Identifying the Hidden Signs of Emotional Abuse
Are You Experiencing Emotional Abuse?
In a relationship, signs of abuse start to show
When love should be growing, it begins to wane and ebb
Behavior controlling, nicknames changing dirty names
Victims gaslighted or simmering in shame
You're isolated and mistrustful of those around
Criticism cloaked as 'helpful advice' you hear the sound
As secrets fill your life it's hard to move forward
And sadness turn your joy to a heavy grey cloud
Know that these signs need not stay part of our day
If you feel controlled it's time to take your voice and fly away.
One day you felt content, soul and heart in tune
The world was yours to take, and you were in the mood
But suddenly something changed, and you can't quite explain
A darkness has descended, no more joy remains
Your partner seems to know, but never says a word
The atmosphere is heavy, your heart is filled with dread
The days of being happy, now seem so far away
And you can't imagine life, when it will be okay
It's hard to tell what's happening, your heart can't quite explain
The subtle signs of emotional abuse are so hard to contain
At first you felt confused, what was happening to you
But now you can see it, and it's so hard to make it through
There are the words of criticism, and the silent treatment too
The little digs and jabs, that keep coming out of you
The blaming and the shaming, the guilt and the fear
It's hard to feel any joy, no matter how hard you try
The honest truth is hard to face, it's hard to let it in
The pain you feel is real, no matter how hard you try to pretend
Your partner doesn't believe in you, and you can't meet their demands
No matter what you do, it's never enough to make them proud
The constant threat of punishment, and the fear it brings
The moments of guilt and shame, that you can't do anything
You start to question yourself, and your very worth
And you're scared to stand up for yourself, you don't have the power
It's hard to see the truth, that this is emotional abuse
But the truth is, it's real, and it's hard to make it through
The only way to heal is to recognize the signs
And to take the steps to get to a safe and healthy place
It's hard to leave and start anew, but you must have the strength
To find the courage to be yourself and finally break the chains
It's time to trust yourself and develop your own voice
You can start to heal, and find freedom and joy
It's hard to overcome, but you must find the courage
And to recognize the signs of emotional abuse
The courage can be found in your heart and soul
And it's the only way to make it through and be whole
Are you experiencing emotional abuse?
Your heart and mind are in a state of confusion
The subtle signs of manipulation and confusion
Making it hard to even get through the day
Early signs of a toxic relationship
Are you being taken for granted and not given respect
Are you feeling unappreciated and always getting dismissed
Do you feel like your feelings are not being heard
The signs of emotional abuse are all around
It's not always easy to tell when it's happening
The emotional abuser has the upper hand
And can make you feel like you're nothing
Are you being controlled and always monitored
About the Creator
Som Dutt
Author & certified coach specializing in covert narcissism, NPD, and narcissistic abuse recovery, with 7+ years of experience guiding 1,400+ survivors. @ Embrace Inner Chaos
Read my blog on https://embraceinnerchaos.com
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Your story was truly inspiring, and I'm grateful to you for sharing it with all of us. Your writing really struck a chord with me, and I'm excited to see what else you have in store for us in the future.