Reading the Silent Signs of a Covert Narcissist

Dealing with a hidden narcissist exposes a whole other world of nonverbal communication applicable for the circumstances. Though it is rather easy to recognize when it is happening to you, it is regrettably quite difficult to provide a thorough explanation of it.

I will try to give you some understanding of what they do and how they approach it now. Maybe other people will be able to add their own experiences in the comments section below to make it more whole even if my explanation is going to be insufficient.

Many subfields fit within the nonverbal communication umbrella.

1. Narc Face — Facial Expressions — in a Reclined Position

“Shifty Fox Eyes” is the term used to describe those fast, darting looks suggesting dishonesty or avoidance. These are microexpressions, hence what is happening is that, before the mask is taken off, you may get a glimpse of their true feelings.

A sly and overconfident smile, the “Cheshire Cat Grin” hides the person’s actual motives. Many covert narcissists smile continually, which guarantees that they are seldom seen as a threat to others.

A “Medusa Stare” is a piercing and focused glance meant to intimidate, scare, or captivate you. Their eerie appearance serves to surprise you and throw off your equilibrium. Their best goal is this. If you ever come across someone who is staring at you intensely, and you do not know them, and they do not break eye contact even after you look them straight in the eye, you most likely deal with a psychopath or covert narcissist. Since eye contact, the length of it, and the intensity of it are such unstated criteria of our society, which are baked into our cake, it is impossible to put into words how intense this may genuinely be. Should you doubt me, you should go out and try it. For the aim of this experiment, choose someone to watch and direct your attention onto. Though they are gazing back at you straight, keep your eyes glued on them. In a crowded setting, one should pay great attention to the rules on eye contact. People have criteria for the quantity of eye contact we should create with other people and for how long we can keep that eye contact as well as a physical comfort zone that should not be broken by others. People who are narcissistic deliberately violate these guidelines.

2. Pantheon of Pantamines, also referred to as Body Language

One reads “David and Goliath”. Stance: (control) hovering above you to project power and total control.

“The Woman Who Wears the Clothes of a Wolf” The dishonesty was their outward kindness and humility used to hide their predatory nature.”I Saw the Godfather Too Many Times” refers to the employment of wide, exaggerated hand movements that transmit an unconscious threat of domination as commonplace.

“The Really Annoying Mime” is a performance wherein you gently copy your behavior to create a false feeling of closeness. Mirroring your body language causes you to build false confidence and connection with the other individual.To knock you off balance, enter your personal space and then leave without a trace using a technique often referred to as the Hummingbird: (control and punishment techniques). Using your physical proximity — or lack thereof — as a kind of punishment. This group would suit the conduct sometimes characterized as push-pull. When you stand either too far away (to show your contempt) or too close (to show your authority).

You are better the more times you spend with my darling eating. They hide their goal to control by assuming a tiny stoop or lean forward, therefore presenting themselves as approachable and humble. In essence, what they are doing is hiding who they are — just as the wolf in Little Red Riding Hood hides.

“The Stone Statue Pose” (closed stance) is a sort of silent punishment wherein one crosses their arms, turns away from the person, or adopts a stiff posture to express discontent and create tension.

Within the framework of rejection, “The Dramatic Door Slam” describes the act of storming out with an audible slam to transmit a loud, unspoken message of scorn or punishment.

“The Over-the-Top Shrug” (Feigned Ignorance) is when someone lifts their shoulders to an outrageous degree to create the appearance they are ignorant of the circumstance.

Within the framework of passive aggression, “The Sigh Heard ‘Round the Room” is the act of sighing too loudly, world-weary, to convey irritation without using words.

3. Reverberations of Thought — the Voice’s Tone

Within the framework of “Understated Malice,” “The Sweet Poison Whisper” describes a tone that is calm and sugar-coated but might hide manipulation or critique.

Like the attractive but impoverished donkey, “The Eeyore Plea” is a deceitful voice that employs a kind and sad tone to compel you into following their requests.

Regarding self-esteem, “The Black Hole of Silence” describes an ominous and relentless silence dragging you into thoughts of self-doubt and terror.

“The Villain’s Pregnant Pause” is the deliberate, tense pause used to disrupt another person before a response is offered.

4. The power of place — that is, the utilization of space and environment

“The Throne Room Move”: (control) Assuming the most dominant stance in the space, as if a monarch or queen surveilling their court.

“The Dramatic Stage Exit” is the act of leaving a middle-of-a-discussing room suddenly to give you the impression that you are not the target of their attention.

Under the passive-aggressive “The Sherlock Holmes Prop Play,” one fiddles with objects like glasses or a pen to express irritation or superiority.

5. The Invisible Grip (Touch)

With the goal of generating a false sense of closeness, “The Velvet Handcuff” Touches that are soothing and friendly are a type of dishonesty.

“The Ghost Hug” is a kind of punishment when you are left emotionally confused and physical affection is withdrawn from you.

“The King’s Pat on the Head” is a condescending and derogatory gesture that passes for encouragement.

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6. The Costume of Control

“The Glamour Gambit” is the employment of clothes to dazzle, threaten, or seem superior.

“Modesty as a Mask” is the conscious use of understatement to create trust or sympathy.

“The Trophy Display” is the custom of using accessories or visual symbols to demonstrate one’s position or power.

7. The underlying current in emotional energy and aura is referred to as

“Silent Storms”: (Passive-aggression) (hostile) Passive-aggressive tension that makes people uncomfortable but no overt conflict results.

“The Calm Before Control” is the act of seeming to be peaceful or disorderly to give the idea that others are also unreasonable or chaotic.

The phrase “Chaos Conductor” describes the method of gently raising emotional intensity meant to cause individuals to become unstable or provoked.

8. Pacing and timing — often referred to as the Clockwork Trap

“Interruption as Invasion” is the technique of interrupting you in the midst of a speech meant to undermine your confidence.

“The Waiting Game”: Designed to make you feel as if you are either dependent or unimportant, deliberate delays produce

Within the framework of deliberate overreaction,“Tempo Tantrums” are huffs, exaggerated sighs, or gestures meant to draw attention and declare power.

Those who are covert narcissists are really skilled at influencing others without words. Since it happens so fast, you won’t even be able to remember what caught you.

Dealing with a concealed narcissist in a safe and efficient way only requires using a hazmat suit, or even better still.