Psychology: Do you especially care about what others think? Do you know how to change it?

In life there is always such a person, they will be particularly concerned about the views of others. And therefore in dealing with others often become cautious, obsequious, afraid of where not to do a good job, leading to other people's criticism and accusations. Even some times the other party has not shown any dissatisfaction, they themselves are first nervous and sensitive, like a child who is afraid of being blamed for a mistake, the inner fear of not being able to.

This kind of people's inner over-sensitivity, ultimately, is the inner inferiority complex in action, is not confident of their own performance. They themselves will be aware of this humble psychology in the invisible caused a lot of pressure on themselves, but after all, this problem comes from the heart, they want to change but have not been able to do so.

The author will share a few ways today, hoping to help those who care too much about the views of others, to properly relieve the tension and pressure inside.

One, don't be afraid to take responsibility

Everyone in social life, must assume certain responsibilities and obligations, whether rigid or flexible, whether it is explicitly ordered or internal moral. When you need to take responsibility to stand openly and boldly, to courageously take their share of responsibility. Brave people are worthy of admiration for themselves and others, regardless of the size of the mistake, regardless of the weight of responsibility, as long as it requires us to pay for it, be brave.

Any problem we should use courage to face, dare to face not only to let us better to solve the trouble, but also to help us reduce the inner apprehension and self-reproach. People who are not afraid to take responsibility will not be cowardly inside and will not have the idea of self-condemnation. We are open to face, dare to take responsibility, and how to worry about other people's criticism, care about the views of others.

Two, don't add drama to yourself

Many times we care too much about the views of others, in fact, is just to add drama. Although it is said to be a crowning glory, not enough to convince the public, although this problem comes from the heart, they want to break free from change, but still undeniable, too much care for others is to add a monologue to their own inner drama.

Because most of the time the attitude given by others is not as serious as we think, or even others simply do not care what results our actions can bring, it is ourselves who are overestimating the attention and opinion of others about us. This kind of mentality and behavior is in a way adding drama to ourselves.

Everyone is busy with the minutiae of their own lives, and everyone's focus is on themselves, so few people really want to spare the energy and attention to themselves. Don't overestimate other people's opinions and add drama to yourself, this kind of psychology will only be futile to cause trouble to yourself and add pressure.

Third, the focus of attention to shift to their own

Life is their own, our focus of attention should be more on themselves from beginning to end, we should live in their own rhythm, rather than living in the views of others, which is the behavior of putting the cart before the horse. Instead of always caring about what others think, we should pay more attention to our own sensitive and fragile heart, which needs our attention, understanding and care.

Shift your focus and understand that life is more about you and less about others. Life is only once, you want to live for yourself and care so much about others, life is not tired is strange.

The first thing you need to do is to take care of your own energy, which is already so tedious.