Self-exploration

SELF EXPLORATION

(SOGHAT JAVED)

Self-exploration which is also known as self-realization at the right time is the best thing that can happen to oneself. Self-Realization is the continuous process whereby an individual’s self-concept is enhanced every time they experience some change.

If you are doing something which is not making your inner self happy and not giving you peace, you just need to REALIZE, UNDERSTAND AND CHANGE.

Talking about myself, past few months were dreadful! I was just losing my mind literally to nothing, The aggression, the rage, the emptiness and what not. Negativity soon conquered my mind but then I started to REALIZE.

REALIZE:

Realizing is always the first step you take towards positivity. I realized the damage was only effecting me, not everyone can be at fault, It’s me.

Realizing that the anger which was making home inside me can break me in no time, because being angry every time don’t make us strong instead it makes so weak that crying, screaming seems the only solution to you.

• Anger:

I used to feel exasperation on every tiny matter which can be resolved easily, still I used to hurt my loved ones with my words , my actions.

Rachel says “Words spoken in anger leave wounds that never heal”

But then I realized no one is as angry as the person who is wrong and I was definitely wrong!

Realizing that your Ego is your biggest enemy. The “I” factor in you can ruin your mental peace, your relations, your respect.

• Ego:

I used to put myself in the first place always, I am always right ! why are they not doing what I am saying? Why should I talk first? Why should I apologize first? He is wrong he should do it. Why should I compromise always? Why should I share my things ! It was always about me and myself without realizing I am hurting someone’s self-esteem. But then I realize “In the war of ego , a loser always wins”

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Realizing that ignoring things, staying quiet only makes you provoked. Believe me Ignorance is really toxic.

• Ignorance:

I never tried to talk and resolve issues, instead I used to stay quiet to ignore things and treasure all the negativity in my mind and in the heart (whose function is to pump blood only :D ) and then everything comes out like BOOOM !! It’s a volcano.

UNDERSTAND:

After realizing the bad in your man-made good, the next step your brain should take is to understand. For instance you realize your mistakes but do not understand how are they going to affect you , what are you losing actually, what next you should do to prevent all the negativity, then what is the point to realize? After few days it will be same again.

One day I just sat down alone to have some “ME” time. To understand where will this inner disturbance lead me to? Why am I destroying my mental health? why am I torturing my loved ones? The answer I got from me was don’t run away from your mistakes! Fix them! Learn from them and Understand what you need to do to overcome them. Mistakes are always forgiven until you are ready to admit and change.

If anyone of you realize your mistakes, just own them and try your hard to rectify them instead of always being the rigid one.

After all John Powell said “The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing”

CHANGE:

Now the last but the most difficult step is for you to change, because it’s not just a piece of cake that you got It, ate it and digest. NO! It’s difficult to accept the fact that what you were doing since so long was all wrong and now you have to change it but if you make your mind nothing is impossible.

• Just try to stay calm. Take deep breaths, if you’re feeling that rage, try to do what you love more (I love to pen down my feelings and that’s what I am doing)

• Speak your heart out, you want to cry Do cry, don’t keep anything inside you.

• Spend more time with your loved ones.

• Minimize that “I” factor, think about others as well keeping yourself in their shoes, you will get to know what you have to change.

I am still fighting with the monster inside me by changing these minor character traits which can make my life horrible. I am moving forward to my peaceful way. Relaxed than ever. Hope you also get through it.

Hope this article helped you 