How to Overcome Your Anxiety and Be Mentally Secure

Perspective is key. By keeping at the back of your mind, both your morals and goals close to you every single day. You’ll end up having a mindset that allows you so much freedom from your own thoughts and provide you with the security to achieve whatever you want.

I never value other’s opinions of myself.

But as soon as I feel a bit judgement being cast from someone on me, and my anxiety starts kicking in, what I do is I straight away is just think of a happy thought or just think to myself. ‘I’m ok, I’ll be ok” which cancels it out.

I truly believe in positive affirmations as they really do work for me.

How to use positive affirmations?

The key with affirmations is just knowing when to do them. Which isn’t when you wake up or before you go to sleep, but when you're encountering adversity.

My goal with this article is to hopefully, get you into that same mindset I’m in. Which is where there’s no one’s voice but my own. Where it’s super stable, secure, peaceful and honestly, just feels great.

Another benefit of this mindset is it naturally blocks out distractions and is super helpful when needing to get work done. For teens, this is incredibly resourceful as it’s so difficult to focus when you’re brain is going at 100 mph.

The problem everyone’s facing is no matter how hard they try, for some reason, they can’t stop anxiety from creeping its way into your mind.

You being to feel judgement being passed over you when someone glances your way.

Or your imagination starts running wild for no reason.

Or you feel self-conscious when you hear someone laugh across the room.

However, anxiety presents itself, I’m empathetic to how frustrating these feelings can be.

Which is why I really want to share how I got into this secure mental state that keeps me peaceful and remarkably happy.

How do I get into this mindset?

Understand one thing. It’s hard, and I mean really hard to be happy in a world that’s naturally unhappy. The problem with happiness is it’s so inconsistent. If you depend your happiness on anything or anyone, ultimately it’ll either leave you or leave you disappointed.

The reason why I’m not only so happy but always happy is that I base my happiness on no one but myself.

If you can do this, then I have no advice for you. You’re where you need to be.

But I realize it’s not that easy. Its a process.

To begin that process write down a memorize 5 morals, rules or beliefs that you always want to stick by. Here’s some of mine.

1. Always express gratitude

2. The world doesn’t owe you anything

3. Don’t expect anything from anyone

4. If someone’s mean to me, that shows more about their problems, than mine

5. Kindness wins

It doesn’t have to be just 5 but make that the minimum. Me, I have tons more. The secret is to keep them religiously near you. Whenever you’re in a difficult situation, unlock these morals and just recite them to yourself. For example, during a test, stress can very quickly mess with my head and reasoning, but then I just take a 5-second break, breath and tell myself, “it doesn’t matter” or ‘It’ll be ok”.

What this trick does is it allows you to never fall down a rabbit hole of thoughts, or get too attached to any one thing or moment. Additionally, it helps trigger the next step.

How to keep negativity out.

I said it already, but I’ll repeat it, we live in a naturally unhappy world. There is so much negativity you could practically drown in it. I promise you you’re going to have negative thoughts. That’s natural. The problem is our brains just let these negative thoughts creep into our heads and reak havoc.

Seriously, one negative thought can ruin your whole day.

The trick to keeping it out is by equipping yourself to do 2 things.

First, know what a negative thought coming in your mind looks like and acknowledge that it exists.

Second, counteract that thought with a positive thought, or mantra to cancel it out.

Technically it doesn’t require much work. The secret lies in doing it consistently every single time you feel a negative thought coming near you.

You counteract it with a positive thought or one of the morals you wrote down (remember those). The more you have, the easier it’ll be to rob your negative thoughts of their power.

If you consistently do this, believe me; naturally, you don’t begin to care about other’s thoughts. The best part is these negative thoughts come less and less often. It’s essential to always be aware of these thoughts though as being lazy and letting your thoughts run around will ruin your peace.

If you learn not to care so much, you can end up achieving so much more.