently flaunt it)

Specious advice (e.g. to get the best out of a narcissist, just praise, praise, praise them; narcissists thrive on praise, a praised narcissist will return the favor and treat you like how you deserve; just give a narcissist enough supply and they will become an adorable creature, like how they inherently already are) (e.g. praise or love bombing brings out the best in your narcissist, if your narcissists mistreats you, that’s only because you failed to keep up with your love bombing obligations)

Trivializing your problem away (e.g. the narcissist withheld from you because you failed to communicate your needs and expectations to them)

etc.

etc.

The sole reason for a narcissist’s narrative is to perpetuate falsehood.

The sole reason for their falsehood is to enable them to get away with things.

The twin reasons for getting away with things are

to avoid accountability

to repeat the offence endlessly in the future

Once you become aware that everything the narcissist says is some form of falsehood that only results in ruin, you learn to treat everything they say with suspicion. Everything a narcissist tells you is gaslighting.

And no, they are not A Perfect Creature, they are usually just A Cutesy Miscreant.

Everything a narcissist says comes with the intent to toy with you to create perverseness and confusion.

The narcissist eats your love, runs it through their alimentary canal, and gives you back ruin.