Why Taking It Slow Is the Only Way to Find a Cherishing Partner

By taking things slowly, you can effectively filter out those who truly cherish you. If you desire a healthy and stable relationship, do not easily accept just anyone's advances.

🧭 Temporary Needs Are Not a Foundation

Some people are simply temporarily lonely.

Others are just momentarily attracted, or perhaps momentarily vulnerable, and in that particular moment, they desperately need a relationship to fill a void. Once that fleeting feeling passes, nothing remains.

These short-term needs of the other person shouldn't justify sacrificing your true feelings.

🤝 Companion vs. Committed Partner

If you just want someone to accompany you and keep you from being lonely, then we can stay as we are now. We don't need to formally enter into a relationship.

We are both free to find suitable partners elsewhere.

A committed relationship inevitably comes with responsibility.

But if you want me to take this step further and become your partner,

You need to be absolutely sure you can accept that love isn't always perfect.

You will see my flaws.

We need to accept each other's emotions, sensitivities, anxieties, and tempers.

We both need to sacrifice some freedom in exchange for the long-term stability of the relationship.

The shift is from one person's self-centeredness to two people's mutual expectations.

Are you sure you can handle all of this? If you're afraid of losing your freedom, it means you're not ready yet. You can back out now before anyone gets hurt, and we can pretend nothing happened and still be friends.

I will not pursue anything more than friendship with you,

and similarly, you need to accept that I can be close to others.

But if you are sure you want me,

and you are willing to nurture this relationship together,

then we can start with a face-to-face, open conversation about commitment!

🛑 Pressure Is a Sign of Immaturity

If you feel pressured after hearing this and want to avoid the commitment, it means you're not ready for a "serious relationship." You simply want to enjoy yourself, so let's just be friends.

That's a positive outcome; it filters out someone who isn't prepared. I can be happy and free on my own, instead of ambiguously getting together and then breaking up casually.

Don't let me risk my life and heart for your fleeting interest.

To all single people:

Take it slow. It will definitely filter out a lot of insincere people.

Thank you for reading!