when i "was a woman," i garnered considerable attention –
some unwanted, some critical, some obsessive,
some violent, some worshipful, and some oppressive –
i didn't ask for any of it.
as my gender adapted to changing wants and needs, so
did behavior change toward me.
sometimes better, sometimes worse.
i adjusted accordingly.
a lilt here,
a blush there.
still, too many sorry's.
do you see it eroding?
confidence,
not only for men,
but stolen from girls like
innocence, so that little boys might fly ahead.
now that i'm "a man," i see how i am assumed to be the knower.
i model how i wish this manifested for me as "woman."
i soften my voice, and listen to Others. empowering not stifling,
so that men with power, perceived or not, might follow.
About the Creator
kp
I am a non-binary, trans-masc writer. I work to dismantle internalized structures of oppression, such as the gender binary, class, and race. My writing is personal but anecdotally points to a larger political picture of systemic injustice.
What do femboys look like
Is a femboy gay? It’s a question that echoes across social media platforms, online forums, and everyday conversations. The short, crucial answer is: not necessarily. Assuming so is one of the most common and harmful misconceptions about a vibrant and diverse subculture. To understand why, we need to untangle the distinct threads of gender expression, gender identity, and sexual orientation three concepts that are related but fundamentally different.
By David Femboy5 days ago in Pride
Is femboy fatale legit
Scrolling through Instagram or TikTok, you’ve likely seen the striking, gender-bending aesthetics of Femboy Fatale. Models draped in fishnet tops, vinyl pants, and boldly designed graphic tees flood your feed, promising a unique blend of punk, emo, and avant-garde style. But as you hover over the "Add to Cart" button, a critical question pops into your head: Is Femboy Fatale legit?
By David Femboy5 days ago in Pride
Comments (7)
Beautiful work 💖
'stolen from girls like innocence, so that little boys might fly ahead.' This line just breaks my heart with its truth. I see echoes here of your comments the other evening. That just makes it all the more precious.
I relate deeply to this. I've been an in between for such a long time that softness is something I very much value. Beautifully done KP. -r
The world definitely needs more people like you. Loved your poem!
kp, this was so emotional and striking. Your perspective and personal experience is so important, and I love how you were able to encompass such a nuanced perspective in your poem. I hear a lot of stories about trans men/trans mascs adjusting to the ways and the changes in how they’re treated when being perceived by society as masculine, and it’s endlessly fascinating and devastating to understand what it all means. That line about confidence being stolen from young girls so young boys can fly ahead was particularly striking to me, as was the line about being perceived as “the knower” due to your masculinity—phenomenal writing. ♥️
Very well written kp. This was an important piece to put out there as it is true that, sadly, women are perceived as weaker than men. You have a vantage point from both angles and can speak to it in a greater depth than I am may be able to. But I do see it and it disturbs me. Because in my view and perception, we are all equal nobody is lesser than anybody else. Thank you for sharing these thoughts. This was a very good read. I enjoyed seeing your pictures and your different faces. I like how you said, but it’s all me. Meaning that the core person inside is still the same. I like that thought. And it’s nice to see you after the many conversations you and I have had in messenger. I hope that you are doing well.
This was written so beautifully, with so much strength, your strength coming through!