How To Stop Taking Offense and Start Living: watch out, the article changes consciousness

You can't offend anyone. They may only take offense to you

How quickly do we break into curses when a hurrying driver splatters us with a lot of mud from the nearest puddle?

And with what pleasure do we tell our friends about former lovers who ruined our life, although they were around for at most two years?

We give in it to that pleasant process utterly.

Because:

To be a sacrifice is not the burden of man, as is commonly believed. To be a sacrifice is a choice, a perverse pleasure. It's also contagious. It is impossible to offend someone who is not offended. Do not fall for that trick.

In the book, the author discovers a different way of looking at our universe. After reading it, you will no longer need psychotherapists, because everything will fall into place in your head.

Why is it pointless to be offended

To understand the essence of radical forgiveness, it is necessary to assume that in addition to material objects, in the world there are also spiritual ones.

There are bodies and there are souls — a person consists of both. The soul comes to earth to learn something. Time after time, it will take over the body and live a human life until it becomes fully enlightened. By the way, I don't know if you noticed, but there was a strong whiff of Buddhism.

The author proceeds from the fact that the soul agrees with other souls in advance about the lessons that they will teach each other, about the knowledge that they will receive from communication in the coming life.

When a woman regularly meets a husband who is cheating on her from time to time — you need to stop grumbling at men and look in the mirror. There she will see the person who drew unpleasant events into her life. A series of affairs — that was what her soul needed to learn something and to heal.

You may say that she could never understand what her problem is and never fix it. So her personal life will be cyclical. Until she realizes that it's not about men, but about her, about her attitude to herself, to her family, she will attract more and more "such teachers".

Why people constantly change their marriage partners, each time recreating the same dynamics of relationships. They do not understand the message conveyed by one spouse, and find a new one who tries to convey the same message again.

Don't blame the person who brought you the message. Read what it says.

We only get what our soul wants

As strange as it may sound, but the unfair dismissal, the betrayal of a friend and excruciating health problems you played on your own mind and provided in advance.

Before your soul took on a body, it mapped out your path. And life will only teach you the lessons that you need. It will take you to a new level of awareness and spiritual growth.

The law of resonance helps us bring into our lives people who resonate with our own problems so that we can heal. For example, if a person's problem is loneliness, he tends to attract spouses who eventually abandon him. In a sense, these people are his teachers.

But let's think about the children. They definitely are hostages of the family in which they were born. It is good if the parents are psychologically healthy and generally kind people, but what if they are not? Is it necessary to intervene, to help this child, or is everything as it should be?

Help if you can't restrain yourselves. Probably, your intervention could be also part of the"soul plan". But the hard life of the poor guy is still his personal path, which gives him lessons, qualities of character, a view of the world.

Today he suffers from the cruelty of close people, and tomorrow he helps other children who are in trouble. To understand the problem and get on the path of help, you need to feel this pain yourself.

But let's turn to relatively well-off families. Even there, adult children tend to blame their parents for the cruelty of parenting methods, inattention and dislike.

In "Radical forgiveness" it is said about this:

People tended to blame their parents: "If I had had a different father and mother, I could have become a whole person". It is a mistake. All of us could choose a different parent. But other parents would have given us exactly the same experience, because that's what our soul wanted.

If you had followed a different path, you would have become a different person. Pain, suffering, just like happy moments, achievements - everything shapes us. And before we were born, we already described whom we want to become. Our development is not a spontaneous process.

Thank the person for doing the dirty work

Imagine how much love there must be inside that person for you, if he assumed to teach you such a painful lesson.

Being bad, cruel, and vicious is harder than it sounds. That`s what people get paid for with health and peace of mind.

When in a relationship with another person, we have trouble-betrayal, offensive words, breakup — we blame a partner. We see there the quintessence of our troubles. He or she is the concentration of evil and all bad qualities on earth.

Colin Tipping suggests turning 180 degrees, changing the viewing angle and looking into yourself. Why did this happen to me?

Oh, no! Just don't blame yourself, don't think it serves me right. Just think — why did we plan such an experience for ourselves? What should we have realized in this situation?

When a person does something bad to us, we think that meeting that person was just a misfortune. It does not occur to us that perhaps we ourselves (at the level of the soul) attracted that person and unfavorable situation for a certain reason, and if it were not for this person, it would be someone else.

Successful people hold the reins of their lives. They don't sit on the couch in the hope that God's grace will fall on them but they take matters into your own hands.

To be a sacrifice is to take the position of a child, to blame life and circumstances. This is unproductive and generally causes only pain. The last one shortens life and steals health. Do you need it?