"Mom will bring me the baby, you live alone" son announced his decision, father who beat his wife for 24 years cried

The host Bai Yansong once said: "Can a man who beat his wife or girlfriend still be called a man? I don't think so. As for whether he can still be called a man, everyone has his own opinion. Isn't a man hitting a woman just because you are strong? Actually This kind of behavior is very boring."

Hands-on, like extramarital affairs, are often only the difference between zero and countless times.

The first time he betrayed you and did something wrong, but he didn't have to pay for it. He easily got your forgiveness. He would feel that it's no big deal, and you won't leave him for this. Therefore, the second time he betrays you, he will be more courageous.

After being forgiven by you for the second time, he will not hesitate when he does this kind of thing for the third time or even countless times. At this time, if you are arguing with him and asking for a divorce, he will be surprised and accuse you of making a fuss.

The same is true of hands-on. When he hits you for the first time, you give in and satisfy his unreasonable demands, which is equivalent to telling him that you are afraid of his trick, and that he can get what he wants by this trick, then, The next time you don't listen to him, he will make hands-on the first choice without hesitation.

The writer Tang Zhifeng once said: "Behind one person's fearlessness in marriage, there must be another person who is constantly humble without dignity."

At the end of his humility, he was hurt so much that he had to take every inch and take advantage of it, and he felt that he had the ability to live with his wife. For you, such a marriage is not happiness, but pain, a quagmire.

"I'm thinking, should I take my mother away, let her live with me and stay away from my dad? I know my dad's temper, he's addicted to his hands, I can scare him when I'm here, but when I'm gone, I won't Certainly."

When it comes to the relationship between his parents, Fang Chen feels very distressed.

01. Outside the cowardly nest, these six words are used to describe my dad, and it is more suitable;

"It stands to reason that as a son, my dad also made money to raise me. I shouldn't say that to him, but I really don't feel good about him. After all, he bullied my mother too badly. Outside It's a cowardly nest, these six words can't be more suitable to describe my dad."

The so-called cowardice outside means that Fang Chen's father, Mr. Fang, has an extremely humble attitude in interpersonal communication, whether it is dealing with his boss and colleagues, or dealing with relatives and friends. Fight back.

"I remember one time at a party, a relative drank too much, so he mocked my dad in front of everyone, and told his son, don't imitate my dad. If he is like my dad, don't recognize him. He can't afford to lose this man."

The reason why Fang Chen remembered this incident was that his father, Mr. Fang, was really unworthy of being a husband.

He didn't dare to refute the relative, so he had to bury his head and work hard with shame and toast with others as if he didn't find anything. However, when he got home, he played with his prestige and scolded the relative, scolding and angering He vented on his wife, picked up things and threw them at his wife, including the tea that Fang Chen's mother had just brewed for him, and the hot tea splashed on Fang Chen's mother's arm, scalding a large piece of skin.

"My mother didn't say anything and stayed in the house honestly. She knew my dad's temper and told me in advance not to mess with him, just for fear of being affected. When I get angry, even if my mother tries to please him again, she will become his punching bag, and even I have been beaten."

02. My mother always said that it was for me not to get a divorce. In fact, it was directly related to her own cowardice;

Fang Chen is 26 years old this year. As far as he knows, the first time his father beat his wife was when he was two years old.

"For my grandma, my grandma is not a good mother-in-law. Although my mother is very virtuous, she takes care of her parents-in-law as soon as she enters the door, and takes care of them very well. She gave birth to a son to the Fang family. My grandma still dislikes my mother and always looks for me. Mom trouble."

I heard from my uncle that after my mother was beaten for the first time, she ran back to her parents' home. As the only daughter in the family, my mother has three brothers. , going to Fang's house to give her mother justice, and her eldest uncle asked her to divorce her.

"My mother said that the reason why she didn't divorce my dad and didn't let my uncles go to the house to make trouble is because I was worried that I wouldn't be able to grab my custody, and that I would become a child of a single-parent family without my father. If you protect me, I will be wronged, but I think that might not be bad. My dad even beats me when he loses his temper, what can he protect me? How could he be better than my uncles!"

As for grabbing custody, although Fang Chen's grandmother would be sloppy and her father was unreasonable, her grandparents and uncles were not vegetarians, so they might not have a chance of winning.

Fang Chen's mother refused to divorce, and stayed at her parents' house for two days. Seeing that no one came to pick her up, she missed her son, so she went back alone. After that, when she was beaten again, she didn't even dare to sue. Not only that, but her mother told Fang Chen more than once not to tell her grandparents and uncles that she was beaten, otherwise their life would be even more difficult.

"My mother always said that it was for me not to get a divorce. In fact, it was directly related to her being too cowardly. Ren Shan was bullied by others, Ma Shan was ridden by others, my mother was too weak and was bullied by my father badly. Well, when I grow up, I can support her."

03. Should I take my mother away, or give my dad another chance, it will give me a headache;

"Xiaochen, your mother is hospitalized and beaten by your father. Hey, your father is really nothing. He always hurts his wife. Your mother is so pitiful."

After receiving a call from a neighbor, Fang Chen was angry, and Fang Chen's wife was also very angry after hearing it, and gave her husband an idea: "I see, Mom can't continue to live with Dad, otherwise it will be too dangerous. It just so happens that I am pregnant, and I need someone to take care of me and take care of my baby, or else, take your mother over and let your father live alone in your hometown, reflect on it carefully, and taste the feeling of not having your wife by your side."

Fang Chen was very grateful for his wife's idea, so he went back with his wife to visit his mother. Then, in the hospital, in front of his mother, he called his father, who was still playing mahjong, and told him his decision.

"Mom brought the baby to me, and you live alone. Since you don't cherish her and keep hurting her, let's have a taste of being alone!"

After listening to his son's decision, Mr. Fang wanted to be rude at first, waving his fists and threatening his son. However, because he didn't know how to maintain it, although he was only in his fifties, he was already much older than a young man who was 1.7 meters tall. His son couldn't compare, Fang Chen was not afraid: "Believe it or not, touch me, I really won't care about you when you get old."

Hearing this, Mr. Fang didn't dare to be rude, but instead started to cry, arguing that his son would not take his wife away, and promised not to beat his wife again. Seeing that his father, who had beaten his wife for 24 years, cried, Fang Chen was not soft-hearted. However, Fang Chen's mother felt that it was not good to do so, which made Fang Chen feel that he was not a human being inside or outside.

Fang Chen felt a headache and didn't know if he should take his mother away and separate them according to his previous thoughts.

04. Woman, your weakness and incompetence in marriage will harm both yourself and your children.

Roland said: "We can't pin all our happiness on others. Others can only understand and help us to a limited extent. In fact, there are always more people in the world who are the icing on the cake than the people who help in the snow. If you are strong, others will encourage you; if you are weak, few will help you."

It is not uncommon for men to beat their wives. While condemning the unworthy man, people will be more sympathetic to the woman who dares to resist and try her best to get out of the sea of ​​misery, and will support her in protecting herself. As for those weak, incompetent, A woman who is allowed to be bullied by her husband will at most be saddened by her misfortune and angry.

If you want to fall, even the gods can't save you; if you want to grow up, you can survive in desperation. If you allow him to bully you and are forced to this point, you still dare not leave him. No matter how much others sympathize with you, they will not be able to change your decision, nor will they be able to force you to leave!

If you want to get out of the sea of ​​misery and live a happy life, you must rely on yourself. At most, other people can encourage you, give you advice, and cheer for you, but they cannot make decisions for you.