WHOLE builds WHOLE.

Your Daddy isn’t here, I can only imagine, the void that you feel seems unbearable to fathom

For whatever the reason, the time or the season, remember the good, but dear not forget me son.

I am whole and I am here, your feelings and responses are valid but there’s no need to fear.

God upholds you with his righteous right hand, so you can grow whole and feeling in total demand

Life won’t be easy for you and for me, but it doesn’t have to be hard if you feel whole and complete.

Society will call you a fatherless man, just know you come from a whole egg that says ‘Yes, I Can’

It’s natural to miss him, it’s ok to feel sad, but I AM your Parents and he’s still your Dad.

Rearview mirrors are necessary when driving, but stay focused on what’s present so that you always stay thriving!

Don’t look over me or around me, searching for something that’s not there,

putting your whole identity in the hands of absence is what leaves you empty and feeling despair

I don’t have all the answers and I’ll never be a man, but I am a woman who stayed, doing more than the best I can.

I am not all emotional and I am not that easy, there’s a bar you must reach and that is the key

Never discredit, devalue, or disrespect, Your life is blessed, filled with joy; you will make an positive impact on another fatherless boy.

As you grow into an adult man, may you honor God as a caring dad and an attentive husband.

when you do wrong or can’t get it quite right, don't blame my presence or your dad’s absence,

take responsibility for the choice you made and own the consequence

Yes, I am not perfect and Yes, I have made plenty of mistakes, but something I won't do, is talk bad about your dad or be filled with hate

So, do me a favor and don't forget me. The whole one who taught you whose you are and how to be.

So don't forget the one who stayed up late worrying about your welfare and woke up early to feed your belly

Don't forget the one who sustained a smile to mask the tears so you can smile and shed no tears

Don't forget the one who battled the negative voices in her head and heart so you can live in peace

Don't forget the one who stayed overlooking you while you slept to catch all your bad dreams

Don't forget the one who sacrificed spending quality time with you to work multiple jobs

Don't forget the one who washed the clothes, dishes, cleaned the house and made sure you were always up to par

Don't forget the one who protected your heart and mind from the evil spirits of the world

Don't forget the one who said ‘I love you’ in spite of the fact that you remind of her the man who bruised her

Don't forget the one that shared her secrets in moderation so you can feel safe and secure that she would hold yours in total confidence

Don't forget the one that got on the floor to play with you when she felt drained and exhausted

Don't forget the one that encouraged you when you needed to hear it the most

Don't forget the one that gave you tough love with a balance of the soft

Don’t overlook the one whole you need to focus on to make you whole.

Never underestimate the power of a woman, especially a single woman raising a man’s soul (c).

“When we strengthen our boys and men, we stabilize our girls and women’(c)NH

Love Mama,

The Single Mom’s Coach

Author, Raising John’s Boy