Women Who Grow Quieter as They Age

Women Who Grow Quieter as They Age

Genre: Poetic Commentary / Feminist Reflection / Literary Nonfiction

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Women Who Grow Quieter as They Age

They don’t vanish.

They dim.

Like sunsets slipping behind crowded skylines—still burning, still vast, but out of view.

They are the women who grow quieter as they age.

Not because they have nothing to say,

But because no one bothered to listen when they spoke loudly.

Once, they were daughters with mouths full of questions.

“Why can’t I climb trees like the boys?”

“Why do I have to sit like this?”

“Why does everyone tell me to smile?”

Later, they were young women with thunder in their throats.

Their voices were sharp, opinions well-formed, laughter unchecked.

But the world did not echo back.

Instead, it taught them the cost of volume.

Speak too loud, and you’re labeled “emotional.”

Too firm, and you’re “angry.”

Too ambitious, and you’re “intimidating.”

Too visible, and you’re “too much.”

So they learned to soften. To pause.

To make room for egos in boardrooms.

To whisper ideas that others shouted and claimed.

To laugh a little less loudly.

To nod in meetings even when they disagreed.

Time passed.

Careers came and sometimes went.

Children were raised, or not.

Marriages endured, ended, or never began.

But through it all, the quiet settled.

They stopped explaining themselves to strangers.

They stopped trying to be likable.

Stopped shrinking into spaces that were too small to begin with.

From the outside, it looked like silence.

But silence is not the absence of power.

It is containment.

These women carry fire in their bones.

They have survived the erosion of identity,

The theft of credit,

The burden of invisibility.

They walk into rooms and aren’t seen the way they used to be.

No lingering gazes. No questions about their passions or dreams.

Just assumptions: she’s someone’s mother, someone’s wife, someone’s past.

But they are still becoming.

They read late at night with a cup of tea and notebooks full of poems they don’t show anyone.

They sketch, garden, dance barefoot in the kitchen to 80s music when no one’s watching.

They speak to themselves with the tenderness no one else ever offered them.

They write emails full of wisdom no one replies to.

They nod at younger women across offices, subways, sidewalks—

and hope they are seen before they too grow quiet.

Their quiet is a choice now.

Not a consequence.

It is the sound of reclaiming energy.

Of refusing to explain why they no longer tolerate small talk or emotional labor.

They’ve buried parents. They’ve broken cycles.

They’ve carried generations forward without being thanked.

They’ve stitched strength into the hems of their days.

They remember what it felt like to not be chosen,

And now they choose themselves.

They speak less—

But when they do, their words are earthquakes.

You will not find them trending.

You won’t see them dancing for algorithms.

But they are building lives that no longer depend on applause.

They don’t need to be watched to be worthy.

They don’t need to be loud to be powerful.

Listen carefully, and you’ll hear them—

In the pause between conversations.

In the glare that stops a room.

In the laughter that isn’t for show.

In the quiet strength that dares you to underestimate them—again.

They are not fading.

They are gathering.

They are rising in silence.

They are the women who grow quieter as they age—

not because they are disappearing,

but because they are finally making space to hear themselves.