Adapting to a new reality.

T.B.I. is short for Traumatic Brain Injury. Most are under the impression that only those who have served their country get these injuries. However this is far from true. I am 35 and never served. Yet I live with this invisible illness daily. I am writing this to inform and help others like myself understand this injury and also help their loved ones. Having a T.B.I can have a big impact on loved ones, especially significant others.

What exactly is a Traumatic Brain Injury? According to the Mayo Clinic definition, Traumatic brain injury usually results from a violent blow or jolt to the head or body. An object that penetrates brain tissue, such as a bullet or shattered piece of skull, also can cause traumatic brain injury.

Mild traumatic brain injury may affect your brain cells temporarily. More-serious traumatic brain injury can result in bruising, torn tissues, bleeding and other physical damage to the brain. These injuries can result in long-term complications or death.

So how is it that I now find myself living with a Traumatic Brain Injury? The answer is simple, I was born with a rare issue that caused my brain to continue to grow. The disease is called Chiari Malformation. It is not curable, it can however be managed. So eight brain surgeries, a massive hemorrhagic stroke, and six months wearing a cervical halo collar has left me with parting gift of living with a T.B.I.

Mood swings and emotional lability are often caused by damage to the part of the brain that controls emotions and behavior. Often there is no specific event that triggers a sudden emotional response. ... In some cases the brain injury can cause sudden episodes of crying or laughing.

I can't speak for anyone aside from me so I will use what I went through and live with to better explain things that can happen due to a Traumatic Brain Injury. For instance, I went through a mourning period. I had a big loss, I lost myself yet I was alive.

I was having an ambiguous loss. An ambiguous loss is a loss that occurs without closure or understanding. This kind of loss leaves a person searching for answers, and thus complicates and delays the process of grieving, and often results in unresolved grief. An ambiguous loss for example is when the person is there, however maybe in a coma or frozen state, or they are no longer who they once were.

As stroke and near death survival patient, I should have just been grateful to be alive. However For almost Three years. I asked why, I should have asked why not? Especially knowing I will always bounce back.