Don't expect will not be disappointed

I admire those people who can endure, hide their pain so deeply, and only share happiness with others. In fact, the sadness in the heart has already been flooded, but it seems that nothing has happened, the years are good, and everyone can laugh. Sometimes I don't know whether to "expect" or not. I want to say everything, but I still can't say anything.

I just sit like this, I take what life gives me, I watch what I take away, I don't know if I should expect to get it again after I lose it, I don't know what kind of wish I should make on my birthday, I don't know At the end of the year, should you expect good luck in the coming year, or even think about you? Because I am not very good at dealing with the emotion of "disappointment", as I grow older, I will always become more and more tolerant, and many things are not really solved in the end, but forget it. People often say, "If you don't have expectations, your life is full of surprises when good things happen."

After all, the bigger the expectation, the bigger the disappointment

I believed in these words for a while when I was in a bad state, so I put them into practice. Don't expect anything to happen. I feel that "no desire is rigid", I feel that I should "be unmoved", I feel that when I minimize my expectations, I can also become smaller, and the rock of suffering falls from the rock wall, I can flexibly dodge. But I didn't get happier because of it, I even got worse. Shrinking expectations may have many benefits—more realistic and sensible, but perhaps none of those benefits include making people happy. The older you get, the more you understand that the only person you can trust in this world is yourself. Gradually, I learned that I no longer expect anyone or anything, and I learned to carry everything by myself, whether it is bitterness or pain, even tears, I can only swallow it in my stomach and never tell anyone easily.

Some people say: People suffer because they expect too much from others and have no demands on themselves. Once people have expectations, they have obsessions and desires. When that person fails to meet your expectations and requirements, you will gradually become more and more disappointed and more painful. Gradually, I learned that I no longer have expectations and fantasies about a person. I know that the love and tenderness in the relationship will not be given to me if I say it. What surprises are there to come? If a person who really loves me doesn't understand the expression I want to talk about, what is the meaning of what I say? If you really love someone, how can you be indifferent in the face of enthusiasm.

After I try so hard to do one thing, the result is not what I want, this kind of situation can really drive people crazy. I slowly learned to accept it, and I don’t have any high expectations for people. Maybe life is like this. If you can’t get it, forget it. If you don’t deserve it, then forget it.

At that time, I felt that there was still love to give to you, and there was still a lot of love to give to you. When I slowly learned not to love people and things, and to have high expectations, I found that my pain was reduced, my mind was calm, and I finally No longer care about, no longer compare. As an ordinary person, I have learned to slowly see the truth of life, let go of expectations for others, and let go of expectations for things, because there will be no expectations, and there will be no harm. After all, from today onwards, I will not be disappointed again, because I will no longer have high expectations for anyone. You never thought about my feelings, or rather, you thought about it, but you still think that your own happiness is the most important thing.

The movie "July and Ansheng" said: "If you step on a person's shadow, that person will never leave for a lifetime". In the real society, how long is a lifetime, who can stay by whose side forever? Those who like to have expectations for others are because they pin their happiness and happiness on the other person. As everyone knows, as the old saying goes, relying on the mountains to fall, relying on everyone to run, only relying on yourself is better. Don't expect the lover beside you, he is 100% perfect lover. Don't expect your marriage to be a 100% happy marriage. If you don't say anything, that person will understand your thoughts. If you don't do anything, that person will properly arrange everything for you. Even if you are not perfect, you are not 100%, so why do you ask others to do things that are 100% perfect for you? ? Maybe my disappointment in my relationship is because my expectations for my lover are too high. There is only one person in this world who will not let yourself down, and that is the excellent, calm and confident self.

Later, I finally let go of my expectations of others, because if I don’t expect, there will be no disappointment, and I learn to focus more on my heart, improve myself, and improve myself. All thoughts are hidden in the bottom of my heart. Live peacefully, eat, go to work, exercise, sleep, and be orderly. Stop spending energy to find someone to put your feelings into, as long as the person in front of you is not annoying, and you can chat with him occasionally, as for where the other person is, whether you have you in your heart will not make you hysterically quarrel with him, It will no longer make you sad, unable to eat or sleep, that hot and dry period has passed.

Later, it's not that I don't like you anymore, it's that I really waited for you for a long time and you didn't respond. Whether you pretend to be confused or don’t understand, don’t come back to me again. It’s like a cold meal, if you reheat it again, it won’t taste the same.