Physical Complexes, Problems in the Relationship With Others

Every human being is unique and different at the same time, and physical beauty is the unique image that you want to convey to those around you, just to know how to transfer it to your advantage.

Therefore, the effects of emotional tension, internal conflicts, various worries, dissatisfaction, frustrations, reach the surface through the skin faster than they can find expression in words.

Each of us has small flaws, even the top models! But when these anatomical details turn into real social handicaps, it's time to react! What are these shortcomings that disrupt our existence?

Where do they come from, how can they affect us, and especially how can someone overcome them? How, for example, can a person considered short by all the statistical criteria of normalcy see himself "tall" in his own eyes?

Is society responsible for deepening such differences from some ideal templates? Does this complex affect perfectionists or psychologically immature people?

How can a person who is too short or too tall overcome this inconvenience of form and succeed in imposing himself through what individualizes him?

Physical discomfort, narcissistic diseases

I'm too thin, too fat, too short, too tall, my nose is too big, my fingers are too thick, my legs are too short, etc. I've certainly heard them around, of course in the happiest case where we didn't tell them ourselves in front of the mirror.

Such reactions do not come from an inferiority complex, but so-called "narcissistic diseases." These have their origin in certain physical peculiarities, an unusual first name or last name, a certain social group that we reject.

All this has to do with self-acceptance or, rather, this inability to accept ourselves. Problems with narcissism occur especially in times of crisis, such as adolescence, or in times when resistance decreases, such as mourning or dismissal.

Self-esteem is formed from childhood

Such problems of non-acceptance have their roots in childhood and are therefore found in our socio-educational heritage. The framework for loving ourselves is formed early on, through the child's ability to be loved by his parents. Parental acceptance and support help to build a positive self-image.

Loss in idealized templates

Especially through the media, society sets some rules of beauty that tend to standardize our choices. For many people, being different from the norm is hard to bear. However, it is important to remember that these rules do not create problems in themselves, but can only strengthen or weaken existing self-esteem.

Gain respect for yourself!

Rejection of your own body will cease when your self-esteem is regained and you will learn to accept yourself as you are. What are the first steps?

• Look around more realistically, accept that you are an ordinary person, not a template.

• Stop blaming the complexes you have. If you didn't get a job, it wasn't because you were too tall, but most likely because you didn't prepare for the interview. That is the plan that needs to be improved.

• Learn to look at yourself as a whole. Don't get lost in the details. Your beauty as a human being does not only depend on the space you occupy vertically.

• Ask a trusted person in your entourage what they think of you. Listening to it really, you will see that a possible problem of height is put in the last places or it is not even mentioned.

If the degree of suffering is too great you can rely on the help of a psychotherapist.

It is important to be aware before all that it is not the height that sets the tone for the score you perform in everyday life. Then you will be able to turn your dissatisfaction into a quality.

A very short woman who manages to impose herself and be "tall" could shock even more. Likewise, a very massive woman who emphasizes her femininity could get over the impression that she intimidates any human breath she comes in contact with.

Statistics: 60–70% of teenagers are not satisfied with their body.