mental internal friction

The so-called "spiritual internal friction" is actually a conflict between people's self, and different self conflict with each other in the inner world.

Since there are various conflicts within people, it means that there must be various divided subjects and objects in people's hearts, that is, divided self.

In fact, everyone has more or less self-conflict, that is to say, within each person, there are conflicting and various split selfs.

How did these split selves come about?

The deep-seated reason stems from the fact that people know themselves and the world, which is a very long process in itself, and there are various levels of cognition.

As we grow older, we are constantly gaining new life experiences that constantly refresh our view of ourselves and the world, and each view represents a kind of self.

The so-called "self" refers to people's views of themselves and the world (also called "ideas" and "thoughts", which all say the same thing). habits and habits.

Everyone has old ideas; new ideas; ideas brought to us by books and knowledge; ideas brought to us by others to educate us; ideas that we have developed gradually from our own experience... Behind the perception, there are various kinds of people's selves.

Note that even if there is a new view of things, because of the physiological structure of the human brain, the reason for the inertial thinking pattern, the reason for the habit, even if people have a new view of the same thing, but the new view does not Immediately replacing old beliefs will not immediately change your behavior, and there is often a long way to go from "knowing" to "doing it." Therefore, there is the wisdom of "unity of knowledge and action". It is precisely because of this that some self-conflicts often originate from the conflict between the new view and the old view, often manifested in the fact that people want to change themselves, but they are powerless and disappointed with themselves. One's own disappointment, if there is no new view, people will not "self-denial", this is a better "me", which is denying the "not good enough" of the past.

This is also a very common self-conflict.

Therefore, people's self-conflict is essentially a variety of views that have not been unified and conflict with each other.

That is to say, in the process of growing up, people do not have a very high-level view to unify their various low-level views, which are disorganized, fragmented, and divided. The various selves are also unclear, complex, and conflicting.

for instance:

People will come to the view that "life is beautiful..." because of a good experience.

People will also have the view that "life is suffering..." because of encountering something that makes them painful.

Obviously, these two views are contradictory and conflicting with each other, which means that there is both a feeling that "life is beautiful..." and a feeling that "life is miserable..." at the same time. These two conflict with each other. self.

Such conflicts exist in people's hearts. In the process of human development, there has been a debate between "pessimism" and "optimism", which is enough to prove the universality of this self-conflict.

The so-called "advanced" view is that "beauty" and "suffering" are normal, and both are life experiences that life must have.

People with this view combine the two conflicting views, and they can not only enjoy the beauty of life, but also accept the hardships they encounter. Thus, the inner conflict may gradually disappear from the heart of such a person.

Of course, there are higher-level views than the above view, for example: the Buddhist saying "everything is an illusion", if people have this view and can achieve the unity of knowledge and action, then "everything is an illusion" It can help such a person to unify all views, so everything becomes an illusion, and such a person will naturally not have any inner conflict and spiritual internal friction due to the "illusion".

In fact, the process of life is the process of growth. The core of "growth" is expressed in how we view ourselves and the world.

We collectively refer to “how to look at yourself” and “how to look at the world”: cognition.

Therefore, internal conflict and mental friction are actually a cognitive problem. Insufficient life experience and experience, coupled with lack of learning and growth, the source of conflict is actually ignorance.

The process of life is actually the process of constantly expanding one's own cognition. The development direction of expansion is to form a very unified view of oneself and the world, so that all of one's views are surrendered to a core idea. This is called: the integrated self, the mentally healthy person is the integrated self who no longer has frequent self-conflict.

Therefore, internal conflict and mental friction are nothing more than a lack of unity in cognition and self-contradiction with regard to oneself and the world.

Banshan students believe that although people's ego has been integrated and there is no internal conflict, this is only a relatively sound personality in psychology, but there is still a considerable distance from wisdom. There is another threshold waiting for people to recognize, which is the relationship between the self and the world, and the relationship between the individual and the whole.

Taoism says: "Heaven and man are one", Banshan believes that this may be the highest level of view of human beings. The individual is classified as a whole, and even the word "I" is gone, and there is no distinction between subject and object. Come to "My Conflict", He Lai's spiritual internal friction, this is the most complete and ultimate integration.

To put it simply, people who are mentally attrition are just too self-important, and everything is "mine...", which of course conflicts with all existence, all the time.

In fact, nothing is mine and nothing is not mine. This is the perspective of God, and it is also the perspective of the universe. The beings who truly do this will have internal friction.

It is definitely better to enjoy life than to enjoy oneself, and to free life from ego, people will discover miracles in their own lives.

Integrate the ego first, then forget the ego.

This is the path for people to gain wisdom. People must first know themselves before they can truly understand the world and truly see what kind of connection there is between themselves and the world.

In fact, practice is to practice integration, integrate one's self, and then integrate one's relationship with the world.

I wish you all a happy practice!